i need a little confidence booster.

[PowerOfCheese]

Ghost...  I want you to change your avatar picture to something that doesn't look sad. You see yourself every day like that when you get on here. Take some new pictures, try different kinds of lighting, flash, no flash... be creative.

Lets see something that projects an image of confidence, even if you have to fake it for now.

[The Scottish Ambassador]

You look fine to me. But I know what depression is like cos I have been there. If I can help send me a personal message

[HardKor]

Methinks Cheese & Duff are the voices of reason here; maybe they can take over for Dr Phil? (after he retires)

Dr.Phil needs to shave his head!  If you're already balding, I think it looks much hotter if you just shave it all off!

[MLNHD]

Bravo! for Wil87's "....we are so much more than a receeding hairline!"

I know as a middle-aged man I'm not in the same place with hair loss as you younger fellas who are letting mpb get you down.  (I was young once, too, though.)  But if I could reach inside your heads and turn off the switch that says "My value is in my hair" or "My hair is me," I'd be flippin' switches right and left.

The only way out of the dumps over mpb that I know of is to accept the reality of it, and then do your best from there.  For many of us the best is to be rid of it, by making the bold choice to go Sly.  Ghost, you've done that and you look great.  You are genetically programed to go bald.  You can't change that.  But you can change your attitude.  Your bald head is not holding you back.  Your attitude is.  I don't mean for that to sound harsh, but the reality is that only you can change what goes on between your ears.  And when you do, everything else will fall into place.  Hang in there and keep working on it.      

 

[Razor X]

Big pecs and biceps are a great distraction from the shadow on your dome.  Trust me, no one will even be looking at your head! 

[DuffRyder17]

Big pecs and biceps are a great distraction from the shadow on your dome.  Trust me, no one will even be looking at your head! 

true, I found that alot of girls will take muscles over hair

[marty22]

Duff is right. At my gym; the bald guys (could be ages 20-30) are always being surrounded. My two trainers are bald and the women (besides those looking for a free workout tip or two) are always hanging around them.

[TANK25]

Ghost you have a very cool look. Bro I know guys who would love to be bald, but they don`t think they have the dome for it.Bro you pull it off big time!

[DJ_Bald]

Ghost you got nothing to worry about man. Your a good looking dude...you look like you could be in a band or something.   I agree on taking some new pictures...Ive seen better ones of you.
As far as girls are concerned...try dating someone older than you...like mid-20's...girls who are older and a little more mature are way hotter than some of the 20 year old bimbos...(plus they are still hot )
And they will care a hell of a lot less about your hair loss. Just act confident. Even if you dont feel it...just act it and soon you will be it.  And I agree with RazorX...hit the weights...you will instantly feel better.

[capthappy8p]

Hey Ghost I know exactly what your going through man Im 22 and my hair is falling out, and I was flipping out about it man, i wore a hat everyday cause i thought i looked better with it on then off. I talked to my family about the transplants believeing that was my answer for my confidence and looks.... i Had actually signed up for the proceedure! but i droped out of it 2 days before and I have never been happier, Those transplants would have ruined my life!! Im talkin about scars and the other natural hair fallin out...

After joing this site I had found new confidence in myself and I know people always look at me and I too think Oh god they are lookin at my head, but I ignore that voice same as when i think people are starin at me when im buying under eye diminishing creame or face exfolient (yeh im tryin to take care of my skin so what? lol)

But lemme tell you a short story... Last summer I worked for a special ed school working the summer school program, I had my head buzzed, not as short as people are doing it here and u could def tell i had MPB but my hair was fairly light. When i looked in the mirror i cringed when i saw a bald streak goin up the middle of my head front to back.... But anyway back to the story There where ALOT of good lookin girls there and only 4 men in their 20s... so thats pretty good odds. One of those guys prefered the same sex relations so I know he wasnt gonna try hittin on these girls... Tho the other 2 are both Lacrosse players Lean buff and had great hair... I felt super insecure on the inside, but on the outside I always was happy upbeat and always tried to make good conversation and oozed confidence. One day one of the gym teachers stops me and says one of the girls thinks im cute and funny.
This blows my mind! im like who! It was this girl Rebecca the hottest girl there! so i talked to her after work one day and she said she thinks im cute and sexy and way more intresting then the other guys who really had no personality and all were quiet. So i Dated her for the rest of the month but had to call it off cause she lived nearly 1 and a half hours away and i couldnt afford the gas...

