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My Lack of Confidence Destroyed My Life-Hair Transplants Are A Lie!
HeadChange:
I'm back again, and I want to say something; thank you for all of the positive, encouraging responses from a complete group of strangers. Your insightful and uplifting comments are amazingly supportive, and definitely have helped play a part in me beginning to awaken from the dark f'ing place that I fell into.
I'm in a tough place, for sure, but when I first posted this, I had literally been going through a complete nervous breakdown. I have been seeing a therapist, and it's true that hair loss is no small part of this grieving process for me, but as chgobuzzbald said, there are absolutely deeper rooted issues at hand. And, I'm sorry for dumping all of this $hit on a group of complete strangers, but I guess sometimes, it's the safest place to dump it.
So, how would you guys deal specifically with this hair-loss situation that I'm dealing with? I don't have any actual bald spots, just very generalized thinning that is becoming more apparent each day that I am off of proscar. I tend to keep my hair short, but like IllinoisBaldy says, there is an agony of losing hair each day that never seems to end. I'm concerned that if I just shave it now, for starters, my head will be completely white in contrast to my face. Then, the scar...my co-workers and staff will instantly be aware of it and the questions will certainly begin. "How did you get that?" I've heard it before when I've shaved my head in the past. I tend to be a very honest person, so lying doesn't work well for me. It's a big step just to say, "OK, I'm done with it all...shave it off and I'm a new me". Like I have said before, I have shaved my head numerous times in the past, and I always end up being unhappy with it. I think the problem is less likely the hair loss, and more likely the "unhappy" part. My mantra has become "accept the things you cannot change".
You guys are brave people...why is it that we have so much identity wrapped up in such an impermanent thing, such as hair?
chgobuzzbald , thank you for your insight. Maybe it would have been more appropriate to call this topic "Saturn Returned, and took my hair with it when it left".
If there is ever a gathering of people from this website, I would love to join. I've looked for support groups for men who are dealing with hair loss, but there don't tend to be many of them out there. If anyone wants a new niche market idea...run with that one ;)
Thanks yall,
Sir Harry:
Glad to see you're feeling better....As a now two-time divorcee (three if you count my annulment from 1992), I know how it hurts with failed relationships....Also, as a two-time Iraqi war veteran with slight PTSD, I agree that sometimes it is better to share stuff with perfect strangers (like my PTSD group) who are mostly non-judgmental than with family and friends who may have their own opinions about some of the stuff we go through....Losing your hair is hard to deal with, but better to lose your hair than your identity (meaning who you truly are). Good luck, stay strong and keep us posted!
Baldstu:
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mangosink12572:
I think we have all been through alot of STUFF as you have - - -
But you do get old and BALD - - -
I will be 70 (OLD) next month and I am BALD - - -and it is not so bad - - - -
Get a hold on yourself and buckle down and WORK - -it seems like you have tooooo much money
I had to work my ass off when I was your age and it kept me busy and I did not have time to worry and especially about
my BALD HEAD.
Baldstu:
Well mangosink it sez it all your age isa positiv encouragement to us guys younger your amazin
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