Negative comments from family

[marshd1000]

Where is Schro?  He deals with psoriasis.  I'm surprised that he has not chimed in about this!

[buddha]

"you'll never get a girl bald". 

but will you get a girl balled?

For most of my adult life I have found that when obnoxious people, family or not, start in on something about me that makes them uncomfortable I start off by ignoring them. If that doesn't work I avoid them....birthdays, anniversaries, funerals, etc. If anybody asks why I wasn't at gramma's birthday party I just tell them the truth.
I'm a strong believer in the theory that our true family is the one we choose, not the one we're stuck with. That assists with a lot of the "loyalty" problems. Loyalty, after all, is a 2 way street.

[PopeyeRay]

Its the same as everything else when people dont understand or are unfamiliar. They tend to shy away, at least until they get use to of it, and accept it. But the main point I say would be that if you like it, dont let others choose your path. Do what you like. It makes us who we are, if everyone was the same , we'd be boring !
 

[Morthen]

I only shaved once and haven't done it since because of the title of this thread

[D.A.L.U.I.]

I only shaved once and haven't done it since because of the title of this thread

That's a real shame, really is.  At some point you will have to decide whether you live to please your family or llve to please yourself.  It's a tough fork in the road. 

[-Doug-]

I only shaved once and haven't done it since because of the title of this thread

That's a real shame, really is.  At some point you will have to decide whether you live to please your family or llve to please yourself.  It's a tough fork in the road. 

I went to my in-laws yesterday and it was the first visit post-sly. I am sure that they weren't too keen on my new look but I didn't care. I responded to all comments with humor, which disarmed them, and confidence, which I'm sure they picked up on.

At the end of the day it doesn't matter what you look like on the outside, it is all about how much you like the look. If you project confidence and a positive attitude about your look, others will pick up on that. A little humor never hurts either.

[leseduk]

As others have send, just hang in there, when I first shaved my head several people (co-workers) asked me "have you got cancer?" after a couple of times I said "no, but i'm a carrier" that seemed to shut them up. Family seem to be the worse, I think its because they are close to you and think that it is ok to say what they think (maybe not what they feel) they will come round just give them time! Just remember some of the comments you used to get when you changed your hairstyle, which is in effect all you have done, try to keep it all in perpestive, it will stop, usually within a week or so. Hope that helps?

[D.A.L.U.I.]

I only shaved once and haven't done it since because of the title of this thread

If you project confidence and a positive attitude about your look, others will pick up on that. A little humor never hurts either.

   Very good point!

[Rob]

It's a real shame that you only shaved once because of bad reactions, Morthen, because your missing out on being who you really want to be just because of other people.  You really got to do it FOR YOU and no one else.

[Morthen]

yeah I know. I have a horrible tendency to take peoples opinions or comments to heart and way too seriously, I only had my shaved head exposed for like a day, it was buried under a hat until it grew back, now i keep it at a #1 buzzcut usually. Inevitably its going to be shaven sooner or later, I just need to get the balls to do it and do the 30 day rule, my girlfriend told me to go for it if that's what I want, maybe I should listen to her.

In any case this forum still helps alot even If im not sly yet and I appreciate all the comments and encouragement you guys give me.

[TheSlyBear]

Dude, if the girlfriend is on-board, just do it!

[Rob]

If the girlfriend said go for it, what more do you need?

[D.A.L.U.I.]

my girlfriend told me to go for it if that's what I want, maybe I should listen to her.

  Another very good point. 

[Gambrinus]

Do what the woman says!  And as for the naysayers, I have found that being a complete smart@$$ is my best defense. 

[Mr.B]

I had someone at my last job who kept giving me a hard time about it. Then I said something like," I'm pleased to hear all these insults since I do this to annoy you personally". That ended that