hi

[Itsonlyinmyhead]

Ok I havent read the whole of this thread mainly because it is soooooooooo long so I apologise for repeating anything. But anyways here goes

  Hello Andy, welcome to SBG, the buzz cut looks good on you. Post a pic of how it looked when it was shaved, and also post a pic of how your hair looked when it was grown out. It looks good on you short, I dont see why your so twisted over the whole thing.
 
   I too am only in my 20s, I am 24, I first noticed receeding when I was 15/16, I didnt start buzzing my hair until a few months ago thanks to these guys, I havent yet shaved as Im not ready for it, but I will because I am not wearing a wig or getting hair sewn into my head and leaving nasty scars(HT).  I was depressed about it, I thought girls wouldnt like me, I thought my friends would start going off me, I thought it would make me look weak, I thought alot of things.  But it comes down to the fact, you can have hair, no hair or a dandelion growing out of your head, its how you act that forms people's opinions of you.

So chin up, sh*t happens, get on with life. No one is going to carry you, youve got to pick yourself up, its what life is about.

hey andy yeah i would go see a therapist they can help out a whole lot. im also 23 and going bald cause it runs in my family but i learned to accept it. i think u look awesome wit ur head shaved in your pic u still look young and everything

No offense as this is solely my opinion but I would probably go along the talk to your friends, talk to the guys on this board, I would use a therapist as a last resort but if its necessary then do it, dont let yourself slip. AND THE MAJOR PART OF MY ADVICE IS DO NOT POST ON HAIRLOSS FORUMS as you will be dragged into their little circle of depression and self pity, especially when your feeling this way, I still post occasionally on HLT and there are some people on there who are stuck down a hole and you do not want to join them.

p.s. since Ive been buzzing my head I couldnt be more confident, and I think it shows as I seem to have more girls checking me out, and my friends seem to love being round me more as I entertain them

[Andy007]

i think this is a horse that has been slaughtered, no offense Andy, but obviously we are trying to help and at the same time be objective...I don't think any response given is the answer you are going to be looking for.

I was in your shoes, honestly, I was thinning really bad at 23 and shaved my head, then decided to try ever medicine, or quick fix under the sun. I was in the military and couldn't wear a hat indoors when I was in uniform. I then joined the Hair Club and wore a wig for 7yrs, at first it was great, but then it got to be a hassle and very costly. Now I have been "sly" for 4 mos. and maybe because I am 31 I have matured and accepted my delt hand, but I do love my look and myself. I am marrying a beautiful woman in less than 40 days and I don't even concern myself about what my head/hair does, or doesn't look like...I was worrying so much that I started to be depressed and didn't know what to do, know, I may wear a hat once a month and only because I didn't have a chance to shave my head...talk about irony.

My point is, everything happens for a reason, this is easier said then done, but believe me buddy...YOU WILL BE FINE!!!!! Besides, in the long run, you don't want to be with a woman that judges you on your looks. You don't want to have to worry about if she is cheating or not because of YOU being insecure.

Life is tough bro, go to the gym, get your body and mind in shape, and the rest will follow, please don't do what I did and allow something as stupid as hair control your life.

I am here for you if you have more questions Andy. 

thank you very much YOSP! it helps much to see that im not the only one who has these deep issues with hairloss.
if you wore a wig for 7 years you must have been more desperate than i am now. ok i hided my hairloss for 4 or 5 years. even not good. well lets not compare because it doesnt lead anywhere. but its good to hear that even other guys make desperate decisions out of hairloss.
im starting to accept it now. i dont like it and i still want to have nice hair and a hair style but at the moment i cant change it. maybe im lucky and treatments work good and in 3 month when my hair is over an inch long it will look normal with a normal hair style.
we dont know. but i want hair, you cannot change that and i dont want to change it or i dont want anyone to change it. i like having some hair more than no hair. and i will let it grow  again. maybe i dont look that good anymore then, but i want it. i want to try how it looks then and what i can do with it. please let me this. i dont want to shave again.
but nonetheless its good that i learn to accept my hairloss now. i really much need to see some people like you all said. i will try to get some meetings with people i know and from who i can get an opinion.
its getting better with me even if dont feel the best. i mean, i think you all are open for new things. so i think you all are ok with me letting it grow out again.
but i will let you guys be updated and i will show you photos of me of my progress so you can tell me what looks better and if i look ok with hair.
shaving isnt THE BEST way. its just one way. if you have nearly no hair on top its maybe really the best solution. but for me not. i dont want to wear a combover but i want to conceal a bit with the right style. its always a struggle because you must be careful that you dont overdo it and then have a combover hair style.
my mom is very critical with my hair style...she even told me i would look butt ugly when i hided my hairloss with a combover. but last time i got hair before shaving she said my hair style looked good. well let me attach a photo.

