What kind of job could I do?

[Marz]

I think you are a ninja at avoiding things really.

Almost everything I do I could probably think up 20 reasons why not to do them... sometimes I can only think of one reason TO do them but sometimes thats all you need.

No one is expecting you to like anything other than what you truly like or do what you dont want to do...  You come here, dump out this whole situation to which everyone gives you some solid sound advise... and each is countered with a reason why that is not an option.

It really is beginning to sound like unless someone is going to post up, "I have an immediate opening with the (insert pro sports name here) and I want you for the job" You are just going to continue this pattern of complaining about your life and how X Y and Z are to blame for it and A B and C are why you cant get where you need to go.

Now you can call these what you want but these are dictionary definitions of excuses.

Seriously man, if its not injuries, its your hard life, if its not the hard life its being bald, if its not being bald, you dont have connections if its not connections its something else...

until you stop blaming other stuff for your lot in life, you can expect to be where you are now and never change. You say you want things to change but every avenue seems to be roadblocked by something YOU are roadblocking it with.

All the great advise in the world wont help you if you don't take it.

[Hp291]

I'm sorry but some of the suggestions are just that, and don't take into account certain things. Why not just suggest someone become a model and totally disregard the fact that they don't look like one? That is why I brought up the injuries in context of joining the military which I am too old to do anyway.

No i'm not expecting that. I did ask if anyone has any contact here in that industry and not one person has said yes or even no. The question just got totally ignored.

[Marz]

By this point, you should be the one with those contacts.

I'm just sayin'

[Hp291]

But I don't and I said that initially. So that statement serves no purpose.

[Pshrynk]

^^^^

I don't think UR getting what Marz is laying down.

You should be getting the contacts and putting together a plan to do what you need to do.  It seems you really have a reason why every bit of advice given here is inadequate.   Did you want someone to just hand you a top level job in the area you want?

You've got to put a plan together, start at the bottom and bust your hump.

In addition asking for and getting a contact from someone here is unlikely and pointless -- because people here don't know you from a hole in the ground --- so why would they risk their own professional reputation giving you any kind of recommendation?

[Marz]

^^^^

I don't think UR getting what Marz is laying down.

You should be getting the contacts and putting together a plan to do what you need to do.  It seems you really have a reason why every bit of advice given here is inadequate.   Did you want someone to just hand you a top level job in the area you want?

You've got to put a plan together, start at the bottom and bust your hump.

In addition asking for and getting a contact from someone here is unlikely and pointless -- because people here don't know you from a hole in the ground --- so why would they risk their own professional reputation giving you any kind of recommendation?

THANK YOU PSHRYNK!

[Hp291]

I don't want a personal recommendation. But if someone who has contacts in that industry might be able to ask them what is the best route to take.

I have been doing my research on the subject. But there are just so many people trying for so very few jobs that's it almost impossible unless you know someone are are incredibly overqualified.

As a matter of fact, I have an information meeting this weekend on the topic. But hey, I guess I"m not doing anything at all right?

[Marz]

I don't want a personal recommendation. But if someone who has contacts in that industry might be able to ask them what is the best route to take.

I have been doing my research on the subject. But there are just so many people trying for so very few jobs that's it almost impossible unless you know someone are are incredibly overqualified.

As a matter of fact, I have an information meeting this weekend on the topic. But hey, I guess I"m not doing anything at all right?

What is an information meeting? Whatever it is glad to hear you are taking action.

Have you tried minor league or college?

[Hp291]

Informational meeting this week. Sorry typo. Just to learn from people in the industry about how it all works and so forth.

Honestly though? I am too old to go kicking around the minors, even if I could (as competitive as the others). I am gonna go to this thing, see what's what.

[Marz]

Informational meeting this week. Sorry typo. Just to learn from people in the industry about how it all works and so forth.

Honestly though? I am too old to go kicking around the minors, even if I could (as competitive as the others). I am gonna go to this thing, see what's what.

Well hey, at lest your doing something.

[Hp291]

Yeah was a lot of talk about getting more schooling. Only 50K plus to borrow lol. What I think is going to happen honestly is I am going to have a massive nervous breakdown. I mean thinking about this stuff and worrying about it 24/7, 365 days a year will do that to you. I can't do anything or go anywhere without worrying about the future, as well as being bald.

[Marz]

The more isolated me make ourselves the smaller our comfort zone becomes. I honestly don't think its being bald or the future exclusively that is messing with you but more your disappointment in yourself for not being able to overcome it.

I really suggest you force yourself into a situation that you are unable to take shelter in your comfort zone (your house / apartment). Maybe sign up for something that will get you interacting with people a little more and reduce the macro focus you have on yourself.

[Hp291]

This is true. I have issues with my mind. I overthink things in both good ways and very bad too. I jokingly ask my g/f to hit me in the head with a bat so I can get amnesia. I think that might work lol.

But trust me, it's the baldness and how I feel I look combined with how people react to it which is holding me back. i don't want to be the guy where people look at your head (and they do, ive done it, others do it all the time) or the guy where I get jokes about it. Im TOO sensitive about the issue to take a joke about it.

But I agree about signing up for stuff. Just haven't quite figured out what it is. Part of me is considering just trying to get a job and forcing myself to endure the turmoil. I'll either deal with it or more likely, have 324234234 panic attacks every day. But hey, it's an option right?

[Pshrynk]

This is true. I have issues with my mind. I overthink things in both good ways and very bad too. I jokingly ask my g/f to hit me in the head with a bat so I can get amnesia. I think that might work lol.

But trust me, it's the baldness and how I feel I look combined with how people react to it which is holding me back. i don't want to be the guy where people look at your head (and they do, ive done it, others do it all the time) or the guy where I get jokes about it. Im TOO sensitive about the issue to take a joke about it.

But I agree about signing up for stuff. Just haven't quite figured out what it is. Part of me is considering just trying to get a job and forcing myself to endure the turmoil. I'll either deal with it or more likely, have 324234234 panic attacks every day. But hey, it's an option right?

Which is why you should REALLY find a good therapist or counselor that you can connect with and get help to get over this rough patch and get on with your life.

The BS excuse you gave before is that you had been to therapy before and it didn't help....

How about rather than blaming the therapist that was trying to help you ---  maybe take a good long look at yourself....

Perhaps therapy didn't work because you weren't committed to making your life better?   

Ask yourself.. .why is it everyones fault but yours?

[WannaBePadre]

Plenty of people in religious work who have been down and coming back up ... not many are self-righteous, since most of us know we're broke and can't fix ourselves ... if you're not the praying type, sorry for the imposition ... but it works for me ... peace, bro.