Why do family and friends hate my slyness?

[Razor X]

Occasionally if I see her on a weekend when I haven't shaved, she'll make a comment like "Your hair looks good that way" but that's about the extent of her comments these days.

Amen!

RazorX, that could be my mom!!

I think it applies to most moms.  Haven't heard of one yet that liked to see her son's head shaved bald.

[Koaa2]

Remember it is your life and not your parents, although many parents try to push their values, ideas and hopes on their children, it is yours to live for yoruself.

Might be a good time to sit down with all the naysayers and explain to them that this is your decison and that they will have to accept it or not.

[Rafter]

Outsider,

Stand tall when they're calling you out.
Don't bend, don't break, don't back down.
Stand your ground and tell the neighsayers -
It's My Life

It's my life
It's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
(It's my life)
My heart is like an open highway
Frank said
I did it my way
I just wanna live while I'm alive
It's my life

This is for the ones who stood their ground
For Tommy and Gina who never backed down
Tomorrow's getting harder make no mistake
Luck ain't even lucky
Got to make your own breaks

It's my life
And it's now or never
I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
(It's my life)
My heart is like an open highway
Frank said
I did it my way
I just want to live while I'm alive
'Cause it's my life

Better stand tall when they're calling you out
Don't bend, don't break, baby, don't back down

It's my life
And it's now or never
'Cause I ain't gonna live forever
I just want to live while I'm alive
(It's my life)
My heart is like an open highway
Frank said
I did it my way
I just want to live while I'm alive
I just want to live while I'm alive
it's my life!

[JDog]

We could a learn a little from Jon Bon Jovi

[outsider82]

Hey outsider....dont worry about speeding up your shaving process right now.....focus on what makes you feel good.  The speediness and dealing with razor burn will come later.  Just get in the mid set that this is what YOU want to do, Not what I want you to do or what ANYONE ELSE in here wants you to do.  We are just here supporting you because you have shown an interest in becoming a full time Sly Bro.   We will support you in either way.......but its natural for us to push for you to go all the way bro.  YOu are experiencing the good reasons already.  So why not make it permenant?

Thanks Timmj

Since the last couple of posts I had some time to think, and i have noticed change in the way i'm thinking. This is good thing as its boosting my self confidence, which has always been lacking. It has given me the chance to actually be me instead of wanting to be someone other people want.

I'm glad I have guys like you arround to help.

Currently my parents are away up in tropical Far North Queensland (lucky ducks!) when they get back I'm going to show up at their place, freshly sly  , if they whinge and moan about my hair, i'm going to tell them that its my head, i like it as does everyone else and i'm going to keep it.

Thanks again,

Out

[joergHH]

Very good post!

J

[Rob]

we've all had the moans from our parents I should think.  My mom has just about given up, but if ever i don't shave for a day or two she always takes the chance to tell me how nice it looks when u can't see my scalp!

But I like it sly, and shiny, and its me I gotta please, no one else.  So I please me.   In the end, like the other bro's said, it's 'memory' versus 'growing up'.  Even at 37 I'm sure my mom still sees the little boy of five, and the hair I used to have when i was younger. 

Becoming sly is a sign of independent thinking, and of confidence.  It IS a major change in attitude, as well as appearance, and sometimes it takes family a little longer to see it than friends.  But eventually, when they see a stronger, more confident person shining through, they'll except the slyness as being a part of the real you.

Stick with it, bro.

[BALDANDRE]

Since the last couple of posts I had some time to think, and i have noticed change in the way i'm thinking. This is good thing as its boosting my self confidence, which has always been lacking. It has given me the chance to actually be me instead of wanting to be someone other people want.

Awesome bro....

THAT'S what going SLY and being SLY is ALL about!

[Cy]

some folks don't adjust to change well.

my family is just starting to get used to seeing me sly and it's been almost 7 years since i went sly.

[Mikekoz13]

hey Outsider82-

             Sometimes the uninitiated need time to adapt. My Dad also has MPB and when I shaved mine his exact words were, "What are you nuts?!!?" Funny thing is.... I have only slightly less hair than him and I have none!

            My 6 year old daughter and 8 year old nephew don't believe that I ever had hair. My daughter just said to me yesterday, "Daddy, you would look funny with hair".
            last week my nephew saw a 13 year old wedding photo of me when i still had tons of hair. He wanted to know "who's that man with my Aunt Cheryl". When my sister-in-law told him it was me, he didn't believe her!.

                     One more thing....... don't worry about what others think..... be yourself Dude-

                                                 Mike

[KentBaldGuy]

I know how you feel. I have terrible problems with my mother. I have no problem with most people liking it or not liking it, but most of them keep their opinions to themselves and I am more than happy with no reaction.

But my mum is a totally different situation. I did turn up back home with a #0 and she went very quiet. I was later told by my stepdad that she had got really upset and had said that if I went back like that again she would disown me. Now I am very close to my Mum, emotionally (but not physically - they live 150 miles away) so I can't afford to risk it. I like my bald head but not that much, and the shave when I get back home is very satisfying

So I stay addictively shaving my head until its time to pay a parental visit and I have to stop shaving a get a weeks growth or two on the scalp before I get there. Its a bit of a nuisance but I will have to stay doing it and carefully planning and scheduling my visits.

Tony

[stemikger]

Out you look outstanding sly.

I'm a lot older then you and all I could say is I have no answer other then, if it really makes you happy, then just do it.  I'm sly for a few days now and my wife is getting ready to draw up the divorce papers if I don't grow it back. 

Just be who you are and whatever concequences come from it so be it.  You shouldn't feel bad for being yourself.  Don't let em bring you down Bro. 

Good Luck

[Razor X]

Nobody's mother ever likes her son's shaved head.  If you live far enough away where you don't have to see her every day, then your solution sounds like a good way to keep the peace.  Just don't give in to the emotional blackmail.  It's your decision, nobody else's.

Hang in there, stemikger.  She'll come around.

[parky]

I wanna ask fellow sly guys this, Why do family hate my slyness?

I'll tell you a quick story of how things have been till now since going sly.

The first time my parents saw me was at my Mother's birthday party. Needless to say they were shocked. My Dad the hypocrit had the nerve to tell me that my hair was "too short!". My mum joined in on similarly on the rants. My dad shouldn't even comment in my opinion since he has MPB and is pretty much bald too. He doesn't shave his head but he at least buzzes it to a number 1.

Ever since then, i've been a whimp and every time I have to see my parents i don't shave for three or four days so it has some growth on it. I am pretty much sick of having to please them, but don't have the heart to disappoint them.

This weekend my brother and his girlfriend told me that i should have hair. He initally said it looks great on me.

All in all, I like being sly, I think it looks great on me and on fellow sly bros.

Any words of encouragement for a sly guy that is feeling disappointed by my family and friends reaction?

Out

You look great mate.

[allegrodonfuoco]

My mom was the same way at first.  I was just starting college when i began buzzing my hair.  She would make similar comments (about how it looked "better" if I hadn't cut it in a while).  Of course, whenever she said something like that I would cut it even shorter the next chance I got!  It seems like with parents (or at least mothers) everything turns into a battle being parental control and child's independence.  The hair is just a symptom of that underlying conflict.

I live close to my parents and see them often, and they never say anything anymore.  Maybe my parents are just quitters (which works out well for me), but once it was clear their comments wouldn't change me, they seemed to stop.  haha