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Offline Razor X

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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #15 on: December 01, 2008, 06:40:24 PM »
Look at the title of this thread - "Slyness is on my Christmas list".   The slyness has to come from within you; nobody can give it to you.  The first step is to accept the situation and decide how you're going to deal with it.  Buzzing your hair down to a short  length is a good first step.

I won't lie and say that it isn't a big adjustment, because it is, but trust me, it isn't that bad.  It may take some time but one day you will realize that.   If it's any consolation, you still have plenty of hair and it will be a long time before it's anywhere near gone.  If you buzz it now, you can keep it that way for the next few years, unless you really want to shave.  Keeping it buzzed is lower maintenance, and will make the thinning less obvious.

So chin up; you're getting what you asked for.   ;)
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #16 on: December 01, 2008, 06:59:39 PM »
willBslyoncemore, you're right. Thanks, you've been really helpful.

RazorX, I agree on many levels. I will have to work really hard at being sly and having confidence in my new look. Tomorrow I'm buzzing it off. I'm not going to wait for Christmas. Earlier today I was okay with the whole thing. After all, I did ask for slyness and plan on shaving it off anyway. Its just when the doctor told me this it hit reality and I didn't deal with it as well as I thought I would have.

I sound like I was just diagnosed with cancer or something. I'm a really weak person though, so this sort of thing takes a toll. I have therapy tomorrow and I am going to talk to her about all of this. Hopefully she can help me put things in perspective.

Maybe working on my body and developing other physical areas will help me with my confidence, in conjunction with working on all of the mental areas of course.

Tomorrow I'll post pictures of the results.....I am really hoping its not as bad as I think itll be.
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #17 on: December 01, 2008, 07:06:33 PM »
You're not weak.  You're much stronger than you think you are -- and that's really the whole point of dealing with the hair loss proactively.  It's both liberating and empowering to actually go through with it.  It's scary to do, and it's something you think you'll never be able to do.   So when you do go through with it, there's a real sense of accomplishment.

Just focus on the haircut and do it as soon as possible so you don't have time to talk yourself out of it.  How short are you going to go?
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #18 on: December 01, 2008, 07:50:45 PM »
One quick comment...

a large forehead will disappear when you shave your head smooth...

I should know I had a huge forehead...

now it's just  pristine, smooth skin without a hint of hair (when i can get it perfect ;))..

don't sweat it so much bro...

a lot of people are bald in this world...

by THEIR choice!
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #19 on: December 01, 2008, 08:11:28 PM »
Quote from: Reykjavik on November 30, 2008, 06:15:31 PM

So, I figured I'd ask you guys what was it like when you first looked at your newly shaved head? And was it better/worse than you expected? Or if you have any advice for me.


I started shaving at the end of August of this year.  I have to tell you, when I first looked at myself I didn't like it.  It was too big of a change.  But I was on this site as lurker and I would constantly look back at Razon's recommendation to "give it 30 days".   So I did that.  It took me about 45 days to like my new looks.  You have to give it time.  Now, I love my looks and it's nice that I don't have to worry about thin hair, all the dandruff, oil, etc.  So annoying.   Any advice for you?  Yes, my advice is to follow what the other great guys here tell you.  Do what they recommend and you will end up being happy.   Best wishes to you.   
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #20 on: December 02, 2008, 09:35:36 AM »
I also had a huge forehead, and it did seem to vanish when i shaved.  Try buzzing it down: maybe you'll like it. 8)
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #21 on: December 02, 2008, 10:25:53 AM »
I don't have OCD, but I know those that do.  I think the first thing you should do is work with that issue before you make any other decisions.
First, understand that people do not care about your looks as much as you do.  They may say comments, but honestly, it's something they're doing to either fill the time, or to pique their curiosity.  After that, they're done thinking about it, and unfortunately in some cases you're left thinking about it constantly.  I'd try to take a moment and realize that you and me are little specs of sand in an endless beach.  Our appearance has no effect on the orbit of the earth.  (sorry for the strange analogies.. lol)
Take some time to relax, and if you feel like buzzing your head, then go for it.  Do it out of FUN, not desperation.
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #22 on: December 02, 2008, 10:42:43 AM »
Quote from: Mikekoz13 on December 01, 2008, 07:41:51 AM
Welcome to the Forum Rey!

