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My Lack of Confidence Destroyed My Life-Hair Transplants Are A Lie!
HeadChange:
I'm glad to have found this website. I'm so f'ing fed up with pharmaceutical companies preying on my low self esteem! I appreciate the supportive and kind words. Mike, about a month ago I made that same commitment; celibacy for a year. I don't really drink or use drugs. I have an amazingly beautiful 5 year old son with this woman, and he's about all I can keep my focus on at this point.
Sir Harry, thanks for your supportive welcoming. It's strange connecting with strangers like ya'll, but it's refreshing. Illinois, have you considered an FUE scar repair? Know anyone who's had good results from it? I'd like to just give it up and start shaving, but if I can reduce the scar back there, I'd consider it...
chgobuzzbald:
Check micro tattooing. HIS Clinic and there is another company place in Minnesota and one in FLorida. They tattoo stubble with very fine needles. Many guys with HT scars have found great camo and they can shave their heads. Many of us made that mistake but it has made us stronger and now confident.
buddha:
--- Quote from: HeadChange on April 11, 2012, 02:34:45 PM --- I cheated on my wife multiple times. Once was with a neighbor, and even though the situation about ruined us, we moved, and found a new happy home and began working closely with a therapist. All was going great until my ego caught me again (I am the CEO and founder of an incredibly successful Medical Marijuana business in California). I cheated again, this time with a staff member who gave me herpes. I told my wife, and she made it clear that we had to separate.
My wife is filing an official separation now, and I'm depressed beyond belief; suicide has been an ongoing thought.
I'm looking into taking a meditation retreat for a month or so in Bali, Thailand or India.
How have people out there dealt with transplant scars and shaving? How about giving up hair loss medications? I'm so afraid of becoming an old, bald, single man that has herpes and no chance of love again, that it's eating me alive.
I need help.
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I'm really glad that you got here and I will endeavor to be blunt, too.
It's strange to me that will all the really horrendous $h!t you have going on right now that your focus is on a scar from a HT and whether or not to shave your head. The last line of your post that I quoted, "I need help", is the main point that I want to concentrate on for my part in this.
I have known a number of people in my life who have considered suicide, in fact, I have considered it as a real viable option at a couple of points when it looked like there would be no other relief. 'Nuff said on that. My point is that of the people I have known who have considered suicide as an option are people that I consider to be men and women of considerable character. (Critics should concentrate on what I wrote here before jumping off.) But those people are either all still here or have died by other causes. But the point where I would start to worry is the point when I would formulate an actual plan for ending my own life and act on the "I need help" part before I implement the plan. The meditation retreat is a fine idea and I think that it is the first thing you should consider after you do a realistic eval of where you are on the planning vs. implementation timeline and seek out a trained professional to actually help you. Coming to the forum is great but when I read your post the thing that hit me hardest was what I have touched on already. Maybe others are avoiding this part so as not to offend you or maybe because of a fear of pushing you closer to the edge. For me to do that would be to do a disservice.
The next thing is the part about having cheated on your wife and contracting herpes in the process. The trained professional can help you make heads and tails out of that, too. But this is about more than never finding love again, as in never finding love with another person. The real risk is to the other person as far as that goes but the crux of the matter, it would seem, is the possibility that you have no love for yourself which is why you seek it in others. I've been in that boat as well. Stuff like that usually goes back a long way. It pays to look into it.
And way down at the bottom of the list is whether or not to shave your head and how you choose to deal with the HT scar.
Of course, that's just my opinion. I could be wrong.
IllinoisBaldy:
--- Quote from: HeadChange on April 11, 2012, 06:07:40 PM ---Illinois, have you considered an FUE scar repair? Know anyone who's had good results from it? I'd like to just give it up and start shaving, but if I can reduce the scar back there, I'd consider it...
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I did initially but decided against it. You probably wouldn't need many grafts to break up the scar but FUE also creates scars. They could be obvious if you decide to shave your head. It may make a bad situation worse.
b.driscoll:
I'm going to be blunt too,.....................I don't think your hair or scar are the problem, you blame your ''ego'' and ''lack of confidence'' for your problems, yet you had enough confidence to cheat multiple times, have a successful business, and a very good mind for business. I don't believe you have been dealt a ''bad hand'' as one of our sly friends has said. You have done all of this with thinning hair and a t.p. scar. Sorry if I'm too blunt but I know a lot of people who would trade places with you in a minute. You have made some bad CHOICES in your life but who hasn't??? Truth be told , your hair really doesn't matter in your relationships or work life. We put a lot of that pressure on ourselves. I have seen that women and friends really don't care if you are losing your hair or have a scar. Your personality is your calling card. At 33, you have your health and thriving business........................you have it all! Best of luck to you.
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