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goingbald20:
Bro, I understand 100% what you're feeling and what you are trying to say because I am currently dealing with it. I know what you mean when you say that one day everything seems perfect, and then the next day someone's comments can ruin your whole day.

I actually posted a post a couple weeks ago about the issue with girls making fun of me going bald and the cone-head comments. I am shaved down to a 0, which "camouflage" my head and makes it look like I am not losing any hair, for now. So, I would say I am 95% there... just 5% more to be Sly, but for some reason I still dont have the courage to do it yet.

Some people just will tell you not to pay attention to some of the comments people make, but its hard to not let those comment bother you, specially when those comments are from girls and you are at a party, or at a club, and all of the girls are going with the guys who have a full head of hair and not with the "baldie". Specially at our age, that's  what makes it more difficult for us to understand, is the age... girls at our age can be very immature sometimes, unfortunately.

Unfortunately, there is not anything we can do... at least for now about our hairloss..., best thing that I would reccomend to you, since I know how you are feeling... is that you can use all that negative energy that people make you feel sometimes, turn it around and use it for positive things. Find motivational/inspiration speakers, there is alot out there.

Also, work on trying to achieve success. I believe that Success should be everyone's main goal in life, because think about it when you achieve success, nothing else would come between you and success.... and definitely you will attract anything you want .

It has been actually been working for me now, since I am barely going out anymore, because I dont feel 100% confident yet to go out with my new "look" then I am using all of the time to instruct, motivate, and learn about success everything I can and trust me it has been working and now I feel more motivated, and my self-confidence is slowly improving everyday. Think about this,  Lets say In 5-10 years you become very successful, while the people who have been putting you down are going to basically be living miserable lifes..... while they are living miserably you will be  definitely attracting everything you want by then, and it will all be thanks to that success.

In other words, what I am trying to say is focus in YOU, in achieving success in anything you want and desire in your life, and by the time you reach those level of success, everything will start coming on its own.

I will reccomend you to watch  this guy, he has helped me tremendously, what I did was to watch all the videos in his channel from the beginning to end, and now I feel different because of the way I think and see things in life now.

This is his first video in his channel,



You should watch all of his videos from the oldest ones to the newest ones, and you will slowly begin to understand alot of about success and motivation. Take a look at his channel trust me pretty soon you will see result, it really does help.

Good luck bro.

Sir Harry:
Saucy and GB20....That's one thing I like about this forum is the fact that when you share a story, there's a good chance someone went through something similar.....But just remember, success is the best revenge, and you guys will find that special someone....Good luck guys.

mark:
Dude,what is the youth coming to? Girls that are I their twenties are this rude? These are not your friends. I know plenty of girls that get wet panties for bald guys. Tons of them! These are very immature people and they give you a hard time because they are insecure about themselves. I say find different people to hang out with if this crap keeps up. Keep shaving your head,daily,then you won't show much "pattern "baldness," then you shouldn't be too self conscious. The more comfortable you get with being bald,the better off you will be. Sometimes being able to make fun of yourself will shut assholes down as well.

If none of this works,put Nair in their shampoo bottles and rogaine on their toilet seats.

Baldstu:
Very rude girls , sounds like trolling and a very immature attitude.  Treat it with indifference , they are not your friends .

TunaSkin:
Saucy,

     you hit the nail on the head with your idea about doing other things to build your confidence. I mentioned this in another post on another thread, but I make it a point to not let my level of confidence be too tied up in any one thing. Especially not whether or not I have hair on my head!! One thing I think is a huge booster is getting your body in good physical condition. Take good care of yourself and people will notice that. Not only that, but more importantly YOU will feel better and that will build real confidence that can't be easily shaken. That's the kind you want. Real confidence.

   Look at guys like George St. Pierre and Anderson Silva from the UFC. Do you think those guys walk around with their heads down because they have bald heads? Do you think they would let some little girls comments bother them at all? Hell no! Because they've built some real confidence. That's what you need to do too. I'm not suggesting you try to become a world champion fighter (unless you want to!) but you do need to work hard on things that are going to build your confidence in a similar way and one thing that has always helped me is being in good shape. That's all.

   About those 23 year old girls...dude, let me just tell you. 23 year old girls don't know sh*t about ANYTHING. Forget you even met those girls because their silly little comments are absolutely nothing.

     
   Good luck to you, Brother
 

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