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SAUCY SAUCE:
The other night I was at my friends house hanging out SLY for the first time. (i had been wearing hats around them for about three years to conceal my baldness.) To my surprise no one really even mentioned it, there were a few jokes but they didnt even bother me. Later on that night however, some girls showed up and without saying hi to anyone they skipped right over to me saying "omg Robbie, you look like a conehead". They then proceeded to take out their phones and take pictures of me, captioning them "conehead robbie" and putting them on Instagram. The whole night those girls called me conehead, and when a few more girls arrived, the girls introduced me as conehead. I tried playing along but it started to really get to me. Here I am trying to be confident and show the world that I am bald and i got crushed and shattered. My guy friends all hit it off with the girls, and i just sat there and watched, it made me feel inferior and that i should have wore a hat.

Prior to this ordeal i had been feeling more confident about my looks, but now i feel that im back to square one. I was already having a tough time with confidence with girls, and this just made matters worse. Now everytime i see a girl i want to possibly date, "conehead" is the first thing that comes to mind, and probably hers too.  :-[

how do i get over this and move on??? i know its not helping me any just sitting here thinking about it.

Paul the Headblader:
Although being bald is not such a big deal, some persons seem to be amazed when they see it for the first time.
All you can do when this happens, is to go with it, and the persons that were only joking about it will stop, and the persons that have a problem with your shaved ehad will get bored, seeing that you enjoy the "jokes".
And think of it like that: The  chicks ignored the others, and went straight to you, because you were somehow...diffrent. Make that count.

Frontier Guy:
I know it's difficult when it happens. I think it's just a matter of lack of maturity.

Although stereotypical (which I prefer not to do) it does seem that many people in late teens and early 20s are focused on superficial traits and may be insensitive (intentional or otherwise). Bald, fat, speech impediment, wrong brand of shoes, wrong color of shirt, unpopular music style, etc. It is what it is and you just have to "let it go" and rise above and recognize you are the more mature individual. Time and life experience will reduce the frequency of such encounters.

You need to reinforce your belief that the right girls will come along who will appreciate you for your qualities versus focusing on a single characteristic which really means very little.

When you have good encounters take a moment to savor them and to store that feeling in your mind, so that when a bad encounter comes along you can recall the good to counteract the effect. I do that when working customer service. I've got dozens of great experiences stored away that I can call upon anytime I have an unpleasant encounter. Immediately brings me back to zero.

And remember that you know the real you, you know the decision to go Sly was appropriate for you, and you are the better person. Confidence and self-respect take time to establish and reinforce, but it's worth it. Don't let one evening take control of your emotions.

Slynito:
Sorry you had a bad time, SS. We always run the risk of a confrontation with an offensive, rude and inconsiderate moron on life's journey. I even ran into one of these insecure jerks yesterday. We just have to let it go and move on and they need to get a life.

Why should I care what other people think of me?
I am who I am. And who I wanna be. Avril Lavigne

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waine:
Well said Frontier Guy...

Hey there Saucy.  I cannot keep my mouth shut when someone has a dig at me.  It is just how I am wired.  If I were there I would have hoped one of those girls had a fat arse so I could take a pic and put it on Instagram.  I know it is not the better thing to do.  To ignore them is the "right / rational" response, but I love a good argument some times.  If their buts are not fat then there will be some defect on their bodies: flat chest, big ears, pimples, anything you can make a comeback on!  It's very rare that a hot babe will mock like that.  Sometimes you must give it straight back.  It’s all part of the Sly confident thing --  not taking Crap from anyone!

But sometimes this attitude only comes with age, when your life partner has squeezed all her puppies, and you care less...

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