Alopecia For 32 Years. Ready to Shed Wig !!!

[andrew]

I'm not sure what I would tell everyone after showing up sly ...   I guess I wouldn't be lying if I said I shaved my head but the reality is that I ditched the rug, which I'm sure they'd know.   I suppose the best way to smooth it out is to joke about it, one way or another ....   

[herronm]

Welcome Andrew!!!  I can't say it any better than Sooner Steve.

[JDog]

SoonerSteve that is such a great story, thank you for sharing.

Another great example of the Freedom and Power that Slyness brings.

Andrew you have a great group of guys here who will provide you with the support you need.

 

[Kajun]

I'm not sure what I would tell everyone after showing up sly ...   I guess I wouldn't be lying if I said I shaved my head but the reality is that I ditched the rug, which I'm sure they'd know.   I suppose the best way to smooth it out is to joke about it, one way or another ....   

andrew...just tell them the truth..."the truth shall set you free" would be a good thing to remember in this case.

[andrew]

That was a GREAT story SoonerSteve.  I do appreciate your taking the time to share that.

I went away 2 weeks ago, and yanked it while away.  Going away again in 2 weeks and am planning to do it again.  This gives me a chance to notice reactions while not dealing with the people I know.

I really want to go for it, permanently....

[JDog]

Andrew I think that when you are ready that you will do it. There is no stopping it now. The sly train has been set in motion and only a matter of time until it arrives at the station.

All the best bro.

[Professor Melon]

  Dear Andrew: yes, tell the truth, joke about it, and talk going sly up as much as possible. The others will immediately grow bored/indifferent and never bring up the subject again. It means much more to you than to anyone else.  Freedom from the rug-and-rip-off should far outweigh your fear of possible peer disapproval. Been there. When I fell on Memorial Day, suffered a gash on the dome that required 15 stitches, and could not shave my head for 10 days, I was truly miserable and appreciated how closely identified with my bald image I now am. Never wore a piece, but spent many years on supplements and spraying thinning hair into place, always afraid of a gust of wind or convertible. Your anxiety should drop off as you go about life as what you are, what God (or nature) intended you to be. Let us know how it goes. All best, Professor Melon

[herronm]

Professor, welcome back.  I missed you.

[Tyler]

Professor, welcome back.  I missed you.

Same here!

[Sooner Steve]

I'm not sure what I would tell everyone after showing up sly ...   I guess I wouldn't be lying if I said I shaved my head but the reality is that I ditched the rug, which I'm sure they'd know.   I suppose the best way to smooth it out is to joke about it, one way or another ....   

Andrew.  IF they ask, tell them the truth.  It is amazing for me - I thought all these years I was fooling the majority of people and that no one knew I was wearing a rug.  I was only fooling myself.  You have no idea how many people actually knew.  I was the only one getting fooled.  Invariably, those people that did know will say something like, "I love your new look - you should have done that years ago."  Those that didn't know about the rug - I just let them tell me how great my new look is.

I had a meeting with some long time clients this morning.  They had not seen me since my change.  However, I had gathered by certain comments that they had made in the past that they knew my "secret".  The first thing they did (they are sisters) when they saw me was tell me how great I looked.  Great ego boost.

If someone doesn't like the change - so what.  BUT I GUARANTEE YOU WILL GET A 99% POSITIVE REACTION FROM PEOPLE.  AND WHO DOESN'T LIKE TO GET A GOOD COMPLIMENT.

As said by others, truth is the best policy.  I like myself better this way - and isn't that what is important?

[Sooner Steve]

That was a GREAT story SoonerSteve.  I do appreciate your taking the time to share that.

I went away 2 weeks ago, and yanked it while away.  Going away again in 2 weeks and am planning to do it again.  This gives me a chance to notice reactions while not dealing with the people I know.

I really want to go for it, permanently....

One last thing I meant to add.  You say you are going to try it again with no hair in 2 weeks.

Let me tell you this.  Before I went sly, when I went to the mall or out to eat I was constantly looking everyone in the eye wondering if they were looking at my hair.  If someone did make eye contact with me I was in panic.  It was very irritating.

The first time I went to the mall after going sly, I did the same thing.  Amazingly, very few people even looked twice at me.  It was a wonderful feeling.

I can guarantee you this - right now every time you walk by a mirror in the mall or a restaurant, you automatically look in it to see if the rug is on straight and in the proper place.  Am I right?  That's the way I was.  Once I went sly, I don't worry about a mirror anywhere.

In fact, I even bought an Avalanche with a SUNROOF - talk about nice - no worrying if the wind is blowing now.  Look dude, freedom is there for you.  Go for it.

I don't want to sound like a freak but I am very passionate about this.  Especially when I learn of a hairpiece wearer that is going through the same things I went through.  It is miserable and I don't want anyone to go there.

Best of luck.

[X The Hierophant]

Great posts Sooner. 

Good luck Andrew.  Warning though ... once the idea get in your head the slyness is unavoidable.  It's only a matter of time now.  Looking forward to seeing you join the sly brotherhood.

[Razor X]

I would imagine that there a number of potential problems associated with wearing a full wig (as opposed to a toupee), which is what I assume you wear since you have alopecia.  The first one I can think of is that your hair never changes length or looks like it needs to be cut -- which is a big giveaway.  At least with a toupee, you still have some natural hair which will grow and add some degree of plausibility (though a toupee doesn't really fool anyone either) . 

The other thing I can think of is that eventually you have to start getting wigs with increasing amounts of grey in them.  You didn't say how old you are, but even if you've been wearing a wig since early childhood, if it's been 32 years, the grey issue is something you'll need to address in the not-too-distant future.

Whatever anxiety you may feel about getting rid of the wig will be short-lived and more than offset by the feeling of liberation you'll feel once it is gone.

[andrew]

All of those problems exist, and more ...  I'm in my late 40's and don't have a single gray in there, which of course isn't quite right.   Another issue I'm faced with is that the wig-maker I've dealt with for the last 27 years is dying of cancer, which really sucks. Poor guy has been so good to me over the years ....    So, this is just another factor influencing me to go for it sooner rather than later ....

Recently, while on vacation in-the-sly, I went under-water in the pool. I'd not done that in 5 years (my first vacation in-the-sly) and before then it had been 20+ years. 

SoonerSteve - you hit it on the head again with the mirror thing and the wind effect.   Man I can't wait to rip this beaver hat off my head ....

[frostillicus123]

all I can say is don't let weight bother you

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