ridicule

[BALDANDRE]

I think he looks great too Andre...but like buuckwheat said...he needs to talk to his parents.  I would be happy to give him all the info he needs...but he really needs his parents OK.  I would feel terrible trying to talk a kid into something when he is really at a vulnerable age.  You remember when you were 14-18  hell  you would try anything once....even in dispite of your parents.   

TEEN!  You are more than welcome here bro....but please please ...save everyone heartache and talk to you parents....Please!

Without a doubt...but I was going on the thought that his parents are cool with it..

but his friends give him flack!

[buuckkweet]

thanks buckweet, i understand, but honestly, they have realized that i am old enough to choose how much hair i have, if any at all

If that is the case, Great!  With great respect I DO think you need to concentrate on having fun and being a young man.  I fully understand that you want to do adult stuff.  Take your time and enjoy being a young man.  Growing up too fast can be a real pain.  

[teenthatshavessometimes]

I think he looks great too Andre...but like buuckwheat said...he needs to talk to his parents.  I would be happy to give him all the info he needs...but he really needs his parents OK.  I would feel terrible trying to talk a kid into something when he is really at a vulnerable age.  You remember when you were 14-18  hell  you would try anything once....even in dispite of your parents.   

TEEN!  You are more than welcome here bro....but please please ...save everyone heartache and talk to you parents....Please!

Without a doubt...but I was going on the thought that his parents are cool with it..yes, my friends are the ones that have always been on my case!
but they will adjust

but his friends give him flack!

[buuckkweet]

The only difference between you and me is that I've been 14 a lot longer than you!

Yes, I'm still a teenager at heart. 

You seem like a pretty nice dude, BUT! You still need plenty of frequent insight from your parents first!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Razor X]

Look young Brother,  You really NEED to get some input from your parents.  

Those are the adults, who's opinions should take priority over our's here at SBG.  

I'm not ripping on you, I'm telling you the honest truth.  

You are a young man who has a long life ahead of you.  

You are at that age where you need your parent's guidance more than ever.

My sentiments exactly.   If your parents are OK with it -- and you say they are -- and your school is OK with it, then you just have to go with what feels right for you.  If you really want a shaved head badly enough, then stick with it.  But if you find that it's creating a rift between you and others your age, it may not be worth it.   Only you can decide that.  Remember that it's only a haircut andyou can change your mind about it at any time.  

If you decide that the time isn't right to be sly, don't worry about it. Let the hair grow back until you're ready.  You can always shave your head when you go to college.  There isn't as much pressure to conform once you turn 18 -- and trust me, it isn't as far off as it may seem to you right now.

[teenthatshavessometimes]

lol, well, your right, i should enjo my time as a young man and i am, a SLY YOUNG MAN!

[Timmay]

lol, well, your right, i should enjo my time as a young man and i am, a SLY YOUNG MAN!

Exactly, like I said you are way too young to have to deal with issues like that.  You are only a teenager once in your life...so enjoy it.  Experience things....just have fun!  Once you get older....you realize there are alot of responsiblities in life and that has a tendency to take away some of the fun.  You are YOUNG ....enjoy it while you have it.

[teenthatshavessometimes]

thanks for the advice, it really helpful, and i get where all of you guys are comming from:D

[Mikekoz13]

Chris-

       Read what it says under the license plate in my signature please.....I've never wanted to be like everyone else...nobody should. Be yourself and like yourself and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

[teenthatshavessometimes]

cool, and i really am not like everyone else, but its still a little hard, but i will get over it

[slyinglide]

lol, well, your right, i should enjo my time as a young man and i am, a SLY YOUNG MAN!

Look sly bro...I don't mean to sound like an I don't care about what your going thru, but I have read probably all of your posts on the forum, and you keep flipping back and forth.  Stop it...stop doubting what you want... Stop asking other people to tell you it's going to be alright....We don't know how it is in High School anymore, but I can tell you is this....I went to high school, and I was ridiculed for the music that I listened to.  I was ridiculed because I had very LONG Hair,  I was ridiculed for not wearing the COOL jeans... I was ridiculed for having a drunk as a father...I was ridiculed because I liked to roller skate.....I was ridiculed for the crappy car that I drove.....Hell I could continue the list forever....

I didn't care what the other kids said..  I had 3 really good Friends, and we hung around with each other and we all had each others back.....They were the only kids in school that I cared what they thought........I don't talk with anyone from high school except my 3 best friends.  The other ASS-HOLES i don't care about.

Schools wasnt a bed of roses for me then and school probably hasnt changed a whole lot since, but one thing that has not changed is that every one will be put down, looked down upon..or ridiculed for one thing or another.

If you want to have a shaved head, then DO IT.

[teenthatshavessometimes]

lol, well, your right, i should enjo my time as a young man and i am, a SLY YOUNG MAN!

Look sly bro...I don't mean to sound like an I don't care about what your going thru, but I have read probably all of your posts on the forum, and you keep flipping back and forth.  Stop it...stop doubting what you want... Stop asking other people to tell you it's going to be alright....We don't know how it is in High School anymore, but I can tell you is this....I went to high school, and I was ridiculed for the music that I listened to.  I was ridiculed because I had very LONG Hair,  I was ridiculed for not wearing the COOL jeans... I was ridiculed for having a drunk as a father...I was ridiculed because I liked to roller skate.....I was ridiculed for the crappy car that I drove.....Hell I could continue the list forever....

I didn't care what the other kids said..  I had 3 really good Friends, and we hung around with each other and we all had each others back.....They were the only kids in school that I cared what they thought........I don't talk with anyone from high school except my 3 best friends.  The other ASS-HOLES i don't care about.

Schools wasnt a bed of roses for me then and school probably hasnt changed a whole lot since, but one thing that has not changed is that every one will be put down, looked down upon..or ridiculed for one thing or another.

If you want to have a shaved head, then DO IT.

thnaks. that makes a lot of sence to me. thank you

[Timmay]

Dont you just hate it when the waist band on your jock strap rides up and sticks out above your shorts......lol

[teenthatshavessometimes]

random, but 

[zzaapp]

Even though it has been a long time, I can relate to a lot of what has been said here.  Ridicule, isolation, feelings of inadequacy, uncertainty...

I was a slide rule carrying, pocket-protector wearing nerd, and during the "British Invasion" years, when all the other guys were growing their hair, my lifer-military dad demanded that my hair be kept short, like a man's hair should be.  I definitely didn't fit in with the popular group.  But like Slyinglide, a small circle of friends was all I really needed. 

And, for inspiration, try reading The Desiderata.  Even though it was written over 80 years ago, it still holds a lot of truth.

DESIDERATA

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others,
even to the dull and ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be
greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career
however humble;
it is a real possession in the
changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you
to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit
to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore, be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham,
drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.


by Max Ehrmann
©1927