Confidence and Success > How to Build Confidence
Being bald, body-image, and depression
Frontier Guy:
Reddas, first of all welcome to Sly. This is an awesome place filled with awesome people. We all benefit from learning about each others' concerns and solutions.
I believe you need to rework your thought process. For example,
--- Quote from: Reddas on June 10, 2012, 09:56:25 AM ---But still I process it in my mind, ... how odd it is that I don't have hair when 95% of my friends got all their hair.
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this statement leads me to think you believe that 95% of your friends are better (than you) because they "got all their hair."
Why can't you be the in the 5% which are ahead of them because you've had the courage to take charge, break out of your shell, and go sly?
You look great, and you should inwardly feel and outwardly portray great pride and confidence.
vsG734:
Reddas I have the same problem. I think I look like a dopey fool. To me, you don't at all. Everyone says to just get over it and let it be part of you. Well I have tried for years. I think I AM over it. I think that other people are the ones who aren't.
I'm a great person. My condition has forced isolation upon my life. People will always be ignorant, superficial, and shallow to me. I don't bring my depression upon myself. Other people decide what I can and cannot do, and will tell me so until the day I die.
I've tried the f*** them attitude. With the way I look though, that ends up being a terribly large amount of people. If I look semi-ok in my picture it's just that picture.
I'm to the point where it's not even my head I care about anymore. All the compulsive behavior, violent attitude, and negativity is starting to wear on me. That's what sucks.
Honest-to-God, if I had my hair back, I would just shave it off by choice to prove a point. I hate people.
KDusk:
--- Quote from: vsG734 on June 10, 2012, 05:17:40 PM ---Reddas I have the same problem. I think I look like a dopey fool. To me, you don't at all. Everyone says to just get over it and let it be part of you. Well I have tried for years. I think I AM over it. I think that other people are the ones who aren't.
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Hey vsG,
While I agree when people say "It's just a haircut.", I also agree with you that it's a haircut that takes a lot of balls to go for (and that it's not something you 'just get over' in one day).
I highlighted in your comment the part that accounts for a lot of people, I think. "I think I look like a dopey fool. To me, you don't at all." While it's normal we look at ourselves through a magnifying glass, we shouldn't be any harder on ourselves than we are to other people. Sometimes I think I look stupid too and that everyone else looks perfect.
And other people are over it or will get over it soon. They have their own lives, and I doubt your haircut means the end of the world to them.
To me, you look great sly.
Baldstu:
You look amazing sly
Slick A:
Hang in there, it's a process. Don't give in to what you've correctly identified as a shallow culture that cares more about appearance than character. Looks aren't everything and, anyway, you still have yours. You just don't have your hair. You should enjoy being young and good looking and forget. Focus on what you do have and not what you don't.
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