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Morthen:
I'm sorry that you go through this. I hope it helps you to think that I personally (and judging from what im reading many others as well) think you look great, you don't have to get any sort of plastic surgery to improve your apperance, you're a handsome guy. Same goes to your Argyle, I hope you both can overcome these problems you face.

Tdawg7669:
What up broskis. This is my first post here so let me give a brief introduction. I am a 20 year old man going into his final year of college. I still have a NW2/2.5 of thick hair but I know the time will come for me to be sly soon enough(I would do it now but I like my current short hair cut that is flipped up in the front)  and I have finally accepted that. In fact I have decided to quit the propecia I was on. Not because of sides(if anything my sex drive has increased) but for a variety of other reasons.
1) I got on propecia because I noticed my hairline creeping back but the same thing happened to my dad at my age and he is still a solid NW 2.5 25 years later. So I might be messing with hormones for no reason. Actually I AM messing with hormones for no reason, even if I am destined for a NW 6/7 that is not justification to mess with something like DHT.
2)It's expensive as ****
3)I dont want to become a slave to a medication I dont need and would need to take for the rest of my life.
So right now my plan is to just let things fall into place themselves without tampering with my hormones. If I keep the hair I have now great, if not Ill shave. Hell even without further loss ill probably shave eventually just to see how it looks.

So now that I have got that out of the way. This thread in particular caused me to go from lurker to registered member because I am also a BDD sufferer. Although I think I have realized it was mostly in my head. And something I want to point out, is that this was before I had any hairloss. I have always hated taking pictures. Hell there was a time where I hated myself, and everybody else as a result. I wondered why I was even born. And like you I didnt feel like going to a professional because they would tell me what I wanted to hear, or take my money and put me on some drug and call it a day. So I had to take matters into my own hands, either I was going to fix this myself or it would destroy me. Literally. I was able to see the signs. I would spend time during class lectures not paying attention and instead searching for cosmetic surgeons on the web.

So what did I do? I broke myself down completely. Identified everything I was unhappy about in both my appearance and life in general. Then I identified what was in my control and what wasnt. I set attainable goals for myself and worked to achieve them.

I also tried to identify why I had this feeling of self worthlessness. I believe it dates back to being made fun of as a child in school. I had really bad teeth and allergies which clogged up my nose, so I breathed through my mouth giving me a slack jaw appearence. Kids were so cruel, but they were honest. So I guess those comments stuck with me.

Its not easy to do but I think if you are able to break yourself down in a similar manner you can change your life.

Myself:
I know this is an old post but so much rings true with me.

I suffer with BDD too and am becoming housebound as a result. I also now have the problem of Hairloss and all that's goes with it and I am suffering terribly as a result. I have posted many times previously and included a photo in one which is very difficult to do as you guys know.

I am getting therapy soon hopefully as I think the alternative is not good.

Just wanted to say I understand your pain, you guys look normal, I don't :(

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