Negative comments from family

[fcb2001]

its very weird, hair loss runs in my family, both of my grandfathers were bald, my dad has a full head of hair, and almost all my cousins that are men have hair loss issues, one is using bosley currently and will probbly spend 20,000 dollars, another went to hair club, he spent about 50,000 dollars and is wearing a toupee, these two cosuins  ridiculed me for shaving my head,
I figured that for about half of wht my cousins spent for hair transplants I will ttend the 2018 winter olympics which i hope will be awarded to PyeongChang South Korea, and the 2020 Summer Olympics which I hope will be awarded to Rome Italy, which is my favourite place in the world, i will attend the opening and closing cerimonies for both games, then i will shows picture to those cousins

[zzaapp]

Your cousins are so deeply invested (trapped?) at this point that they can't back out without admitting that they were seduced by the message from the "hair replacement industry".  The advertising is designed to prey upon a man's insecurities and convince him, that not having a full head of hair means a loss of self esteem, confidence and social standing.  Your confidence in your slyness casts doubt on that premise. 

Every time they see you, your six years of slyness is a very visible reminder that the message that they accepted is not true.  One of them paid a butcher to slice up his head, the other paid to have someone glue fake hair to his head with super glue.    Convincing you to walk the same path that they do is the only way they can prove to themselves that they have done the right thing.   Their ridicule is a desperate attempt to validate their own actions.



 

[Luixmai]

I am in the same situation. They think that I am too young to get bald (my father got bald when he was in the middle of his 30ths xD)

[TheSlyBear]

What's "too young"? If you can afford to buy your own razor, you're not too young.

[fcb2001]

Thanks, I glad that i decided to be a man and go bald, last night one of the cosins called me, the one that used hair club and is wearing a toupee, he is now go to be a patient of medical hair restoration.

I told him that he is an idiot.

iam not familiar with what the process for this group.

Your cousins are so deeply invested (trapped?) at this point that they can't back out without admitting that they were seduced by the message from the "hair replacement industry".  The advertising is designed to prey upon a man's insecurities and convince him, that not having a full head of hair means a loss of self esteem, confidence and social standing.  Your confidence in your slyness casts doubt on that premise. 

Every time they see you, your six years of slyness is a very visible reminder that the message that they accepted is not true.  One of them paid a butcher to slice up his head, the other paid to have someone glue fake hair to his head with super glue.    Convincing you to walk the same path that they do is the only way they can prove to themselves that they have done the right thing.   Their ridicule is a desperate attempt to validate their own actions.



 

[SlyBaldDude]

It stops after a while.  In fact,  in my case the comments started reversing.

[GnomeansGno]

Well, time has passed and like many here said about the comments going away, they finally did for me.  My family seems to have finally accepted it.  Everyone else I know is fine with it, and some have said they like how I look with it.  One good thing is where I go to school I have seen a few shaved heads, and the Chef (I go to culinary school) is also bald, so that makes me feel more comfortable.  I honestly think that shaving your head bald has never been easier than now.  Where I go to the gym there are so many bald heads, it's crazy.  In fact I'd go as far as to say that there are MORE bald guys at the gym compared to guy's with hair.  It feels good to work out at a place where I'm part of the majority, not the minority.

[GnomeansGno]

yeah I know. I have a horrible tendency to take peoples opinions or comments to heart and way too seriously, I only had my shaved head exposed for like a day, it was buried under a hat until it grew back, now i keep it at a #1 buzzcut usually. Inevitably its going to be shaven sooner or later, I just need to get the balls to do it and do the 30 day rule, my girlfriend told me to go for it if that's what I want, maybe I should listen to her.

In any case this forum still helps alot even If im not sly yet and I appreciate all the comments and encouragement you guys give me.

Don't let my comments bring you down.  Shaving your head bald is generally accepted.  As others have said, it takes some time for close family and friends to get used to it since they know you with hair, but they eventually do come around.

[mangosink12572]

In the beginning , I had an awful time at home and a very good friend (who is SLY BALD) said, "in time they will get over it"  and they did

[Morthen]

In the beginning , I had an awful time at home and a very good friend (who is SLY BALD) said, "in time they will get over it"  and they did

the 1st time i shaved my mother said it looked awful and scary, the next time i shaved (bout a week ago, and i shave everyday now) she said it looked good..

Family members opinions are very fickle and change rapidly lol.

[Rob]

that's exactly why you just gotta do it for yourself and because its right for you

[Joe525]

Totally can relate to this thread. I used to shave my head when I was in high school, because I played sports and I sweat allot, hair was just a hassle. Heck my drivers license photo has me with a shaved head in it still from when I was 19 or so! When I was 16 I shaved it bald for playoffs (school tradition), admittedly it looked horrible then and everyone told me lol. But I'm 25 now and have been losing my hair since I was 19, first a little thinning up top, then receding, and finally a bald spot to boot! The Triple Crown!  The past 2 yrs. in college I wore a hat everyday, I was extremely embarrassed. But now I'm getting ready to move and start school at a different university, and I said the heck with it. I'm afraid to shave it bald, but I just started shaving it with a no-blade (0) on my clippers and I love it. All of my friends including females tell me it looks way better. But my family hates it, always has always will especially my mom and my sister. They keep telling me I look better with a little bit of hair, but I don't get how I look good balding, receding, and thinning. Frankly I think I look like a bad a$$ w/ a shaved head lol.  Plus I've learned a nice tan goes a long way for a bald guy, and a goatee to shape the face, and a little exercise helps!

But seriously what's up w/ moms, sisters, and grandparents hating it?  My family tells me it makes me look mean. I guess it's because I don't look like there little baby boy anymore.

[D.A.L.U.I.]

But seriously what's up w/ moms, sisters, and grandparents hating it?  My family tells me it makes me look mean. I guess it's because I don't look like there little baby boy anymore.

Bingo--This is your time to do what you feel is the most comfortable for you.  You're not their little boy to dress up as they want--and they don't like it for the loss of control and the fact it reminds them in a very real and perhaps frightening way that they are getting older too.

Whether Sly looks bad a$$ or not is a matter of how you carry it off.

[Stu]

But seriously what's up w/ moms, sisters, and grandparents hating it?  My family tells me it makes me look mean. I guess it's because I don't look like there little baby boy anymore.

Bingo--This is your time to do what you feel is the most comfortable for you.  You're not their little boy to dress up as they want--and they don't like it for the loss of control and the fact it reminds them in a very real and perhaps frightening way that they are getting older too.

Whether Sly looks bad a$$ or not is a matter of how you carry it off.

What he said!!!  I hope you stay here and join in.  The look suits you, anyway.

[Morthen]

the only person my shaved head ever bothered was my mother, and she has grown to like my new look with time. Women are fickle beings