Can you guys believe these "Hairlosshelp.com" jerks?

[killingmesoftly]

Oops. Hit the send button. 2 months after my surgery, so now I'm screwed.

I feel sorry for them. There are some trolls but some of the guys just aren't ready to give in. I can understand that.


But anyway, good for you guys. If you are all as happy and wise as you seem , the whole world should go sly.

[Sir Harry]

It's all about what makes the individual happy. Do some of the members of that site sound bitter? Sure, however part of the problem with some members of some forums is they tend to go with the "my way or the highway" attitude meaning that if you don't do what I do, you're wrong. If they are happy wishing for a hair growing miracle, let them enjoy themselves over there, because we sure are happy over here...Right?

[buddha]

I don't know but I read the entire thread that was linked and most of the people seemed to come down on the original poster as being judgemental. It seemed to me that most of them expressed the opinion that shaving of the skull was, to paraphrase, an honorable act. There was one guy called "the norwegian" who wanted to divide the issue along racial lines. His opinion was that someone with dark skin should shave his head while someone who is pasty and lacks coloration should buzz. In fact he pointed out that shaving is wrong for white guys while buzzing is "correct". But a few people came down on him as well.

I think we're safe for now.

[Hingatao]

I read some of those posts. The consistently sour attitude almost made me want to join just so I could post something to the effect of "Man up, guys. Hair loss isn't the end of the world. Now accept it, deal with it and move on. Nobody likes whiners and complainers. Get over it."

[baldjoeg]

Well said fellow sly brothers. I can't really add anything new.

[MarkusToe]

I think we're safe for now.

  haha, hope so! I can understand that going bald is frightening for lots of people (it definitely was for me), so they may be in denial and trying to deny it - although I'm not religious I really like this quote

God, give me grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.

[isleepinthebuff]

Maybe I am missing the point but there are a number of positive replies about shaving your head on that thread? 

[Todo Duro]

The difference between the two forums could be down to the fact that drugs and transplants are at best temporary fixes (honestly, who ever heard of total, permanent recovery from male hairloss?) and come with a hefty bill of physical and financial side effects. I think most of the people on the other forum must be aware of this, at least subconsciously, so they may also feel that they are basically pouring a lot of effort into waging a losing war... and a discouraged army is hardly the most positive and healthy environment to be in. And toxic environments attract trolls like s*%t attracts flies.
Whereas for most of the users of this forum is more of a matter of accepting one's lot, embracing it, enjoying its (many) positive sides in full, and move on. Makes sense?

[BillOnBass]

Well said, Todo!

[killingmesoftly]

Having been one of those "jerks" I went on an HT forum today and just felt sad.  So many are fighting a losing battle.  Sooooooo ,uch money, so much hope, so much disappointment, etc.  I feel really bad for them.

[sahil15]

I think the guy who posted that is just angry and frustrated and is venting it the best way he thinks he can. If I had to guess hes probably at a early stage of MPB and believes there is hope for him. And maybe there is and maybe there isnt. Best thing is to let these people be and not get into a heated argument with them

[Frontier Guy]

Not directly related, but why is it that "misery loves company" and optimism requires a lot of reinforcement? I've noticed this in many workplaces and social settings.

[Sir Harry]

All good points Todo Duro, Sahil, and Frontier Guy!

[D.A.L.U.I.]

That thread is 7 years old now...before SBG had even been created.  A lot of perception has changed since then.  With that said, there are still a LOT of guys on that forum that don't get it and are searching for the holy grail to getting their hair back. 

"[A]re searching" made me wonder.  So, I did several Google searches, hair loss, bald, & with help, etc.  To my amazement SBG never made it to the top page of the search--I only looked at the top page.  hairlosshelp.com often was on that first page.  I wonder if SBG might not consider changing the language of the home page to capture some of those searches so that at the very least the safe, sane and happy alternative is at least on the radar screen of those looking for help when they start waking up to hair on the pillow, having to clean out the shower drain on a weekly basis because it's clogged with hair.  Just a thought.

[Slyfive]

Good point Saint, this site should be the first port of call! It amuses me that the OP claims people who shave are trying to hide their balding and are just as insecure, but if anything it strikes me as the opposite. When you have no hair to hide anything, it's out there in the open for everyone to see... And we're ok with that.