All im sayin is keep yer head up man, always show confidence trust me my friend!! If u need any more boosting stay here we got ur back lol!!!! Sheeze i wish u lived here we could do some damage at the bars! those women won know what hit em!

[Mikekoz13]

Hey Ghost I know exactly what your going through man Im 22 and my hair is falling out, and I was flipping out about it man, i wore a hat everyday cause i thought i looked better with it on then off. I talked to my family about the transplants believeing that was my answer for my confidence and looks.... i Had actually signed up for the proceedure! but i droped out of it 2 days before and I have never been happier, Those transplants would have ruined my life!! Im talkin about scars and the other natural hair fallin out...

After joing this site I had found new confidence in myself and I know people always look at me and I too think Oh god they are lookin at my head, but I ignore that voice same as when i think people are starin at me when im buying under eye diminishing creame or face exfolient (yeh im tryin to take care of my skin so what? lol)

But lemme tell you a short story... Last summer I worked for a special ed school working the summer school program, I had my head buzzed, not as short as people are doing it here and u could def tell i had MPB but my hair was fairly light. When i looked in the mirror i cringed when i saw a bald streak goin up the middle of my head front to back.... But anyway back to the story There where ALOT of good lookin girls there and only 4 men in their 20s... so thats pretty good odds. One of those guys prefered the same sex relations so I know he wasnt gonna try hittin on these girls... Tho the other 2 are both Lacrosse players Lean buff and had great hair... I felt super insecure on the inside, but on the outside I always was happy upbeat and always tried to make good conversation and oozed confidence. One day one of the gym teachers stops me and says one of the girls thinks im cute and funny.
This blows my mind! im like who! It was this girl Rebecca the hottest girl there! so i talked to her after work one day and she said she thinks im cute and sexy and way more intresting then the other guys who really had no personality and all were quiet. So i Dated her for the rest of the month but had to call it off cause she lived nearly 1 and a half hours away and i couldnt afford the gas...

All im sayin is keep yer head up man, always show confidence trust me my friend!! If u need any more boosting stay here we got ur back lol!!!! Sheeze i wish u lived here we could do some damage at the bars! those women won know what hit em!

Great story Cat..... once again proving that the hair doesn't make the man.

[oldkookskater]

Ghost - I was reading your story and like a lot of guys here, I also started losing my hair at an early age.  It was definitely tough for me to deal with, too.  My dad (who was balding) wasn't very constructive with some of his comments and I worried about my hair a lot.

I dated a few different girls, only one of which told me "If your hair falls out, I won't love you anymore.  I can't love someone who's bald."  She was so not worth it (trust me - she had her faults - I just didn't bring them up to her).  The girls I dated before her AND after her (obviously, including the girl I married) NEVER once said anything about my hair or it falling out.  Girls worth keeping are the girls that are more concerned about how you treat them, rather than how they can use you as some type of accessory (but don't get me wrong - you're a handsome guy).

I've only really lamented my hair loss over the years because I have a really fair complexion and there's generally no tanning - just burnt or pale.  So... from a protection standpoint, yeah, I missed my hair.  As far as looking better when I had hair or I didn't, I don't see it.  I know I was better looking when I weighed 35 to 40 lbs less than I do now.  And that, I can do something about! 

I strongly urge you not to go the way of hairplugs.  I've known two guys that had hair plugs.  With all due respect to the guys that do this, the first guy I knew - his was bad; it looked like they inserted armpit hair onto his scalp.  The second guy's hair looked slightly more natural, but when he'd sweat these gnarly, "V" shaped scars would show through the hair on the back of his head.  I think as some other guys have posted, it limits the way you can wear your hair - can't really go back to shaving due to the gnarly scars and you can have other hair fall out around the plugs. 

[capthappy8p]

yeh oldkookskater ur right, i almost went that route and then i got wise and did reearch on em... plus i had some words of wisdom from marty here on this site

[marty22]

And have my words of wisdom worked out so far, Cap?  LOL

[capthappy8p]

oh yeh, ive steered very clear of any transplant proceedures or anything... i think i have embraced my MPB now i just need to take that step to fully sly and embrace that!

Btw thanks marty!