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I lost all my self confidence
Lith:
I think you should go for the 30 day challange! I shaved my head out of the blue 4 days ago and I feel so liberated! (I found this site after I did it) As far as other people.. If a woman wont take you as bald then you shouldn't waste your time on them anyway. It just shows their true colors. I am 23 and just got fed up with the balding.. I've struggled with it for a while.. But it was time I take control. I give myself confidence. Most woman dont care how their spouse/boyfriend looks.. Woman LOVE confidence even if you dont mean to display it. Try out the 30 day challange and I almost garuntee you'll feel great at the end of those 30 days!
AgentBald:
Shaving my head completely, was a choice that I made...and once I did it, I felt like I was "reborn" like a new man. Its funny too...the moment I shaved my head the more I realized how mainstream it is to be bald! Almost 1 in 3 or 4 men have a shaved head! So WE'RE in good company!! ;)
karmapolice:
Hello guys, I'm really sorry that it's over a year ago since my last post. Your replies and advices were so kind that I really should have written earlier. I would like to tell you how I continued if somebody wants to know and to let other people know how I overcome this "problem" (which is no real problem as I know now).
In spring this year I started to shave my head. As you can see in my first post I struggled with my hairloss. I read your replies, thought a lot about it and I can't explain it but something changed in me. It suddenly made all sense to me. Really, I spontaneously took hair clippers, buzzed it down and called a friend to shave it. I felt free and liberated and gained so much confidence, like everything that you described, amazing.
Everything that I was concerned about happened to be false, also like you guys said. Nobody really cared about it. Some saw it as a normal "hair style", many said it looks good and new people that I met would never know me differently (only one guy at my university asked me if I'm a Nazi but that's a "german" problem you have to deal with when you shave your head, probably no problem for you in the USA). All the girls that I know or met had absolutely no problem with it. My current girlfriend even mentioned one time how confident I am. Friends and family also reacted totally normal and nice. I'm so happy that I did it and first was a little bit angry about myself that I needed so long, but better late than never. It's so true what you wrote that I made it a bigger problem than it was.
I think the most important thing that I started to see hairloss as nothing was seeing ill and disabled persons and realizing how I would feel if I were suddenly in that situation. There are people who lost an arm or a leg, who suffer so badly of some disease, there are blind people who can never see the beauty of our nature or deaf people who will never have the possibility to listen to the beautiful sounds of Pink Floyd or Led Zeppelin. And there I am complaining about hairloss? It appeared absurd to me and also like a sin against life. I realized that I should be thankful that I can run and handle my life by myself, that I can see and hear and don't suffer of a real disease. I started to enjoy my life again, to travel, to hang out with friends and there is no way that I could ever fall back in depression because of hairloss. I think once you really overcome it, it's over forever.
I can still understand really young people who are 18 or 21 and who suffer because of this. I think it takes a certain level of maturity or life experience to overcome it. Some can do it earlier, some later. I hope that maybe my post helps one of these guys.
Again, thank you very much, guys, for your advices. They turned out to be all true :)
AJ Q-Ball:
I have this site to thank too for helping me turn the corner. In one of your earlier posts, you mentioned your girlfriend at the time told you that most women don't like bald guys. She was indeed very far from the truth. I'm glad it's worked out for you and you don't have to be afraid of balding anymore. Life is too short to worry about losing hair.
Cave Dweller:
That post really made my morning, Karma. Thank you.
So many guys have made a few posts about their respective anxiety over losing their hair and their concerns about reactions if they shave, then stop all posts and we never hear from them again. I am sincerely glad that you are happy with your choice and are doing well.
Please stay around for a while. Other guys who are going through what you did could certainly benefit from you telling them your story.
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