Negative comments from family

[GnomeansGno]

Anyone else get negative comments from their family?  Just tonight my grandmother (while admittedly somewhat tipsy) said I looked "horrible" bald, and said "you'll never get a girl bald".  Also, my mom is constantly telling me "your a handsome guy with great hair, grow it back".  Both know why I shave my head, yet don't care anyway.  Let me say that I do like hair, but I hate dealing with the scalp psoriasis that comes with it.  The steroid foams you can use do help, but they cause bad acne break-outs, so it's a no win situation.  The best way to deal with scalp psoriasis is to shave it all off.  Because when you do, there's no more itch, no more redness, etc, it magically disappears.  I know other bald  guys on this forum know what I'm talking about.  Any way, back on topic.  It really sucks when you can't get support from your own family.  My own uncle says I look like "shocker".  Honestly, that's a blow to my self-esteem.  I understand and agree with those who say "who cares what people think?", but it's hard to accept when your own family doesn't support you.  And the thing is, I've gotten compliments from other people on being bald, including a co-worker of my mothers.  Any way, I just had to vent.  Thanks for listening.

[Dome of Steele]

It's a generational thing alot of the time.  I haven't seen my Grandparents since going sly 2 years ago, but I heard my Grandma disapproved when she saw a pic and my mom was initially shocked.  But both of my parents have come around and got used to it.  I think it's because the older generations aren't used to this style. 
 
But it is a common style now and it certainly won't keep you from getting girls. 


Do what works for you, they will get used to it. 

[Paul]

Family members can say negative things on occassion, but just keep in mind that they have this mental image of you since you were a child and it is hard for them to let it go.   Patiently remind them that you are happier without hair and that they should want what is best for you.   As for not getting women, it is true that SOME women may not like a shaved head, but many more find it intriguing and sexy.   It is all about confidence.  You just have to keep in mind that in the long run, it is your life and your head.  Hold that gleaming dome up high and be yourself.   

[Mikekoz13]

Just tough it out my Friend. Your head, your life and yes, you Family. They'll eventually leave it alone.

[D.A.L.U.I.]

It's like Paul said, it's their memory thing, IMO.  It also reminds them that you're not their little boy anymore--that is deeply disturbing to them.  But, in as much as you are dealing w/ psoriasis they should get over it for that reason alone.  But, when it's family, wife, etc., reason is not in the room.  So like the Koz says, tough it out, it will get better, it really will.  

Plus, that foam, if it's the stuff the Dr. gave me, is expensive--not generally on the insurance company's approved list!  Shaving is safe, sane and no side effects--except a very good looking dome of course

[pdxtodd]

With time comes acceptance.  Your family is just relaying what the cosmetics industry wants us to believe.   Just think -- if we all shaved our heads we'd put a lot of people out of work.    As for getting girls as a bald guy -- hmmm -- Bruce Willis / Demi Moore;  Andre Aggasi / Brooke Shields;  and the list goes on and on.   

You're doing the right thing -- not dealing with steroids.   Your family will come around.

[stemikger]

Hang in there bro.  I'm going through the same thing this very moment.  However, I am just ignoring these people and doing what I want.  It's my head, my rules.

Good Luck.

By the way, I'm always amazed how people are so critical about what other people do with their hair.  I would never care what people do and I certainly would never make a negative comment.

I have a cousin who is a very overweight unfashionable person who actually calls me names because I shave.  Next time I'm going to call her tubby and see how she likes it.  LOL.

[cvasara]

You might say something like " I'm bald because I choose to be,  The same as you're fat, because you choose to be"

[stemikger]

Posted by Cvasara
You might say something like " I'm bald because I choose to be,  The same as you're fat, because you choose to be"

If only I had the balls bro.  Even with her, I'm afraid to hurt a feelings.  I have what they call the nice guy disease.

[The Noggin]

Just be cool.

Annoying people are annoyed best by ignoring their annoyances.

[Magoo]

With time comes acceptance , hang in there if ...YOU like the look.

[Gil]

 Best thing I can say is just be yourself and don't dwell on the negative comments of others. If you do, you will never accomplish anything, including your own decisions.

[bem75]

Alright, that sucks, but here's what you do.  Go out and find the hottest woman that you can find.  A real knockout.  Get a picture taken with her kissing your head or cuddling up to you.  If you pick her up and get a date with her...bonus.  Otherwise, you've got the picture to show your grandmother and other family members.

 

[Rob]

Just hang in there and it will soon be forgotten.  My mum didnt like it at first, and usually the older women I know showed their dislike of my bald head too, but now no one passes any comments, because they can see there's no use!

[imb]

You might say something like " I'm bald because I choose to be,  The same as you're fat, because you choose to be"

Haha brilliant, I'm gonna have to use that one.