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Being bald, body-image, and depression

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TunaSkin:
Wow...so much to say about all this.
 First of all, Reddas, you're a handsome guy and your head looks good shaved. Roll with it.
As far as your concern goes about your friends having hair....so what?! They're still your friends, right? All my friends still have their hair, but I think a lot of them should just go sly rather than delaying the inevitable. My point is it's a good thing to not look like your friends. The friendship should be all that matters. About Hollywood- don't even bother thinking about this. They're not real people. They aren't even the ones who create this fantasy about the way people "should" look, that would be the media. These people are not important and are in no way a reflection of reality. I hate to sound cliche, but your personality is what makes you unique. Most people who try really hard to have a unique appearance are trying to cover up for a lack of personality. Anyway dude you look good and you're a young buck! Relax and enjoy your life!!

   I had some issues with my body as a younger man. I've got skinny legs and what I thought was a small head. I didn't wear shorts for years because I was so self conscious, but it came to a point where I just decided I was being cowardly and I realized that NO ONE else cares about these issues as much as I did. They're really non issues. As far as I'm concerned there's only really one option for a man- you have to accept what you've got to work with and own it. I hate to use that phrase, but you gotta own it. Whatever it is you do. Plus, if it's only your appearance you're concerned with there are about 1000 different things you can do to change your looks. I'd suggest working out or even better, learning a martial art. These will boost your confidence more than anything else you can do and develop your character at the same time. I accredit my level of confidence from learning Brazilian Jiu-jitsu years ago. It's carried over into every other area of my life.

   Really though, you're a handsome young guy and you got the rest of your life ahead of you. Start taking some action to change the parts of you you don't like, either physically or mentally and be happy. Taking action will help with the depression. Anyway, I think the coffee is beginning to make me rant and real depression is not something I'm qualified to comment on.

Best of luck with everything.

 

Frontier Guy:
TunaSkin, I couldn't have said it better. You're the proof of someone who has significant reservations about the transition to sly and the immeasurable joy and confidence as soon as you made the change. Great to see that hasn't diminished!

vsG734:
Thanks for the support. It means a great deal to me.

Just today I was talking with some people I'm supposed to play drums with for a one-time music gig. One of them pipes up and says "I have got to see this"- referring to me playing drums. I didn't know you had to have hair to play a musical instrument. That's just one example. Stupid crap happens to me all day every day. People wonder what makes discriminated groups of people violent. There's some subculture of American society that is throwing all caution to the wind to see how sh**** they can be to one another. Now to a select group of individuals that seems cool, but to me it just seems absolutely ridiculous and makes them jackasses. Everyone was granted life that is reading this, and nobody is immortal. I've always been of the mind to make people friends before I make them enemies.

Anyways, take care all. I think each and every one of you have nothing to be ashamed of. You all just appear as regular people to me. Obviously not everyone shares my same views or this site wouldn't exist.

God Bless.

yelloboy32:
Hey Reddas,

I can understand how it would have an impact but you can't live for what others think about you. If they're a true friend, they wouldn't care and believe me, within a few weeks of seeing you, people won't even notice.

I much older than you and try to only live my life to please God, my wife and kids and that's it. Try it....WORKS for me!!

Stay blessed.

mrmagoo:
I'm an old fart trying to be clean, but I have a pig and slob of a service dog and some other problems which really mess with my confidence. Now, I'm ex-military, trained as a leader, but circumstances and conditions have served to drive me into depression. I live in a big place alone and there's no way I can take care of everything, though I still try.

Now, when's my stuff gonna get here?  :x!

Seriously, though, I don't really have any advice for you except to keep on keepin' on. At my age, it can be a real drag, but there's always some good in life even though it's sometimes damned hard to find.

[Sheesh, Mr. Negative telling a kid to think positive!]  :o

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