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#15 by Mikekoz13 on 17 May, 2013 15:22
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Nobody gets banned if they state their opinion respectfully.
Self confidence is the key to happiness and yours is in a bad place right now. Become confident and your life will change.
You, and only you, are the Master of your own way in Life.
Don't place your confidence or happiness in the hands of others or in superficial things.
Simple advice, I know. You can choose to use it or not.
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#16 by TheSlyBear on 17 May, 2013 16:02
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Maybe it's because I've been buzzing/shaving for over 30 years, but I honestly look back to when I was younger and losing my hair, and I can't recall it ever being a big deal to me. It makes me wonder why so may young men gauge their self-worth on whether they have something as superficial as hair on their head or not.
There are so many important things in life to worry about, hair simply didn't make my list, I guess.
As to people noticing or not, when I shaved my head the first time, my boss, about 20 minutes into a meeting, asked "Did you get new glasses or something?"
Granted I was going from buzzed to bald. Surely, going from something like shoulder-length hair to shaved would bound to be noticed. But really, who cares?
My advice is to try to rid yourself of pre-conceieved notions likely fostered by advertising and corporate interests, and assess the ideas presented by Tyler and the other guys who post here in a new and fresh light. -
#17 by Jay on 17 May, 2013 16:24
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Let me repeat for you a wonderful quote from Dr Suess that I posted yesterday on another thread:
"Those who matter don't mind. Those that mind don't matter" -
#18 by Hingatao on 18 May, 2013 11:51
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Jay summed it up very well. The only opinion that really matters is your own. My advice? Man up, accept the inevitable and move on. Stop letting your hair, or lack of hair, dictate your life.
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#19 by Haz_pro on 18 May, 2013 13:02
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What a load of tosh. Sounds to me like OP is just very self conscious. I shaved my head and have walked with my head held high since day one. I love my receding, bald, 22 year old head, and this is not fake, I am completely comfortable being me.
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#20 by benlen on 18 May, 2013 17:27
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This topic appears to become a strange critique of Tyler's video and the whole idea of being "noticed."
Soniktts, you seem to have desires that are at odds with one another. As a self described short, unattractive, and bald man, you seem to be saying that these three factors prevent you from being noticed, presumably from the opposite sex, friends, etc....and yet the idea of being noticed because of having a shaved head is somehow not desirable?
Of those "three strikes" against you, Soniktts, I would say the only real issue you face in attractiveness is your height. Women don't care as much about hair, or even if you don't have the prettiest face in the world––but they do have a lot to say about height.
But hey, it could be worse. You could be crippled or missing a limb, suffer from cancer, have a terminal disease, live in a third world country, etc.
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#21 by Soniktts on 07 Jun, 2013 20:44
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Nobody gets banned if they state their opinion respectfully.
Self confidence is the key to happiness and yours is in a bad place right now. Become confident and your life will change.
You, and only you, are the Master of your own way in Life.
Don't place your confidence or happiness in the hands of others or in superficial things.
Simple advice, I know. You can choose to use it or not.
......... and Welcome!
Our confidence and self-worth stem from others. One can never truly be comfortable living within oneself. I disagree I'm afraid. -
#22 by Soniktts on 07 Jun, 2013 20:47
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Maybe it's because I've been buzzing/shaving for over 30 years, but I honestly look back to when I was younger and losing my hair, and I can't recall it ever being a big deal to me. It makes me wonder why so may young men gauge their self-worth on whether they have something as superficial as hair on their head or not.
There are so many important things in life to worry about, hair simply didn't make my list, I guess.
As to people noticing or not, when I shaved my head the first time, my boss, about 20 minutes into a meeting, asked "Did you get new glasses or something?"
Granted I was going from buzzed to bald. Surely, going from something like shoulder-length hair to shaved would bound to be noticed. But really, who cares?
My advice is to try to rid yourself of pre-conceieved notions likely fostered by advertising and corporate interests, and assess the ideas presented by Tyler and the other guys who post here in a new and fresh light.
I have always had short hair. It started receeding though in the first year of university and I've been a torrent of abuse ever since. The ideas just seem to add up to me. I think I will eventually reach a state of acceptance of comments passed at me and learn to live with it. I believe this is the best I can hope for. -
#23 by Soniktts on 07 Jun, 2013 20:49
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Jay summed it up very well. The only opinion that really matters is your own. My advice? Man up, accept the inevitable and move on. Stop letting your hair, or lack of hair, dictate your life.
When something infiltrates your school life, work place, (lack of) love life and personal life, it matters I'm afraid.
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#24 by Soniktts on 07 Jun, 2013 20:51
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What a load of tosh. Sounds to me like OP is just very self conscious. I shaved my head and have walked with my head held high since day one. I love my receding, bald, 22 year old head, and this is not fake, I am completely comfortable being me.
More power to you, I'm truly happy for you. I bet you're a good looking guy and as tall as anything however.
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#25 by Soniktts on 07 Jun, 2013 20:57
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This topic appears to become a strange critique of Tyler's video and the whole idea of being "noticed."
Soniktts, you seem to have desires that are at odds with one another. As a self described short, unattractive, and bald man, you seem to be saying that these three factors prevent you from being noticed, presumably from the opposite sex, friends, etc....and yet the idea of being noticed because of having a shaved head is somehow not desirable?
Matter of opinion whether a shaved head is a good idea. In mine, it's not.Of those "three strikes" against you, Soniktts, I would say the only real issue you face in attractiveness is your height. Women don't care as much about hair, or even if you don't have the prettiest face in the world––but they do have a lot to say about height.
Height is only the anchor. Combine the three. Not nice.But hey, it could be worse. You could be crippled or missing a limb, suffer from cancer, have a terminal disease, live in a third world country, etc.
That horse has already been beaten to death. Problems in the western world do not become unimportant because there are people suffering in physical terms elsewhere, despite being mean to say.
I consider my problems resulting in a social disability anyway. -
#26 by Soniktts on 07 Jun, 2013 21:01
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This definitely does work; I can personally testify to that FACT.
Keep smiling, friend.
If you have a 5"5, unattractive, bald at 22 happy go lucky fella on these forums, I'd love to meet him.
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#27 by Razor X on 07 Jun, 2013 21:35
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This definitely does work; I can personally testify to that FACT.
Keep smiling, friend.
If you have a 5"5, unattractive, bald at 22 happy go lucky fella on these forums, I'd love to meet him.
What is it that you hope to find here?
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#28 by Haz_pro on 08 Jun, 2013 02:50
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I am only 5 ft 7/8 and meet the other criteria (mpb, bald etc). I am perfectly happy and comfortable in my skin, although it may help that I have a long term partner and a child who would love me no matter what. Maybe I don't care as much about how others perceive me as most do?
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#29 by Sir Harry on 08 Jun, 2013 05:54
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Um....You think being 5'5" and balding is a disadvantage......Well, sir, we have wheelchair bound members who participate happily.....we have members that are battling diseases but soldier on and participate happily....We have many members that are under six feet tall and don't let their height and their hair dictate their life.....So life has handed you a few lemons....what are you going to do, make lemonade or let the lemons sit there and rot making life more sour for you....Even if you don't want to shave your head, that's fine, we have members who buzz it shorter or just rock on with what they have left. You, sir are in my prayers and I'll be pulling for you to get to the level of acceptance that you seek. One more thing, if you don't like Tyler's video, that's fine and good, but I challenge you to post a photo if you are serious about getting advice and/or help for yourself. Have a good day.