I came to terms with the way I look head on but am freaking out about the way I look from other angles, particularly the side. People see you in 3D. I hate balding and now I hate the future. Flat head.You can see the problem here:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xpe7LfdJF0Q&feature=youtu.be
Quote from: berd on April 17, 2012, 01:13:21 AMI'm going to sound like a jerk here, but honestly, this is all complete nonsense. How many people need to tell you you look great for you to understand, you look great! This is the internet, there is no reason to lie or hold back, if you looked like garbage, you would have been told so by now. Think about it this way, there are some things we can control, and some things we cant. You will never be able to control the (completely normal, and fine looking) shape of your head. It will always look this way, so why spend so much time feeling crappy about it. Especially when countless people say you look just fine! Plus, feeling crappy, bitter, angry, sad, etc.. is no fun at all. Accept things for how they are, and start focusing on the rad person you know you can be. I was talking to someone today and they just felt the need to tell me all the great things they and others see in me. It made me feel good but made me realize that to me I've lost a sense of self. I'm wired to think that looking a certain way erased how others perceive me as a man. I have become so focused on this that I forgot who I was especially when the confidence got replaced by an equally strong insecurity. If anyone has experienced something similar it is difficult and hard to break the negative pattern. Certain things trigger emotional responses and reactions. For example, a photo of my profile this weekend had me going
I'm going to sound like a jerk here, but honestly, this is all complete nonsense. How many people need to tell you you look great for you to understand, you look great! This is the internet, there is no reason to lie or hold back, if you looked like garbage, you would have been told so by now. Think about it this way, there are some things we can control, and some things we cant. You will never be able to control the (completely normal, and fine looking) shape of your head. It will always look this way, so why spend so much time feeling crappy about it. Especially when countless people say you look just fine! Plus, feeling crappy, bitter, angry, sad, etc.. is no fun at all. Accept things for how they are, and start focusing on the rad person you know you can be.
As I said earlier, we all see things in the mirror that we don't like. I've got a horizontal crease running along the back of my head that I really wish wasn't there:
I can't add anything that hasn't been already said. There is absolutely nothing at all wrong with your head. Nothing. At all.Stop obsessing over nothing and start living.
I was talking to someone today and they just felt the need to tell me all the great things they and others see in me.