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Confidence Issues
leighmundo40:
I think it's a maturity thing and a pack mentality thing, once one starts, the others join in. Double standards really, because can you imagine the sh*t storm that would ensue if you pointed out that a girl had a wonky boob, and took pictures of her, posting them with the tag "Wonky"???
It's easy to say "rise above it" but, that is what you have got to do. And yes, there is an element of going along with the joke and putting on a brave face, however, you can also say "You know what? It aint funny, so move on!"
MarkusToe:
first let me say goingbald20 and saucy - from your profile pictures I think you are good looking dudes
and now to the girls: I always felt very insecure about my looks so I always thought about what other people might think about me and "hopefully they don't think of me as too unattractive and I hope they like me" - things like that - it never ever came to my mind to think about if I like those people, if they match my standards
I have always been insecure in the presence of attractive people and thought of me as inferior, even if they were complete morons and idiots, just lately I defined my own standards and now I always try to think if I like those people and if they are such shallow, insensitive, rude and definitely unconfident persons I won't mind about their stupid behaviour. there have been way too many times where I accepted someones bad behaviour, just because I thought I had no right to say something against it because I was inferior of my looks - that's how harmful such self defeating beliefs can be - and you know what, I dont blame the persons who treated me badly because I didn't tell them not to and it never had consequences for them - now I respect myself and now I know that I don't have to run after every attractive girl who seems to be interested in me
so please don't give a f**** about those girls - it really means nothing - there are sure girls (now women) out there who once thought Vanilla Ice is cool dude - so what do they know?
so keep practicing the guitar! who are your favorite guitarists? mine are neil young, john frusciante, jimi hendrix, nick drake, joe pass, wes montgomery, nels cline and many many more ;D
bbcguytom:
Forget those people, as they are immature. Did you ever think of the people you will attract because your bald? Food for thought.
sleekunique:
I guess my younger days weren't quite that harsh from the start, but I do remember the first time a girl stood over me and pointed out that I was thinning. I was only 18! I ignored it for a few years, but it was obvious I was gonna be bald young. And when I did decide to shave off the hideous "curtains"I did it for a laugh for fancy dress.
I do have a good batch of mates though that only ribbed my a little about it. I always came back with comments like "Think of all that money I will save not paying for haircuts and shampoo, gel, wax or hairspray." After I knew I was going to go bald I knew I had to accept it. The alternatives are ridiculous.
So I got on with it. It actually made me kick myself in the arse. I lost 2 stone of beer fat and toned up and got fit again. It made me realise I could style myself on one option of hair style. No more did I have to panic about wind swept hair or getting gel in my eyes. ITS ACTUALLY GOING TO MAKE MY LIFE EASIER!!
Positive thinking my man.... it will take you places.
And once you do get some confidence (over time granted) there will be a host of girls that dig that head of yours. When I was your age I met my ex-girlfriend of 9 years. She is a pretty girl. And there has been a few since.
And you will have to take a middle ground with idiots taking the piss. Don't get all crazy about it but don't just roll with the punches. Theres no harm in actually telling them "Heyyyyyyy it took my ages to work the courage to do this!! Shaving it was a bitch!" Act all hurt and innocent but with a bit of acting charm, you may even get an apology or even a positive comment!
bennett11:
Many many years ago I buzzed my hair very short while in college. I got nicknamed cue ball. Actually I liked that as I felt I got noticed and had the courage to be me - greater self confidence.
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