Yes, I think the issues are way more in my head than on my head. This was an isolated "insult". Nobody has said anything negative about my shaved head in quite a long time. This girl was young. She must be about 22 or 23. Other than this woman the negative comments really went away a while ago.
Jack, you just stepped over a snake. That woman sounds like she worked for NASA in Houston, a total space cadet! She had to be blond, just had to be.
I've been on vacation and so very lazy about shaving. I don't think I've shaved in about 10 days. I was at the gym today. I hardly ever talk to anyone at the gym. I mean almost never. Today my ipod died and so I couldn't hide. There was a girl trying to figure out how to switch the height on the seat for the hammer strength incline after I got off. I went back and showed her and we started talking about blah blah. It turns out that we have some 6 degree connection thing - my sister in law went to HS with her. She started talking about going to some club tonight and how I shoudl come along. I took off my hat for a second to wipe off my brow w/o even thinking about it, and her face went pale. She said "Oh. You're bald." Before I knew how to respond she said "They don't allow hats at the club we're going to". I said something like "Oh that's cool. I'm getting too old for the club scene anyway." I learned two things.1. Don't get lazy about shaving on vacation2. Don't wear a hat to the gym
I agree. If you hit the gym and buff-up with some cardio, get a new pair of clothes, you'd have all the chicks on you. Some guys don't understand that. Shave, hit the gym, get new clothes and women will fall over you. Hitting the iron builds more testosterone and more confidence within yourself.
Quote from: TheBaldAndBeautiful on December 27, 2010, 06:18:10 PMI agree. If you hit the gym and buff-up with some cardio, get a new pair of clothes, you'd have all the chicks on you. Some guys don't understand that. Shave, hit the gym, get new clothes and women will fall over you. Hitting the iron builds more testosterone and more confidence within yourself. Wow, I thought this post was never gonna get a reply, then I check it after a coulple weeks and suddenly we're talking about one of the least important parts.I would have to agree with the above from the standpoint that a good self image is essential to building confidence, and confidence in turn is a key to attracting and especially *maintaining the attention of your relationship interests. However, I think most people missed what I was getting at when I mentioned the physical make-up of 'Alex'. My point was that most people who lose their hair eventually adopt the mantra 'I can't control what's happening on the top of my head, so I may as well change everything else about me for the better to compensate', but this attitude, while complimentary, shouldn't IMO be the focus of 'getting over' your hairloss. The basic train of thought, broken down into its bare components, is still "I have a problem (hairloss), I must do something???, I will get a hair transplant and take drugs / I will work out, tan, and buy nice clothes' It's the same thing, and people will always argue which solution is better. If I say Alex has success with women, people instinctively want to copy him to have the same type of success, and the first thing we usually see and focus on is physical image. "If I can do that, it will be ok." But it won't, until you do some work inside. (I feel like a cheesey guidance counselor for saying all this).Some people will never be able to tan (me), some people will never be able to build large quantities of muscle no matter how much they eat/lift, some people can't afford name-brand clothes. What then? Are they just screwed? No. Because you have to fix it in your head before you fix it any other way. Even if you manage to achieve the perfect physique and wardrobe, you are still susceptible to let-down via the nature of life. No matter how many jokes and come-backs you try to arm yourslef with, you're still vulnerable to insecurity until you BELIEVE that hairloss isn't a handicap. What this guy I described looks like/dresses like shouldn't matter AT ALL. What does matter is the fact that there is a bald guy out there who isn't single. If you can accept that this can happen to you too, having no way to draw a comparison between yourslef and Alex, with nothing to go on besides the fact that the dude has a chick that likes him for who he is, then perhaps you will find some measure of peace. If not, then I hope nothing else happens to you in this life to ruin your new body, clothes, or skin. Personally, I feel more secure knowing that my confidence is derived from something that can't be taken away from me.
Quote from: TheBaldAndBeautiful on December 27, 2010, 06:18:10 PMI agree. If you hit the gym and buff-up with some cardio, get a new pair of clothes, you'd have all the chicks on you. Some guys don't understand that. Shave, hit the gym, get new clothes and women will fall over you. Hitting the iron builds more testosterone and more confidence within yourself. I so wish it was that easy, BTW don't forget the tanning.
Hey boys - I came about this forum by accident but wanted to just say Hello and that there are girls out there that love bald men, and no I am not overweight, uneducated, or from Hicksville lol.