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I'm sure you don't look as old and aged as you are describing yourself. You are 24 and are a young man. Losing your hair is not going to age you that much. I'm sure no one is looking at you with disgust. Japanese men go bald, too. It's not the end of the world. Maybe things are even more difficult for you because you are in a foreign place, away from home without friends or a source of support.While losing your hair can be a difficult thing - it was for me, too - we eventually realize that a head of hair is not important in the grand scheme of things. There are many men who were or are in the same position as you. Your hair doesn't define who you are as a person.This site is a great source of support. Read about others who have felt like you. Their stories and advice may help you.
Hello angryyoungman, maybe I could be the best adviser for you. I'm now surprised to find a guy who is in the opposite situation of me. I come from Japan and have lived in Germany since 4 years! I experienced the same situation to you and can image and understand how you suffer from it.I must say first of all, Japanese people look much younger than you European from the beginning. This can never be changed. We must accept it. We Japanese have much less wrinkles, curves and beard, and our hairs are very dark, hard and thick. By comparison with European there are much less Japanese boys who go balding in his teenager or 20's. You envy of the young looking of Japanese guys, but on the contrary I envy of your looks! European guys looking older than his real age are very very masculine, sexy, gentle, calm and intelligent. I wish I could look so...I work now in a company with 30 German colleagues. I'll become 30 soon and there are a couple of peers in 20s and 30s, however I feel often as if I were only a child, because they look much more mature and grownup than me. To look older I had tried to grow my beard, but it didn't help me. My mustache and beard are very very very thin and whiskers never grow up. I sometimes lost my confidence from this reason...All of your conflict based on racial things. We can not change it so easily, but we can change our mind. Don't think that your older looking is only negative. There must be people who envy of your mature looking like me. If you want, I can advise you personally too. Wir können uns sogar auf Deutsch oder Japanisch reden ;-)
Das ist tatsächlich sehr interessant.^^You look amazing bald, bro. My depression made me look sickish instead though. Can you give me an honest reply on whether you think Japanese might be afraid of me or not?
I don't know if this will help but...I'm two meters tall, have been since I was 13. Every time I have to go to the Orient I'm aware that people are looking at me and giggling because of my height. I have a shaved head but I don't believe that has anything to do with it. The Japanese on the one hand can create zones of privacy in the most public places but do not respect them in others. Occidentals are still very much in the minority and working there, as opposed to being a tourist, is an even small number. Whatever else may be said about Japan, it's still amazingly Xenophobic and distrusting of outsiders. Also, back to being tall, I'm in more photograph albums in Japan than I can imagine. All that giggling I mentioned is usually accompanied by the clicking of a camera...You are a curiosity. As to the sudden loss and certain other changes, I agree that seeing a doctor is a good idea. This will be of no comfort but...if you were going to go bald, you've got it out of the way quickly as opposed to watching the tide flow out over years, knowing there was no repairing it, it's just inexorable. Your opposite number in Germany has some hard, cold but very prescient advice, listen to it. Remember when the "Eurotrash" look was on everyguy? I worked at the Dresdner bank at that point and had a 'tail down to the middle of my back. Styles change, bald or shaved is now completely accepted...in the West. Enjoy your experience and do get some professional advice.
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