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#15 by Frontier Guy on 02 Jun, 2012 16:03
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I don't intend to be unkind - because that is genuinely not my nature.
But I think you are looking for others here to give you permission to have a "pity party" and although I don't speak for anyone but myself I don't think that's going to happen. Not here.
If you've read through many of the forums there are a lot of guys who have come here with issues of image and self-confidence and I can't think of a one who hasn't grown by the association with the Sly folks here, and ultimately change to the Style of Sly, and found incredible freedom and rejuvenation.
The difference was they were at least open to consider making changes in themselves and their surroundings. And they followed through.
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#16 by capitalmatters on 02 Jun, 2012 17:12
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i just think it's funny you guys all act like "no dont try to fix it, just accept it"
then why shave your head just accept your bird nest too
ok i don think this is useful
thanks and goodbye -
#17 by aarrggh on 02 Jun, 2012 17:34
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your welcome .
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#18 by rfn on 03 Jun, 2012 13:18
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i just think it's funny you guys all act like "no dont try to fix it, just accept it"
There is nothing wrong with getting your dent fixed. Leaving it be would just be a cheaper (and possibly a safer) option. I'd still like to get mine fixed someday though. There's nothing wrong with accepting a "bird nest" either, but going sly or getting a short buzz cut makes your life easier. You don't need to waste time trying to style your hair every morning; it's practical.
then why shave your head just accept your bird nest too
ok i don think this is useful
thanks and goodbye
There's a sly guy with a dented skull at the bottom of the head shape debate page, and he actually looks fine.
http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=5132.120
If we don't see you around here again, goodbye and best of luck. -
#19 by capitalmatters on 23 Aug, 2012 04:17
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i'm back here for an update. i was pretty upset at some of your replies because i'm pretty desperate and you guys seem to think it's not abig deal.
anyway
i went to a professor in neuro surgery and at least now i understand how i probably got it. he said it seems like a depression fracture you can get at birth like so
looks really similar but on opposite side of the head, even same location. guess about the same size but the head grows and the dent size stays the same if you can picture this.
the worst part is that when you are a baby they can easily totally fix this, because the skull is really thin like a ping pong ball he said, they can make a small cut and "press it back" into place
now the only solution for me would be to open the scalp and attack some sort of plastic in the inverse shape of the dent
he said i should not "break my head about it" and keep my hair long enough so it's not visible. so no buzz cut or shave at all. now the thinning hair and receding hair....
i either have to choose
*do this operartion he doesnt recommend (and he knows my family personally i think he is wlel intentioned)
*mutate into george costanza never even buzzing
*jump on finasteride and possibly get hair transplant later on
i think for the moment i'm going to jump on finasteride and hope for the best
just updated this because it may be valuable for someone
u guys who dont have things like this are truly lucky or well i guess im truly unlucky
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#20 by KDusk on 23 Aug, 2012 05:51
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Hey capitalmatters!
I did not reply to your initial post, but I'm pretty sure no one wanted to upset or offend you. Most of us would just like you to see you accept yourself the way you are: hair or no hair, dents or a smooth dome, ... We all wish to be happy.
About the dent: it is good you went to see someone who's specialised. Since you haven't posted a picture of yourself, I can't see how severe the dent in your head is, but if it is like in the baby picture, then I feel there is nothing to worry about: to be honest, if I would have googled pictures about babies and this one would have shown up, I would have thought it was a perfectly fine head.
I also have a dent running over my forehead (google 'metopic ridge'). It's not as pronounced as in those pictures, but it's there. But people don't notice until I point it out myself. We just look at ourselves through a magnifying glass and see every single 'flaw'. Most people will look at your face anyway and they will not be inspecting your head for bumps and dents.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope you will become happy with whatever option you choose. -
#21 by KG on 23 Aug, 2012 18:33
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Best of luck Capital
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#22 by ShavingWaving on 31 Jul, 2013 10:26
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Hi Capital
I also have a dent in my head in a similar place to where you described. I think the usual "man up" and just cut it off isn't always the best advice. We are all individuals after all, and our circumstances are unique.
