1)Denial2)Anger3)Bargaining4)Depression5)AcceptanceThese as im sure everyone knows is the five stages of grief, actually saw a link to a site on here about them. My question to all the sly guys out there is did you guys go though these stages, i think its suppose to start when you notice your hairloss.The reason i ask is that everyone on here is amped about being sly, like if given the choice you'd much rather be sly to begin with.Just thought you guys could shed some light.I like your guys attitude sly till i die.
And i know its stupid as its just hair but i thinks its more the fear of how the change will effect your life, mostly i belive the only thing we men are concerned about is how will the female poplultion react. Will we still be seen as attractive, thats what im deeling with now so any thoughts you sly guys?
I dont think i ever went through the bargaining stage, Im not quite sure how you fit that into hairloss.The anger and depression was mixed in with each other. Its only really the last half year that I accepted it. Ive now buzzed my hair. If you look somewhere like the HLT forum most of the guys are still clearly in anger, depression or denial(which is strange because they are on a Hairloss forum, but also they think that their meds have worked even though they have just cut their hair shorter and doesnt show as much loss) My depression was bordering on a year What a year wasted!!! My only excuse is that I was 22/23 at the time, Im now almost 24 and alot healthier mentally and I think it shows in the way I act.Hairloss is part of me and I wouldnt be me without it. Maybe if I hadnt lost some of my hair I would be arrogant, maybe not as open, maybe I would be more shallow. Just find your own way. No one can tell you which route to take, whether it be meds(keeping the hope), hairpiece(fooling everyone) or going sly(complete acceptance). Whatever your choice just stay happy is my adviceBTW are you sly or just thinking about going?
I am scared of change and my 20's were lost to other things so i feel I am just running out of time with my hair as it is. I would do anything to get my hair back because of the lost confidence. Not what people want to hear but its how I feel. Now if I was married it might be a different story.
Quote from: gsxr60097 on June 03, 2007, 08:24:28 PMI am scared of change and my 20's were lost to other things so i feel I am just running out of time with my hair as it is. I would do anything to get my hair back because of the lost confidence. Not what people want to hear but its how I feel. Now if I was married it might be a different story.There's really nothing to be afraid of. And the cold, hard truth is that you can't get your hair back. The hair replacement options available will only drain your finances and possibly disfigure your scalp. They won't help you get your confidence back; if anything they will impede your progress. I know it isn't what you want to hear but you need to accept the reality of the situation. Nothing is going to bring your hair back, and you need to stop worrying about things you can't control. Once you've accepted that, then you are on the road to getting your confidence back. I suggest that you do the following things:1. Buzz your hair as short as you feel comfortable with. Don't worry about shaving it for now. Just get a good, short haircut and within a few days you'll feel better. You'll probably get a lot of compliments which will help build your confidence. Eventually you may even want to buzz your hair even shorter, but that's probably down the road a bit.2. Spend some time reading through the archives and you will see plenty of other posts from people in your exact situation. Almost without exception, every one of them has felt better once they took control of the situation and got rid of the thinning, receding hair. Also take a look through the Before & After Gallery and notice how every guy there looks better in the "After" shots. No reason to believe that you will be any different.3. Work on your physique. Eat healthy and get on an exercise program -- to bulk you up if you are too thin or to slim down if you are too heavy. A good physique more than compensates for a bald head.Many of us have been where you are and know how tough it is. We also know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and we're here to lead you through the tunnel if you need us. Good luck.