Got a bad reaction

[Sir Harry]

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I love this. I wish this is the kind of confidence and ora I had. White guys are treated differently- because of their skin tone when they are bald. Ironic, isn't it?
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Big problem with the world today...we always want to associate styles/things with race....I think if a guy is losing his hair and wants to shave his head why should he be treated differently...I see what you're saying though. It's no big deal for an African-American man, but it becomes a big topic/issue for a Caucasian man...and it's sad..

[Reddas]

My advice would be:

Be confident in how you look/your appearance.

If you are not, then try to make some adjustments that will make you feel more confident in your apperance.

I'd say "balding/thinning" hair is not great looking for most people (me included), unless your name is Jason Statham.

Be comfortable with your fashion, and your body. If not, then you can always improve these areas by working out, and getting a new wardrobe.

There's nothing wrong with cool hats, since they can sometimes  look really, really cool.

All the above are outer things you can "change".

But you must realize, that a lot of people are seeking validation and trying to make "people" or girls like them.

I'm not advocating you should be an "a$$hole", but you should definetly care less about what some drunk, random, and rude girls say or do.

Do whatever you want!!

If you feel like telling them to "f*ck off", then do that.
If you feel like laughing at them, do that..
If you feel like going up to them, and telling them "WTF do you think are doing?" - do that by all means.

If you feel like ignoring them, do it..


It's your life, and your rules... And you shouldn't accept behavior that's disrespetful.
Otherwise people will walk all over you, unless you stand up for yourself.

You are playing in your own league, not others... (Especially not some rude girls with low self-esteem)

[SCjay]

Havent posted in a while but Im getting better with everything. Been going to the pool/river every now and then and have little problem with the bald look in that setting. Especially since the people I go with are used to the dome.

Basically Ive decided that I need to see a new me in the mirror in order to gain some confidence. Ive finally started getting some facial hair growing in, enough to where I can grow some what of a goatee. A couple of weekends ago I actually had about 4-5 girls comment on how they liked my scruff. Started working out seriously about a week ago, so here soon I should be able to really see a difference. Also got some jergens natural glow a while back but been really lazy/inconsistent with it, but this time Im gonna stick with it. I dont have class since its summer break so I have time to do all this stuff. I have exactly one week before I start work where I wont be able to wear a hat, so Im nervous/excited about that. Hopefully the dome will be a little darker by then.

This recent self improvement rush Ive gotten is mostly because of a girl. At least she kick started it, Im doing it for myself now. Earlier in the thread I mentioned being in a restaurant class where I couldnt wear a hat, so I roamed around during this class with the dome showing and not caring about it, just being myself. Well this girl was in the class, and we had a fun night about a week and a half ago. We were out at the bars, came back to my place and made out for a while. The reason it ignited me to start improving myself is that she is really pretty but awesome to be around as well, and she knows Im bald and has been around me plenty of times bald. So I dont have that insecure voice in the back of my head saying "she might not like you bald". But pretty much I have to be as confident as possible because as pretty as she is she has to have other options, so a non confident, insecure me has 0 chance with her.

Any getting girls tips are welcome as well! lol

[SCjay]

Also another thing I did to ease into the baldness was wearing a visor instead of a hat sometimes. I know its just a short term solution but it helps. Im still insecure about the whole baldness thing, so say if Im out(wearing a hat) and chatting it up pretty well with a girl, eventually the thoughts of "she might not like me bald" creep in my mind and it stays in there. So if she happens to see me bald, those thoughts are still in there and it works like a self fulfilling prophecy. With the visor, it gives me the comfort/style of a hat, and also the reassurance that she knows Im bald, so there wont be any shock later on.

[kalbo]

Good for you SCJay..baby steps...You will do just fine, we are all here to support you.

[antoniom]

you need to embrace your baldness when out in public but a hat is cool for protection not for hiding

[TunaSkin]

Lots of good advice from the other posters here, but one other thing to think about is where this crazy rude chick that said this stuff to you is coming from. What I mean is, she's obviously not happy herself. If she was, she wouldn't be saying rude things to you. That's just an outward projection of her own feelings about herself. Have you ever met a happy, mature adult who went around saying $hitty things about other people? Exactly. They don't do it. You could have gone on and insulted her appearance in retaliation, but that would have just exposed your own insecurity. I think you did a good job reacting the way you did, but telling her "I don't give a Fvck" pretty much lets her know you give a fvck...

     Everyone who posted before is right. If the hat is keeping you from being fully secure in your appearance, then ditch it. Don't hide.

 Also, about attracting girls. Two things ALL women find attractive are confidence and a good sense of humor. If you are a confident man and can make a girl laugh you're well on your way to getting any girl you want. If you want to read some more about this I would recommend reading "The Game" by Neil Strauss. Lots of good info in there about attracting the opposite sex. The author is a bald man himself and one of the most well recognized "pickup artists" out there.

  Good luck with everything.