I think the actions you are taking are sensible, go for what you think is best.
Just for your information, I tried out the shaved, and short buzz cuts a few weeks ago. It really doesn't suit my facial features, and the dent makes my head look asymmetric. I've actually opted for a similar decision to you.
Good luck. -
#23 by g_bald on 10 Aug, 2013 09:24
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Not to sound unsympathetic, but nobody looks perfect. So what?
My entire right cheek is covered by a bright red birthmark. So freaking what?
It's just superficial appearance. There are a lot worse things that could be wrong that actually matter.
SlyBear is right... so freaking what? Man, SlyBear is a SHARP looking guy.
Ironically, when I was in school I got picked on... a LOT. I wasn't athletic and not a fighter. I once was being ganged up on my a bunch of guys and this guy Doug walks over. He had bright red birthmarks on his face. He told the guys to stop picking on me or he would step in and take care of it. He was a well built guy. Next thing you know, they would leave me alone and I was friends with him. It proof that imperfections of the skin will not hide imperfections of the soul.
I say give the sly look a try. Maybe you'll like it. It will only grow out if you don't. None of us are perfect, but it's nice to find support and encouragement! -
#24 by greatnessinc on 10 Aug, 2013 14:29
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As someone who has had multiple brain surgeries throughout the course of my life I was worried about my scars being an issue. That's not the case, hardly anyone has mentioned my scars unless I point them out.
The biggest obstacle I've encountered was learning the directions the hair grows in the scar on my crown, I have to make across the grain passes to get those hairs. -
#25 by capitalmatters on 28 Jun, 2014 16:31
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i cut my hair really short today
i wish i didnt
now the dent is revealed
see picture
going to find a plastic surgeon to fill this with bone cement ideally
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#26 by Sir Harry on 28 Jun, 2014 17:36
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Capital, good to see you back....I see what you're talking about but the buzz cut really suits you! I don't think the dent detracts from your haircut, it looks good to me....but if you want to go for the injection, good luck....personally, I would leave well enough alone, but...
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#27 by slymyke on 28 Jun, 2014 18:48
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Hi Capital,
I haven't seen this thread before today, but read through all the posts dating back quite a bit. My first thought when seeing your picture was what I always think about head shapes and irregularities. I really think that completely shaving a head seems to hide these things more than a short buzz cut. Buzz cuts are great, but they sometimes make irregularities show up more...and allow more definition to the issue. I noticed that Rusty said something similar to this on here a long time ago.
Unless I'm just not seeing the picture correctly, your hair loss seems to not be turning into a horseshoe... but seems to be more of a widow's peak. A widow's peak is so much more common and acceptable in my opinion and if you grow your hair back out, you may be able to not worry about shaving for quite a while.
I do think your head looks fine though. The recessed area is not that big and the rest of your head has a great shape. I understand your concern, but I don't think others will see it as you do. -
#28 by Mike E. P. on 28 Jun, 2014 19:40
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Maybe it's those photos, but the dent doesn't look bad. In fact, I think the buzz cut looks good. Ultimately, you have to do what makes you happy. If you can't live with the dent or learn to accept or ignore it, then maybe you have to explore other options with a surgeon. Personally, I wouldn't do anything that entailed any risk to my health or well being.
Good luck! -
#29 by Semi-Sly on 28 Jun, 2014 20:57
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Well, I will throw in my two cents worth:
First; I agree with the posts which state that we are our own worst critics. It is our own pride (vanity) that tells us that everyone else is staring at us. The TRUTH is that no one else gives a hoot about what we look like and they are going about their daily business without giving our appearance 2 seconds of thought!
Second; having said the above, if YOU think that cosmetic surgery would make YOU feel better about YOU - then you should definitely go for it! I confess that I have had a few things done myself - but because it was causing deep pschological issues and the surgery helped me to resolve them - or at least not to have to think about it as much! Just be SURE that you talk to some of the doctor's former patients before you go through with it!