Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!

[jumissa.fi]

OK, of course the girls older than me are WAY hotter, like early 20's and college. but the trick is how do i get them?

Just like fishing young buck. Put some bait (your sly self) on a hook and toss it in the water. If you don't catch any fish, change locations (lakes, parks, etc.). You've already got something that's a babe magnet (that cute little pug dog). Take him for a walk in a crouded area and the girls/laydays wil be swarming all over you. I can hear it now, "Awh, how cute." "What's it's name?" Now go get'm tiger!

^^ Man knows what hes talkin about! Go get them and do not just stand still (IMHO). 

[Tucker-54]

THEDOG!!!!! omg youre a savior. I've taken him to the hot spot called "state street" its the touristy part of santa barbara. he and a bunch of cop friends of mine had just runlike 13 miles on the beach and were grabbing some grub and i had him. we ate outside a restaraunt and seriously like 50 babes walked by and started talking to me. we were all shocked cuz im the shy quiet serious one in our group...


good idea

[nicolasraage]

Remember the old adage about the guy who found the frozen rattlesnake, took it home, nursed it back to health, only to have it bite him. When he asked the snake how he could do such a thing the snake replied "I'm a snake, that's what I do". You can't change anybody, that's a job for the shrinks. Take care of yourself first and foremost. Find a woman that you can be HAPPY with, not one that you know is gonna stress you out every chance she gets.

But I'm a crusty old fart and I may be wrong. Keep us posted.

I thought that story involved a scorpion crossing a river on a frogs back? lol

Anyways, to the originator of the post.  Stay away from the "friend zone".  Stay FAR away.

If you like this girl as much as you say, then you can't be just "friends" with her, and you need to tell her that.  You need to tell her that you need to be more than friends, or nothing at all, because you can't allow yourself to go through that kind of pain. 

How would you feel if she started seeing someone else?  Do you think you could handle that?  SHOULD you?  Tell her how you feel, and if she doesn't return the feelings, the i have to unfortunately tell you to move on.  Otherwise, you have committed yourself to emotional pain.

[buddha]

What are some activities we could do that wouldn't be percieved as romantic? like watching a movie one on one, i mean we could do that but it would almost be weird... not for me, cuz I'd want to do anything with her no matter what, but from her perspective. It might be kinda weird or awkward to do things normally couples would do.
any ideas?

Go to the movies together (Dutch if that's not too uncomfortable). Sit so you have an empty seat between you and put the popcorn, pop, treats and jackets on the empty seat. Don't make a big deal out of the empty seat. Do just like you would do if you went to the show with a guy friend. If I used to go to the show with a buddy we used to keep an empty seat between us so nobody would get the wrong idea (things were different back then). Then let her wonder why you did that. I can almost guarantee she will ask you why you didn't sit next to her. Tell her that you thought she just wanted to be friends and you didn't want anybody to get the wrong idea. Just in case some single dude in the show wanted to hit on her you didn't want to cock-block.

[ice4life]

Huy buddy, You can get advice on here for just about every situation, because the SBG forum is home to the best people on earth. In my opinion, you're struggling with confidence. confidence is very attractive. You're sly, so you already have an advantage over other guys who aren't. you either need to move on (knowing full well that she is taking advantage of your kindness) or find a summer fling thing, or two, or three, or even more. I am NOT saying go out and beat the guts out of every girl that would let you, but go have fun with them and see where it goes.... If you're not interested with these other girls, they might try to make you interested, in them, and who know where that will take you?  but keep in mind, there are ALOT or girls out there just like your little princess that have been damaged emotionally by past relationships. these girls do not need a new relationship right away, and screwing with a girl like that will only make her feel worse, even if she says she wants it.. I've been in the military, and I've been in situations where i feel horrible and fealt like i took advantage, even when the girls come to me. you need to remember that each girl out there was made for somebody, and just as you don't want somebody breaking your girl, they don't want you to break theirs. you gotta respect women, but when they don't reciprocate, you need to respect yourself. I'd suggest going to a christian church, and attending a young adults ministry. you might find your future wife there. you'll know when you meet the right one, because she won't be making you feel this way. And when you do find the one, you should pray together. its not right if you feel comfortable naked around eachother but not comfortable praying with eachother. good luck to you man. keep your head up, cuz if you're lookin down, you will miss out on the girl of your dreams.

   Later bro
             Ice

[Tyler]

Tucker, SB if FULL oh hotties that you can go after.  Just head over to Isla Vista and start throwing down some game.  There's enough hot girls there that you could fail 99 time and end up with a hottie on the 100th. 

If you really want this chick, stay friends with her, but start dating other girls.  People (including women) want what they can't have.  The best part is that if you start dating other women and she doesn't end up liking you, you have other women to date.  I know this sounds like backwards logic, but I'm trying to spare you crap I went through when I was hooked on a woman as bad as you are now.  I did the same thing you did for a whole year and passed up on some great fun because this girl was the "one."  It wasn't until I said screw it and started dating other girls that she came crawling after me.

[Nick912]

Any updates Tuck? Did you break ties with that female?