[Andy007]

Ok I havent read the whole of this thread mainly because it is soooooooooo long so I apologise for repeating anything. But anyways here goes

  Hello Andy, welcome to SBG, the buzz cut looks good on you. Post a pic of how it looked when it was shaved, and also post a pic of how your hair looked when it was grown out. It looks good on you short, I dont see why your so twisted over the whole thing.
 
   I too am only in my 20s, I am 24, I first noticed receeding when I was 15/16, I didnt start buzzing my hair until a few months ago thanks to these guys, I havent yet shaved as Im not ready for it, but I will because I am not wearing a wig or getting hair sewn into my head and leaving nasty scars(HT).  I was depressed about it, I thought girls wouldnt like me, I thought my friends would start going off me, I thought it would make me look weak, I thought alot of things.  But it comes down to the fact, you can have hair, no hair or a dandelion growing out of your head, its how you act that forms people's opinions of you.

So chin up, sh*t happens, get on with life. No one is going to carry you, youve got to pick yourself up, its what life is about.

hey andy yeah i would go see a therapist they can help out a whole lot. im also 23 and going bald cause it runs in my family but i learned to accept it. i think u look awesome wit ur head shaved in your pic u still look young and everything

No offense as this is solely my opinion but I would probably go along the talk to your friends, talk to the guys on this board, I would use a therapist as a last resort but if its necessary then do it, dont let yourself slip. AND THE MAJOR PART OF MY ADVICE IS DO NOT POST ON HAIRLOSS FORUMS as you will be dragged into their little circle of depression and self pity, especially when your feeling this way, I still post occasionally on HLT and there are some people on there who are stuck down a hole and you do not want to join them.

p.s. since Ive been buzzing my head I couldnt be more confident, and I think it shows as I seem to have more girls checking me out, and my friends seem to love being round me more as I entertain them

thx for your response. helps.

[YOSP]

 
if you wore a wig for 7 years you must have been more desperate than i am now. ok i hided my hairloss for 4 or 5 years. even not good. well lets not compare because it doesnt lead anywhere. but its good to hear that even other guys make desperate decisions out of hairloss.
im starting to accept it now. i dont like it and i still want to have nice hair and a hair style but at the moment i cant change it. maybe im lucky and treatments work good and in 3 month when my hair is over an inch long it will look normal with a normal hair style.
we dont know. but i want hair, you cannot change that and i dont want to change it or i dont want anyone to change it. i like having some hair more than no hair. and i will let it grow  again. maybe i dont look that good anymore then, but i want it. i want to try how it looks then and what i can do with it. please let me this. i dont want to shave again.

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Actually, I wasn't as desparate as you...I never considered ending my life over something...

WHY ARE YOU ON THIS SITE???

you don't make any sense at all, everyone is trying to help you and then you keep crying? grow-up dude and be a man...shave your hair or don't, you are the one that has to live with YOU....this is the wrong site, you need to go to...www.i'mconfusedscaredandneedtogrowup.com

[Itsonlyinmyhead]

YOSP - Come on dude you need to help people rather than criticise them, if you dont believe me then look at HLT Forum, there are some lost souls there. Andy is still coming to terms with his fate and Im sure he will settle down soon and accept slyness or whatever route he takes, at least he is trying and not hiding the fact.  There are guys who are relying solely on meds which just isnt going to happen. Remember the first step is acceptance

[YOSP]

YOSP - Come on dude you need to help people rather than criticise them, if you dont believe me then look at HLT Forum, there are some lost souls there. Andy is still coming to terms with his fate and Im sure he will settle down soon and accept slyness or whatever route he takes, at least he is trying and not hiding the fact.  There are guys who are relying solely on meds which just isnt going to happen. Remember the first step is acceptance

First of all, if you go back and read a couple of replies that I sent, you will see that I did indeed try to help. So make sure next time you do some research on what you are talking about...now you can take your foot out of your mouth.

