One reason I don't know if I should shave my head...

[regularJ101]

Hey everyone. I don't know if this is the right discussion forum to post this in, but if there are mods here who need to move it somewhere else, do what needs to be done...

Here's the deal. I'm a sorta quiet guy who just starting to become more sociable. I have a month off from school right now, need to wait for the module I need to redo that I didn't pass the first time. I'll be returning to school later for about 3 weeks, then I'm off for my intern position and that's the end of my course. I have these acquaintances that are just starting to sort of become friends. It's been hard for me to communicate with them over the year because I have trouble socializing. They know it and know I'm working on it, and expect me to be more socially functional when I return to school.

To get to the point, I wanna shave my head but I don't know the reactions I'll get from them. I'm afraid if they'll be negative, then I'll be back at square one with no friends, and I don't know when's the next time I'll be in a school or work setting. I'll also be pretty embarassed to not not only be the lone guy again, but now even the lone guy who's bald. I know it'll grow back though, but still. It's like, If I'm bald, I'd want a few pals around to share it with. Understand what I'm saying? I imagine it would feel pretty awkward for me if I shaved my head regularly and had no close buds around.

Also, If I shaved my head and there are no negative reactions, as in 'I hate it, you're ugly now, lmfao he's bald!!, etc.', and the reactions are being positive/surprised (or maybe even confused?), do you think people would see me differently inside, not just outside? Like I must be this more confident, sociable guy now to do something so drastic.

Let me know what you guys think, or if something isn't clear.

[chgobuzzbald]

Well if you want to shave your head you definitely should do that. It feels great whether you are losing your hair naturally or not. Today it doesnt matter. You may find you make new friends with other shaved headed guys if that look is prevalent where ever you live. This forum is a great place to make friends. But above all know that confidence comes from within. If a shaved head willl give that to you then you know what to do.

[RyanJP]

Shave your head, if you don't like it then don't do it again and who cares what other people think as long as your happy with your choices than that is what matters, disregard other peoples opinions or criticism and embrace the positive ones.

[Mikekoz13]

You could shave it and enjoy the newly found confidence that it will probably give you. Then you'll probably meet even more new friends since yhou will be more confident.... then those friends will introduce you to others... and then those to others......

Slyness is a vicious circle my Friend. 

[Stu]

Slyness is a vicious circle my Friend. 

Yeah just look at all of us vicious sly dudes!

[Noodles]

SLYNESS RADIATES VOLUMES OF CONFIDENCE FROM WITHIN!!

Going SLY will NOT send a "pre-judgmental message" to others that you are "cocky" or "stuck-up", if that's what you are worried about. (Besides, you're then pre-judging what others are going to think or say BEFORE you even shave that melon of yours).

Instead, GOING SLY will breed you the type of confidence from within that makes a BOLD STATEMENT about yourself, without you uttering a single word! A statement that will naturally draw people toward you because they dig your personality and want to be around you.

DON'T FLAUNT YOUR SLYNESS! Just enjoy the path that it takes you on! No need to rub your head under everyone's nose showing them your new look. They will see it and will genuinely compliment you on it.

WILL EVERYONE APPROVE? No, but then again, EVERYONE doesn't like sushi either... but there are some who absolutely love it and can't get enough of it!!
   

Get the point?

Good! Class dismissed! Quiz next Monday!  

- Cap'n Noodles -

[buddha]

I don't know, I hate to disagree with the bros, but your situation sounds confusing enough that it creates some doubt in my mind. If I were in your position I don't know if I would scrape the dome.
Sorry guys.

[InProgress]

I don't think many people will judge you for shaving your head, certainly not people you'd want to be friends with. For real. Usually we have more concerns about our own appearance than other people do about our appearance. If you're a good friend, people will want to be friends with you.

[Jack21]

I think that you should do whatever makes you feel most confident. It sounds that you are just now moving away from some severe diffidence. You didn't mention anything about your hair loss so I don't know what might be the best suggestion on an esthetic level.

Hey everyone. I don't know if this is the right discussion forum to post this in, but if there are mods here who need to move it somewhere else, do what needs to be done...

Here's the deal. I'm a sorta quiet guy who just starting to become more sociable. I have a month off from school right now, need to wait for the module I need to redo that I didn't pass the first time. I'll be returning to school later for about 3 weeks, then I'm off for my intern position and that's the end of my course. I have these acquaintances that are just starting to sort of become friends. It's been hard for me to communicate with them over the year because I have trouble socializing. They know it and know I'm working on it, and expect me to be more socially functional when I return to school.

To get to the point, I wanna shave my head but I don't know the reactions I'll get from them. I'm afraid if they'll be negative, then I'll be back at square one with no friends, and I don't know when's the next time I'll be in a school or work setting. I'll also be pretty embarassed to not not only be the lone guy again, but now even the lone guy who's bald. I know it'll grow back though, but still. It's like, If I'm bald, I'd want a few pals around to share it with. Understand what I'm saying? I imagine it would feel pretty awkward for me if I shaved my head regularly and had no close buds around.

Also, If I shaved my head and there are no negative reactions, as in 'I hate it, you're ugly now, lmfao he's bald!!, etc.', and the reactions are being positive/surprised (or maybe even confused?), do you think people would see me differently inside, not just outside? Like I must be this more confident, sociable guy now to do something so drastic.

Let me know what you guys think, or if something isn't clear.

[Huntress]

zfrom how i see it, your trying a lot of new things, why not add shaving off your hair on the list? when girls gets heart broken first thing they do is change something on their appearance, that boosts up their confidence, maybe it'll work for you too. besides, you said so yourself, it'll grow back. try to turn your message into a positive one, like how excited you are to get the hair cut, that you think your new found friends would love it and all that. More confidence, less doubts, that's the only way.