Well, I don't know what you looked like with hair and I'm not a 20 year old girl, but a 24 year old one... I think you look attractive just how you are now.
Cam: you're a lucky guy!
Hey, I'm new to the sly fraternity, I'm also 20 and sly due to MPB like you. I can relate to what you are talking about... Walking around the uni campus there are not many sly brethren around and there are girls who reject us for it, however such girls are not worth your time anyway. I honestly think you pull off the sly image very well, i'd advise just to go out and have some fun make the most of being 20 and eventually you will come terms with who you are = confidence
she cares much more about my personality, ability to have conversation, and most importantly the way I make her feel when we are together... hair doesn't make a difference to her...
I imagine it would be tough attracting a girlfriend if you end up looking away any time they look at you. I'm also not one for self deprecating humor. I never feel the need to poke fun at myself for a shaved head, especially around women. If anything, if there are comments I smile, rub my head while saying something like "Thanks! It's freakin awesome! I love it" and continue whatever was going on. When I see people pick on themselves like that people appear to smile along out of courtesy and it's usually followed by a little bit of awkwardness. I understand that this is dealing with women and not 20 year old "girls". I have yet to meet a "woman" that made any kind of deal about the hair on my head or lack of. I've had it long, bad, shaved, buzzed... they still want to experience the power of cheese. Ghost... Brother... You need to pick yourself up, GRAB YOURSELF BY THE STONES and realize that you're a good looking guy. Your looks are attractive but your aura and confidence is not. Once you realize and accept that fact, all your self-esteem problems will be behind you. ? Could you be consumed about the hair loss and how it LOOKED and not how it looks now? That process seems to have been rough for you. Now what are you going to do? Seems pretty cut and dry to me. Sit around and feel sorry for yourself over something 50% of the male population will deal with at some time or another OR be a man, accept it and use it to your advantage. Women and people in general find belief in oneself is extremely sexy. Whereas doubt indicates weakness, confidence shows strength. It's human nature; pre-programmed into our DNA. Try this: Think about what you’re good at. Ask yourself: what are the things people like about me? Begin focusing on these qualities every day. Thinking about your attributes will help create a positive image of yourself in your own mind. Visualize yourself as the man you want to be. Every day, project to yourself the image of the confident guy you wish to be. Close your eyes and see yourself getting whatever you want. Imagine yourself in different situations; See yourself striking-up conversations with hot women who are all over you. Picture yourself standing tall, feeling bold, powerful and confident. Focus on how easy it is to have these women pursuing YOU.This kind of daily exercise might seem silly at first but believe it man. You can convince yourself anything you want. Your brain, not your shaved dome is what's holding you back. Take control. If you WANT to be a confident person, you will be.
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