I sincerely tried to help this guy, but his replies to the help given just don't make sense...

[Itsonlyinmyhead]

Ok sorry for not reading your earlier posts, but I still stand by my point that you shouldnt be so harsh, at least he has had the balls to shave his head.
    I know and you know what it feels like to be a little lost when experiencing hairloss, Im not trying to have a go at you I just think a calmer approach would be better.   I find your posts interesting as youve been there and done it with the meds and hair systems and have provided some valuable insight.
   As you said you shaved your head when you were 31 (and settled with it as "your hand had been dealt")  and seem to have everything you could wan t, congrats on the impending wedding btw. But everyone has their own way when dealing with change. Just give him time, as Ive said there are guys on these hairloss forums who are all over the place, Andy is doing fine in comparison
  I think Ill keep my foot in my mouth.

Andy-dont rely on the meds, by no means are they 100% like the guys on the hairloss forums swear or consider a hair transplant

[Andy007]

well, if the meds stop working i will HAVE TO be sly bald.

but actually i even can wear a buzz cut. i asked some people and they told me they dont like the sly bald look that good, they fin a buzz cut better.

i think i find a buzz cut better too. and what is so bad about wearing my hair?

im doing better i wrote it. im doing much better. cant say im completley over it but for a big part. i made the first step.

i yesterday met a friend. and he perfectley acted normal to me. no little change in his acting.

that gave me much. we went on the campus and i even met some other people i knew and all acted perfectley normal to me.

that gives me much.

especially to YOSP again.....IM DOING BETTER!

[champ007]

Hey Andy007, Nice name by the way... Look, I started at page one and made it here without putting a bullet in my head, so here is what I would like to see you do. First of all, get a workout routine and tone your body. Work on your arms, chest, abs, legs, etc. In other words, buff up. Not like the terminator, lets look at Toby Mcguire of Spiderman. Work out on Monday, tuesday, thursday and friday. For now forget about your hair, you like it buzzed, buzz it. You want it grown out, let it grow, you want to shave it, shave it. Take the next 3 months, concentrate on your body, take your meds if needed but as you start feeling healthier, take a little less of them. During this whole time, don't ask anyone for their opinion of how you look. If you stay with this for 3 months and change your appearance, actually control a part of your appearance that you can control, then you take another look at your whole body, and decide what to do with your head.
From one double agent to another, I hope you will at least give it a try, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain! 

[Andy007]

thx champ007.

my hair is getting better hahaha.   

its getting thicker. the treatment works .

i think if its grown out it will look good.

[warhawk]

andy..... all i gotta say is that i'm GLAD that u r alive & doing better.  take care & don't ever think 'bout physically hurting yourself, again.  whatever u do... whether u shave or keep your hair.... we want u 2 make your own decision based on your opinion only and NOT OTHERS.  take care & c ya around the forum.

WARHAWK

[YOSP]

Good luck with whatever you decide to do...

[SLYinKC]

Hey Andy, I kinda just watched this thread from the sidelines, but I can't let this go by without saying I'm with the rest of your brothers here on this site.  You need to take a good look at where your indecision is taking you in life. Sometimes you've just gotta be a man and step up to the plate and take some risks.  Nothing was ever gained without taking risks.  We are here for you, but not to hear you cry and complain in indecision without telling you like it is.  Do the deed bro, you won't regret it.

[jusbnme]

wow-wee-wow!!!   

[Andy007]

its getting better. i was out with two different friends today. makes it better to see that they react absolutley normal to me.

i dont look so much and concentrated in the mirror anymore.

thx for your help guys. i hope its getting better to a point where i dont think about it anymore or nearly anymore.