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I lost all my self confidence

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isleepinthebuff:
On a totally separate vein.  Karmapolice might actually be my favourite forum name.

Welcome!

Thai boy:
Karmapolice

Welcome to the forum from another newbie.

I really empathise with you and as usual excellent supportive comments from the guys on here.  I am new to the forum and have only shaved my head for two weeks.  I am 52 this year and wish now I had done it years ago.  I am happily married so have not had to go through the torment that you have expressed in regards to your thoughts and the opposite sex.  I noticed you are about to embark upon your thirties.  In my opinion and experience your perspective in regards to your hair and the torment you have to experience every time you look in a mirror will not change until you take control of the situation. Maybe by writing on here is a good indication that the time has come for you to take some action.  What a great chance to enter into your thirties with a new style and I am sure a major boost in your confidence. In regards to noticing other couples I use to think the same but now I am sly I seem to notice all the nice looking girls are with the sly guys.  I think this is more of a perception than a fact.  It's amazing  how controlling our minds can be especially in regards to issues connected to low self esteem or lack of self worth.

You asked where do sly guys get their confidence from.  I personally believe it is because we have taken control of our thinning hair.  We are no longer 'slaves' to having to constantly look in the mirror, adjusting what little hair we have or having to hide ourselves away from others. Confidence comes from within and taking control of any situation in our lives

Hope you manage to find the answers to your questions and take the best step forward for yourself.

Good luck my friend

karmapolice:
In Germany more and more Nazis go to the university, study law and have "normal" hair cuts. They want to shift away from the "aggressive" and "primitive", violent behaviour to get more people. But still most "normal" people here connect bald SHAVED heads with Nazis. But I think you're right, Slymike, a nice smile, the right clothes (Nazis with shaved heads wear often products from certain brands like "Thor Steinar") and friendly behaviour (to all nationalities) will show that I don't belong to this group of human garbage (sry, but I hate Nazis).

I think you are all right. I have to shave my head to free myself. Friends and family members already ask me why I wear hats all the time and it's so embarrassing to tell the truth so I lie. I feel bad then because I know they already know the truth and just don't want to hurt my feelings, so they pretend to believe me. I started to work out a few months ago to feel better and get some of my self confidence back. First and foremost I want to like myself again. It must be a great feeling not to think about the light in a room and how much of the skin on my head is visible. I can't even remember how it was to be free from such fears. I hope that one day I can laugh about my current behaviour...

I think this is a great site with a great forum. It's sad that we live in a world where the media want to dictate us what kind of men are attractive (namely the ones with full hair) and the men with little or no self confidence need some kind of support. It's great not only to have people here who suffer from the same problem but to have strong personalities who went through all the pain and suffering I did and to give advice and moral support. It's good to know that I'm not alone and that other people have or had the same fears and concerns. I would like to stay on this forum, read more posts and maybe soon write about positive changes in my life. Thanks to all of you, thank you very, very much!

slymyke:
Feel free to stay on this forum and add comments when you feel led to (you don't have to be sly yet)... Just the fact that you are considering going sly is what brings you here.  As you can tell, this group is accepting of all.  Yes, we promote shaved heads because we know the freedom it has given us personally, but we also know that it is a personal decision that can only happen when you are ready.  That moment is different for each of us. 

Magoo:
Karmapolice,you sound so down on yourself.I don't think you would have the confidence to shave your head.Sometimes the best advice is to get professional help. I don't mean this in any derogatory way , but only as away to help.

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