Does anybody else think that it's kind of ironic that Rey is getting the most advice from one of our biggest "obsessors"?

The irony of that hadnt gone unnoticed buddy
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #23 on: December 02, 2008, 11:00:06 AM »
Quote from: stephen0714 on December 02, 2008, 10:42:43 AM
Quote from: Mikekoz13 on December 01, 2008, 07:41:51 AM
Welcome to the Forum Rey!

Does anybody else think that it's kind of ironic that Rey is getting the most advice from one of our biggest "obsessors"?

The irony of that hadnt gone unnoticed buddy

agreed
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #24 on: December 02, 2008, 11:33:17 AM »
You guys are great, really appreciate all of your support. This morning I woke up still miserable and obsessing. I didn't get a chance to check this post for all of your advice. My mother and I were sitting down the breakfast and I told her that I didn't want to wait until Christmas to shave it all off, and with some talking she offered to do it for me.

Through the whole thing she was telling me what a moron me and the doctor were. Midway into it she stopped and said "its your cowlick you idiot'. I have a cowlick in the front of my head and the area I was seeing that I figured receded was actually where the swirl was. My hairline is pretty much the same as it was in the 8th grade. So its possible that I am not balding.

Anyway, I didn't shave it down. I went shorter than I ever have though...I feel really self conscious like this, but it could be worse. I might go even shorter in the future to see what happens...

So...attached is basically what I look like right now. Facial hair is still growing in. My head looks huuuuuugeee. Someday when I shave it fully I am wondering if you guys are right and it'll demphasize my forehead.

I'm about to go see my therapist.
Thanks for being so supportive guys.
« Last Edit: March 03, 2015, 05:59:53 PM by Reykjavik »
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #25 on: December 02, 2008, 11:57:55 AM »
Rey,
So your not going bald... great  O0
But I have to say the clippered look is you. You look way more mature and if you smiled I am sure women would be all over you.
I don't see a huge forehead at all, and trust me the big hair days need to stay in the 80's. I think in some weird way you were led to this site to get a new appearance and maybe some confidence with it. Tis the season ya know.
I hope you can look at yourself in a different light, and I hope the therapist and your change can make your life more enjoyable. We only get one shot at this thing called life, and nothing really matters except being happy with who you are.
Be strong and keep us posted on your way to Slyness... you just started your journey  8)
PS.... you can be sly with a full head of hair, and you don't have to shave to be a part of the brotherhood  ;)
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #26 on: December 30, 2008, 07:39:27 PM »
Quote from: Mr. Wilson on December 01, 2008, 06:38:58 PM

Women are much less shallow than we are.  Just be confident (fake it if you got to), friendly,  a fun/positive person to be around, and ultimately have some goals in life and they will like you a lot.

You should take your own advice dog!
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #27 on: January 05, 2009, 06:37:49 PM »
Well Rey, I'm bald by choice and I like it.  I've also got a truckload of psych and neuropsych problems as I posted on another forum.  To wit: manic-depression, Tourette Syndrome, OCD.  And I've said this to other members, also, that shaving my head gave me a feeling that I hadn't had in a long time.  I felt stronger and more confident, though that said, you don't have to shave your head to elicit a psychological change, but for me, having to stop work because of the manic-depression, shaving my head rebooted my soul, so to speak.  And right after doing it, I got a week long temp work assignment,  which I was able to complete and the money sure was welcomed!  Breath slowly and deeply and repeat these words that was my father's mantra: "It's all b******t(bs in case it didn't come through clearly, lol). 8)
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Re: Slyness is on my Christmas list
« Reply #28 on: January 05, 2009, 06:58:45 PM »
After I posted, this came to me:  Don't live inside your head for too long; it isn't healthy.  Easy for me to say because I'm a lot older than you and have lived through angst, anxiety, uncertainty, and insecurity.  All of it fades as you get older and you become more relaxed, accepting and unfazed but get a jump on it and start thinking differently.  Not necessarily easy but change can only come from within, not without.  In my case, flipping out and being in a psych unit for seven months was a definite game changer.  For me, it was like dying and being reborn but you don't have to go crazy to change, lol.
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