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Talking to People.... by BlackJamesRackham on 07 Aug, 2008 19:48
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A lot of people are shy and lack confidence when it comes to meeting new people. I used to be like this, and am not totally over it, but I wanted to share one way that I've overcome this problem. I travel a lot for work, so for the last few months (ever since I went sly), I've been trying to start random conversations with as many people as I can on planes or in airports. I'm sure some people find me annoying, but the majority are more than willing to talk to you.
Anyway, my point is, to build confidence, you need to put yourself out there. Put yourself into situations where you're not so comfortable. If you do it enough, you'll develop that confidence and grow out of your shyness. Just something I wanted to share that has helped me gain confidence when it comes to meeting and talking to strangers.
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#1 by Sly Red on 07 Aug, 2008 19:53
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Congrats on your 500th post Ultimate Sly Guy BJR.
Great post!
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#2 by dog20 on 07 Aug, 2008 19:55
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I'm like you... kinda. I am confident and outgoing when I'm working (I'm supposed to be friendly with customers) but when I don't have my uniform on, I keep to myself lol.
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#3 by GASlick on 07 Aug, 2008 19:57
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Excellent post. It's called getting out of your comfort zone I think.
I for one am famous for getting out of my comfort zone. It is difficult for some people and other people do it much more easily. -
#4 by BlackJamesRackham on 07 Aug, 2008 20:09
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Congrats on your 500th post Ultimate Sly Guy BJR.
Great post!
Red
Cheers, bro! 500 came kind of quick, kinda just snuck up on me there
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#5 by Timmay on 07 Aug, 2008 20:41
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500 post...man i have some competition now..lol..
Comfort zone....I am more comfortable outside of that box.... -
#6 by Tyler on 08 Aug, 2008 00:13
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Great post! An easy way to do this is just to ask people simple questions about themselves. People love to talk about themselves if you give them the chance to.
This is very fun to do as you never know how people are going to respond. Like the time I kept asking this guy about what company he was CEO of. Finally he broke down and whispered to me that his company sold sex toys. You should have seen the old lady's face that was sitting next to him! Priceless! -
#7 by MagmaBabe on 08 Aug, 2008 03:17
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Great post! An easy way to do this is just to ask people simple questions about themselves. People love to talk about themselves if you give them the chance to.
This is very fun to do as you never know how people are going to respond. Like the time I kept asking this guy about what company he was CEO of. Finally he broke down and whispered to me that his company sold sex toys. You should have seen the old lady's face that was sitting next to him! Priceless!
ahahaha! funny story Tyler!
ditto to what the other guys say James
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#8 by FR8TRAIN on 08 Aug, 2008 09:06
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Great post! An easy way to do this is just to ask people simple questions about themselves. People love to talk about themselves if you give them the chance to.
No doubt!!! Ask open ended questions (one that cannot be answered with a yes or no) about themselves and off you go.
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#9 by Mikekoz13 on 08 Aug, 2008 10:52
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Remember one thing guys........... If you live to be 100 years old, and most of will not, that 100 years is barely a dot in time............ So enjoy everyday to it's fullest and strive to meet people. You never know who you may meet.............
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#10 by Marz on 08 Aug, 2008 11:25
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Brilliant idea
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#11 by Tyler on 08 Aug, 2008 11:28
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Remember one thing guys........... If you live to be 100 years old, and most of will not, that 100 years is barely a dot in time............ So enjoy everyday to it's fullest and strive to meet people. You never know who you may meet.............
Ah yes, the Thirty Year Theory...http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=6739.0 -
#12 by dog20 on 08 Aug, 2008 11:29
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Also having 1 really good day makes up for 1 bad day.
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#13 by J Digory on 08 Aug, 2008 17:54
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One way I like to break the ice with people is to really look at the person for a moment, not stare, and find something I genuinely like about them. I then smile warmly and compliment them. First of all, it's a boost to their self-esteem, because most of us really don't get complimented all that much, and those that do...a little more never hurts anyone. Secondly, you have opened up the door in a positive way, and only a severe douche-dongle is going to be rude to you after you compliment them.
BUT, I should say that I only compliment someone if it's for real. Don't lie. It's not kind if you lie to someone, that's cruel. -
#14 by Timmay on 09 Aug, 2008 10:19
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Heck I dont have any trouble talking....I talked to 9 freaks up in chicago a few weeks ago..lol...i even went into downtown chicago...ALONE ...with two of them....ON a train.....a train that sat on the tracks for like 40 minutes...going nowhere! lol and it was getting dark..