Hi everyone, came accross this site randomly and thought I'd sign up. It seems a lot more upbeat than some of the other sites regarding baldness, so heres my story to add to the whole host of others on here
I started going bald young maybe about 16 or 17 I had the name calling at school and generally laughed it off...but it did get to me and the jokes started to get me down! By 19 it was getting so thin no amount of styling could cover it anymore, and my self confidence was at a minimum!! Losing you hair is associated with getting old and I was forever told I looked wayyy older than 19, that I was ugly etc etc.. that was until I shaved my remaining hair off! Now I didnt (and still dont) bic my head...but I have some clippers which cut it down to almost as good and only takes about 5mins a day, the shorter the better it seems...
It was at this time I went off to Uni (part of the decision to shave my head) chance I thought to start a new life. Yes I was bald...but I'd had enough of the insults and misery, I couldnt change it so I accepted it. Being bald dosnt make you ugly...I didnt realise that until girls started taking notice of me in the pubs and clubs after I had gone sly! Now dont get me wrong I know Im no Brad Pitt, but getting some attention made me much more self confident....the biggest problem for me wasnt so much the loss of my hair...but the fear that girls wouldnt find me attractive (as shallow as that sounds).
Once I became more confident I seemed to become more attractive, I started to care less what other people though and said about my looks, and began to stop worrying so much about my lack of hair.
Im now 25...and in that time Ive had 3 serious relationships all with nice looking girls and several not so serious relationships. Even now I still get paranoid occasionly (its hard not with all the jokes that still fly around). But I look back at the girls that I have been involved with and realise that it had next to nothing to do with my hair...i know it's a cliche but its personality (humour in my experience) and confidence...and portraying that you have no fear of rejection that girls seem to be attarcted too.
Lifes to short to be worrying about something as daft as hair....I wasted years fretting about it and in the end most of the issues i had were in my head not on it. This post wont stop anybody (including myself) worrying about it still...but it is a small testament that young bald men are just the same as every other young man out there...and that 9 times out of 10 nobody could really careless about your hair apart from yourself!
Thanks for listning guys I needed to get that rant off my chest
