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Offline sharpe76

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Hi All! New guy with my story.
« on: May 26, 2010, 06:03:37 PM »
Hi everyone, came accross this site randomly and thought I'd sign up. It seems a lot more upbeat than some of the other sites regarding baldness, so heres my story to add to the whole host of others on here :)

I started going bald young maybe about 16 or 17 I had the name calling at school and generally laughed it off...but it did get to me and the jokes started to get me down! By 19 it was getting so thin no amount of styling could cover it anymore, and my self confidence was at a minimum!! Losing you hair is associated with getting old and I was forever told I looked wayyy older than 19, that I was ugly etc etc.. that was until I shaved my remaining hair off! Now I didnt (and still dont) bic my head...but I have some clippers which cut it down to almost as good and only takes about 5mins a day, the shorter the better it seems...

It was at this time I went off to Uni (part of the decision to shave my head) chance I thought to start a new life. Yes I was bald...but I'd had enough of the insults and misery, I couldnt change it so I accepted it. Being bald dosnt make you ugly...I didnt realise that until girls started taking notice of me in the pubs and clubs after I had gone sly! Now dont get me wrong I know Im no Brad Pitt, but getting some attention made me much more self confident....the biggest problem for me wasnt so much the loss of my hair...but the fear that girls wouldnt find me attractive (as shallow as that sounds).

Once I became more confident I seemed to become more attractive, I started to care less what other people though and said about my looks, and began to stop worrying so much about my lack of hair.

Im now 25...and in that time Ive had 3 serious relationships all with nice looking girls and several not so serious relationships. Even now I still get paranoid occasionly (its hard not with all the jokes that still fly around). But I look back at the girls that I have been involved with and realise that it had next to nothing to do with my hair...i know it's a cliche but its personality (humour in my experience) and confidence...and portraying that you have no fear of rejection that girls seem to be attarcted too.

Lifes to short to be worrying about something as daft as hair....I wasted years fretting about it and in the end most of the issues i had were in my head not on it. This post wont stop anybody (including myself) worrying about it still...but it is a small testament that young bald men are just the same as every other young man out there...and that 9 times out of 10 nobody could really careless about your hair apart from yourself!

Thanks for listning guys I needed to get that rant off my chest :)



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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #1 on: May 26, 2010, 07:32:41 PM »
Great "rant" there, sharpe76! And welcome to the forum. Glad you could join us!  O0
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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #2 on: May 26, 2010, 07:33:44 PM »
Good story man.  Welcome!

Have you tried out a razor yet or are you still using clippers?
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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2010, 08:54:43 PM »
Great story, Welcome.  :)

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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #4 on: May 26, 2010, 09:04:18 PM »
Welcome!  Great story!  ;)

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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #5 on: May 26, 2010, 09:48:30 PM »
i'm sure whatever other site u found about baldness would have been better...this site a bunch of uptight bald queens really.....

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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #6 on: May 26, 2010, 11:11:17 PM »
Welcome sharpe76!

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« Reply #7 on: May 27, 2010, 02:09:54 AM »
i'm sure whatever other site u found about baldness would have been better...this site a bunch of uptight bald queens really.....

Haha this man is right.

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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #8 on: May 27, 2010, 06:23:57 AM »
i'm sure whatever other site u found about baldness would have been better...this site a bunch of uptight bald queens really.....

Haha this man is right.

Huh?  ???


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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #9 on: May 27, 2010, 07:29:07 AM »
Man, you are aptly named.  Sharp you are!!!!
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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #10 on: May 27, 2010, 10:05:50 AM »
Well spoken it sounds like you have it sorted out. And there is nothing wrong or superficial with wanting to be attractive to the opposite sex its just evolution man and runs much deeper than most people realize. I think sometimes feeling like an alien with a bald head is normal. And young bald men can look better than us old bald men because their skin is smoother and with less wrinkles but that will change in time  O0

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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #11 on: May 27, 2010, 11:38:10 AM »
Thanks for the welcome and comments guys.

BillOnBass I have shaved with a razor but find it much easier with close cut clippers especialy now you can get some that cut almost to the wood, for me its just more convenient :)

 

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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #12 on: May 27, 2010, 12:58:24 PM »
WELCOME, I love this site  :)

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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #13 on: May 27, 2010, 04:22:22 PM »
hey sharpe:  U your new look is looking real smoooooth.  U look like a natural.  btw... gr8 intro. O0

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Re: Hi All! New guy with my story.
« Reply #14 on: May 28, 2010, 12:29:08 PM »
Great rant! I very impressed with the attitudes of you "young folk" who join the forum-sounds like you will be a good contributor. I believe I am one of the oldest Sly guys(by age) on the forum- I'll turn 69 on July 20th.
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