You have to remember that wearing the hats from others point of view will automatically send them a signal or they will assume, that you dont want to be seen with your shaved head, even though it is attractive. I see that a lot here where I think a bald guy is good looking and you can tell he shaves his head ( or is mostly bald) but wears the hat. Even I assume he must be afraid to let us see his bald head. Which sends a signal to me that he is insecure and therefore somehow flawed in his own eyes, not a good signal to send.Try to go 5 days without the hat. WHen interacting with older people outside of college I bet there are many with shaved heads. Older girls out of college will have more life experience and know baldness is natural in most men. Maybe try to hang with older girls.
Hey thereThere are some great tips on here. The woman sounds like a real ass to be going about saying things like that in public and so freely. At least you found out her true colours before you got to know her further. I can also relate to the hat wearing. I was heavy diffuse thinning and wore hats all the time it was almost like a prison sentence and people will be wondering why is he wearing a hat, what's underneath that etc. The torture as well, I remember I used to share a room with 4 other people and I'd even take the cap into the bathroom to put it on straight after the shower.I can see why, it's a blanket. Your hairloss disapears with a hat on and I wore them for years, still occasionaly do now too.You need to be confident in yourself too. I was very shy when I had no hairloss and turned dates down because I was affraid of women, I regret it a bit and I was probarly a bit insecure/shy/immature - all of these. After some soul-searching (read forums, books, find out about yourself) I have been working on confidence and public speaking and becoming more outgoing and engaging. And right now, I've never had as much interest from women even though I look older and worse than I did at 18. I'm just a lot more self-assured, and try my best to be the best I can be and make people feel good . I'm no lothario or anything but one day, and I was constantly when younger nervous around women and thinking 'She'll never like me', 'I'm not handsdome enough' I started to read more and open my own mind up and thought to myself 'I am a great guy. I care for my friends and family. I show interest in people' and if a woman doesn't like me or judges me on my looks, then she's not worth knowing. I read a few books too. There are plenty on the net/forums, but you need to gain self-confidence first and once you build this up, YOU WILL get dates and women will be very interested in getting to know you. If you are shy around women, I started with just talking to a new person every day. If it's the store clerk, postman, bar tender, bus driver, whoever it is - many of these places will greet you with a ''How are you today?'' and I'll reply about my day and ask them about there's or some mundane chat, and so many of them are shocked as they are used to people replying with short answers. Take care of yourself and ignore the haters. Haters gonna hate. As stupid as that is, it's very true. They are many nice people out there and many people will find your bald dome attractive and many people will find your personality attractive too.Stay positive and all the best.
Try to hang around a more mature crwd and you will avoid these kinds of situations.
Most people dont really say much at all about my hair(or lack of). But the other night I was at this party and got a few reactions. 2 people asked if I was in the military, which Im thinking now I just need to say yea because Ive been asked that a lot. And when I tell them no they kinda have this look like "why does he shave his head then?" Anyways got another reaction that I didnt like too much. When girls get drunk they like to snatch hats off of guys' heads. Well this one girl snatches mine off and starts wearing it, and I just try to act normal and not too self conscious, even though I was really self conscious. Then the girl beside her takes it off her head and puts it back on mine and I heard her say, "he needs it more." Well then the girl who initially took my hat starts talking to the dude beside her saying "bald is NOT attractive" and things like that. I started fuming on the inside about to go off on this girl and call her stuff but then all of a sudden I just stopped caring. I just walked up to her and said "youre a damn hater" and she goes "well Im just saying.." and then I responded with "I honestly dont give a fvck!" And thats when she said something along the lines of "well if you dont care then thats good" or something like that.
In the early morning hours of New Year's Day myself and a buddy who is BBC went to a party. We ran into an obnoxious couple who may have been drunkMan: Well, look at the melonheads, heads so clean I can see what you're thinking (he then tried to rub our heads but he missed)Me: Thanks, I guessWoman: Bald heads suck....The two of you put together makes for an ugly A$$My buddy: We'll ma'am...better to look like an a$$ than to talk and act like one!Crowd: Hilarious laughter Me: KMSL, LMAO, ROTFL , etc.Couple leaves party pi$$ed off (surprisingly no fight breaks out)Keep your head up and let your light shine! (no pun intended)