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Have you ever thought why you don't like "horseshoe bald"? by D.A.L.U.I. on 07 Aug, 2010 12:11
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I am pretty sure that two guys w/ the horseshoe bald that I knew as a child really affected the way I feel about horseshoe bald--that is, "Never on this head
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The first was an uncle, who although he was very kind and loving as an uncle and spoiled all his nieces and nephews shamelessly, was not only overweight, but a Norwood VII. He had a fire in his house so he lived w/ us for several months and he shared my room. I really disliked the look then and I guess that was the start of the fear that as you get older you can really get ugly.
Second, sixth grade teacher of Spanish, bald head, bad breath, old man style clothes, and all of us thought he was ugly. Typical mean kids, we nicknamed him Harry Toiletseat. Reinforced my fear of losing my hair and getting "ugly."
Those two plus the general public smirks about bald men, my mother & grandmother used to talk about "Look at that ugly old bald man!" So I picked up a lot of mental baggage about being bald. Then it started happening to me--that focused all that negative thinking on myself. That wasn't healthy. But, I did see guys with shaved heads differently that small b bald w/ horseshoes--Yul Brenner of course, a high school teacher--this is the 60's that was radical--and he was cool, smart and much liked by the students. And in college another great professor of Victorian literature. Then of course the entertainment and sports personalities also gave it a positive vib with me. But, my aversion to small b bald rims--definately my uncle and teacher.
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#1 by Razor X on 07 Aug, 2010 12:31
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I think it all comes back to the whole "balding is not a choice but bald is" thing. How many sly guys can you think of -- Stone Cold Steve Austin, Yul Brynner, Vin Diesel, etc., etc -- that would look better with a horseshoe??
Like you, I can remember hearing my parents make comments about "so and so has really lost a lot of hair, what a shame" as well as comments -- rarely positive -- about anyone who grew any facial hair. And as a result, I too got saddled with a lot of baggage that it took a long time to get over.
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#2 by pdxtodd on 07 Aug, 2010 12:42
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Horseshoes and I'd add comb overs. I think for me its guys that had horseshoes and wore their hair long and thinking how bad it looked. Who thinks that either of these guys looks good?
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#3 by Razor X on 07 Aug, 2010 12:45
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Photos like those are the reason people fear going bald.
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#4 by D.A.L.U.I. on 07 Aug, 2010 12:47
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Photos like those are the reason people fear going bald.
Photos like that prove that 1) cameras are sturdy machines & 2) people who take pictures like freaks!
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#5 by kenny57028 on 07 Aug, 2010 13:38
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When I look at those pics I see those 2 lookin sly. When you have hair but just in a horseshoe it looks so out of place especially when grown out.
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#6 by The Noggin on 07 Aug, 2010 15:35
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I don't mind a nicely trimmed or buzzed MPB/horseshoe on other men's heads.
When I grew up, men's hair was nothing anyone would talk about, be it positive or negative. -
#7 by Magoo on 07 Aug, 2010 15:58
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I don't mind a nicely trimmed or buzzed MPB/horseshoe on other men's heads.
I agree I see no problem with MPB and a buzz cut. It's only when let to grow too long that Bozo comes to mind.
When I grew up, men's hair was nothing anyone would talk about, be it positive or negative. -
#8 by D.A.L.U.I. on 07 Aug, 2010 16:02
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If a guy doesn't mind the look and if the remnants are symmetrical, otherwise it's tumbleweeds.I don't mind a nicely trimmed or buzzed MPB/horseshoe on other men's heads.
I agree I see no problem with MPB and a buzz cut. It's only when let to grow too long that Bozo comes to mind.
When I grew up, men's hair was nothing anyone would talk about, be it positive or negative. -
#9 by TheSlyBear on 07 Aug, 2010 16:10
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I don't mind a nicely trimmed or buzzed MPB/horseshoe on other men's heads.
This. In fact, I wear a buzzed horseshoe during the winter months.
The problem with the horseshoe, is that most MPB guys let it grow out and it starts to look like ass very quickly. -
#10 by D.A.L.U.I. on 07 Aug, 2010 16:13
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I don't mind a nicely trimmed or buzzed MPB/horseshoe on other men's heads.
This. In fact, I wear a buzzed horseshoe during the winter months.
The problem with the horseshoe, is that most MPB guys let it grow out and it starts to look like ass very quickly.
On point, I would think it's as much or more work keeping it from looking bad, and then there's the worry whether you can delay one more day of buzzing--and although I only did it for little more than a month, it was time consuming to make sure it was all even. And if you have stubble in the "runway" you probably would have to shave that anyway or you'd get a broken chia pet look. -
#11 by Magoo on 07 Aug, 2010 16:30
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IMO......It's more work keeping a buzz than to shave it. I didn't always think that way but with MPB (bozo ring) it really is. Once you get your act down Its only a few minutes daily, or every other day and it feels so much better.
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#12 by Redgrave101 on 07 Aug, 2010 17:12
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Can't say my reasons are unique or partically original. Going bald has always for me meant being 'old' or even 'tired'.
I've always thought the horseshoe looked awful (though not as bad as combover etc..) and that the total bald look made a guy look alien.
And like many i always hoped that if it were to happen to me, i would be happily married and would recieve all the 'emotional support' i needed from my loving partner. Also there was no way in HELL that i was going to lose any hair before 40.. The idea of it was laughable..
My dad started rapidly thinning in his late 20's, I did not know of it at the time as my mother gave him a hard time over it and he ended up with a hairpiece. These days he looks back and feels that wearing that hairpiece was probably the worst regret of his life. He now has his hair buzzed to something like a 2 but pretty much wears the horseshoe look (plus the few fine hairs he proudly holds onto at the top ; )
Point is i had alot of pretty normal issues with the bald/balding look and already carried alot of self confidence issues, largly regarding my appearance. So to then find myself facing it at such a young age.. it was beyond bleak.
Thankfully i (like many i share this forum with) have found some perspective. -
#13 by Ming the Merciless on 07 Aug, 2010 18:05
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Never an aversion to balding or to those who are bald. I guess only that classic, full, MPB with anything beyond a buzz signaled (when I was young), "old." Now that I AM old, I realize there are worse things than baldness (just ask my prostate).
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#14 by D.A.L.U.I. on 07 Aug, 2010 20:20
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I did not know of it at the time as my mother gave him a hard time over it and he ended up with a hairpiece. These days he looks back and feels that wearing that hairpiece was probably the worst regret of his life. He now has his hair buzzed to something like a 2 but pretty much wears the horseshoe look (plus the few fine hairs he proudly holds onto at the top ; )
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This is the sort of thing I was wondering was out there, like my uncle and teacher, really bad role models so that we got a "super dose" of bad baggage to carry that really doesn't relate to a genetic predisposition. Maybe, we've broken that link, and our sons and male relatives who grow up with us showing ourselves as admirable guys--who shave our head by the way--don't merit any guilt or shame or whatever for them who also share the predisposition to be bald.