I really need some help here

[raventazz22]

Heres the deal I started talking with this girl, who I met from a dating website just this last week. We emailed back and forth, she sent me her picture in one of the emails, texted for a day or so, and even talked on the phone last Friday. In this person's email and over the phone they mentioned that they were very shy, and is often nervous when meeting some one new, but when she gets to know them she will prattle on and on. Now she sent me a text on Saturday saying she had gotten off from work late Saturday eventing and was needing to be back up again around 4am Sunday morning for work. I gave her a call on Sunday to see if she was okay no response, then on Monday sent an email just saying hello again, no response, and then finally sent a text message and made one last phone call on Monday as well. Still no response. The other reason I was trying to get a hold of her was we mentioned last week about meeting each other for the first time this Thursday (Thursday's are the one day she has off from work).

Now with me trying to get a hold of this person so much is it possible that I scared them off? I have read through countless forum's and advice sites about this situation and I am still confused. Perhaps I came across as being too needy, I really don't know.

I have a feeling that I will not be hearing back from this person period, just a gut feeling but could be wrong about it.

What should I do in this situation? Should I just move on and not let this phase me at all? Should I just give it a few days of non communication and see what happens?

I really need some sound advice on this situation it would really help from both a male and female perspective if that can be arranged. Thank you

[Slynito]

No body has to tell you about meeting people on the Net, right? They can be anything they want to be and can screw over others at will.

"What should I do in this situation? Should I just move on and not let this phase me at all? Should I just give it a few days of non communication and see what happens?"

You found the solution yourself...it may turn out ok or not...you got nothing to loose....and WELCOME!

[BaldHDbiker]

First off welcome.

I would wait it out. If it was meant to be it'll be. As you mentioned you don't want to appear desperate. Something could have popped up in her life that is preventing her from getting back to you right now or maybe she has cold feet.

[tomgallagher]

Welcome to the group and now its her turn to get in touch with you.

[buddha]

Welcome to the group.
That being said I would consider the possibility that she has been murdered by an online predator. In that case you are already a "person of interest" because of your repeated attempts to make contact. So I would just sit tight and wait for the cops to pay a visit.

[Paul the Headblader]

1: welcome.
2: you're a sly guy, bald guy you look cool, so let her contact you. you did the first step, now it's her part of the deal. It's just what I do when it's up to girls, and I do it because I don't want serious relationships, I'm young so for now it's all about sex.
3: dating websites......? maybe she's 80
hope it hepled

[mangosink12572]

Welcome to the group and now its her turn to get in touch with you.

Tom - - -right on

[D-Man]

Yeah,you more than did your part, now lay low and let her contact you if she wants to. If not,just move on and forget about it.

BTW....any updates as this was originally posted almost 3 weeks ago.

Good luck!

[Mike]

Welcome to one of the best sites out there.
 
 I suggest just letting it happen how it may. I have had similar things happen where I call/text/email/facebook message them a bunch for a few days then they just drop off the face of the earth it seems. The first time it happened to me I had all these thoughts going through my head like 'did I scare her off', 'did I move too fast' 'did I say something wrong?' all that kind of stuff. The first time it happened I got no response from her at all but it wasnt meant to me.
 The next time it happened it was a similar thing but after 3 days I said to heck with it and let it be, she ended up texting me saying she got nervous as it was her first time going on a date with someone she met online but we planned it for another time and it worked for a bit but in the end it just didnt work out.

 I realize this was posted a couple weeks ago and it was your first post, not sure if you've checked in to see our advice but I hope it all goes well. Just remember there are plenty of other girls out there.

[BaldHDbiker]

Inquiring minds want to know if she ever did contact you?

[Slynito]

This is a cliffhanger... 

[schro]

Run Forrest...Run!

Oh, and welcome to SBG.

[Arnie]

Welcome to SBGs!!!

Why not keep meeting others and see if she gets in touch with you.  You only just met...no biggie.

Not everyone has the same manners or etiquette regarding communication.  Like my best friend gets mad at me if I don't text him or call him shortly after he initiates the communication, but fails to realize he doesn't answer many of his messages at all.