Not sure what to do! - page 1 -

• Not sure what to do! by Catodon on 23 Nov, 2008 00:18
• New to the site - just got on as a member tonight actually!  Refusing to stay in the lurker status, I am just throwing my situation out there.  Im 26 and have had diffused thinning hair since about 20 - its only bad to me situationally - at the end of a long night or day at the office - but looks fine after I take a shower (I have fine, wispy hair).  I find that I am always worried about how it looks and how its reacting to situations like wind or water.  I have a few lumps, and am worried about head shape (i guess many are). 
  
  This whole thing has just killed my confidence in what should be a great time in a persons life.  I spend a lot of time worried about my hair that I feel like its just some weight dragging behind me.  I guess I dont know what to do - im stuck between the unknown of sly and my remainder!
• #1 by Tyler on 23 Nov, 2008 00:30
• If you've been lurking, then I'm sure you know the answer, but I'll let you know anyway.  If it's bugging you, then shave it.  You won't truly know how you look with it unless you do.  You can do it.
• #2 by PBurke on 23 Nov, 2008 02:28
• shave it and give it 30 days. then you can decide if you like it or not.
• #3 by hammerdrill376 on 23 Nov, 2008 05:03
• Shave it man.You'll be glad you did!!
• #4 by Brkeatr on 23 Nov, 2008 06:04
• Welcome to SBG bro, and I echo the other comments so far....shave it !!   
• #5 by champ007 on 23 Nov, 2008 07:27
• Welcome Catodon.
  I found that I thought I had a dent in my head before I shaved, but it turned out to be the way the hair grew somehow. After I shaved I was smooth everywhere. Not saying this applies to all but just something I experienced.
  Post a pic if you want honest opinions, we won't bite. But if your stressed over it by all means lets get it shaved. There is no stress over hair after...its a great relief! 
• #6 by Mikekoz13 on 23 Nov, 2008 07:31
• Welcome to the Forum CAT!
  
  You've heard the suggestions. Try trimming it down progressively shorter over a period of time... say a month. Once you have it buzzed down to a number one or two, shave it off. This progressive shaving will help you AND your circle of loved ones and friends get used to your vanishing hair.
  
  Then shave it for 30 days so you can used to your new look and feel. I'm betting you'll keep it after that.
• #7 by Bensen on 23 Nov, 2008 12:03
• a sly head feels good, just try it. it will grow back !!!
  
• #8 by Timmay on 23 Nov, 2008 12:59
• Look at all the others who have taken our advice.  They seem to think it was the right move.  We wouldnt steer you in the wrong direction bro.
• #9 by DuffRyder17 on 23 Nov, 2008 14:29
• Quote from: Catodon on 23 Nov, 2008 00:18

  
  
  This whole thing has just killed my confidence in what should be a great time in a persons life.  I spend a lot of time worried about my hair that I feel like its just some weight dragging behind me.  I guess I dont know what to do - im stuck between the unknown of sly and my remainder!
  

  
  Yea, I was there not too long ago dude...I just turned 22 and I'm a junior in college... and yea I was also worried about headshape but  here is the deal. you will never know how it looks or feels to be sly until you give it a chance.
  
  I turned out to be rather please with my bare dome... so maybe you will too
• #10 by Catodon on 23 Nov, 2008 20:03
• I want to thank all for their honest opinions and support - its really not the same talking about it with other people - here I can get the opinions that matter - from folks that know my issue fro a personal standpoint and have found the answer!  Ill post a pic soon to get more feedback - Im really thinking about taking the plunge now!  Im scared a bit of the plunge, but I think its the light at the end of tunnel when it comes to my confidence issues, seeing as this is what caused them in the start...
• #11 by (|8-) on 24 Nov, 2008 00:15
• I started buzzing my hair shorter before I finally shaved it off.  There was hardly any reaction from anyone but my most observant friends while this was going on.  There was as much reaction going from a #4 to a #2 as from a #2 to shaving it all off.
  
  It is a much bigger deal to you than it is to anyone looking at you.  People just aren't all that interested in other people's hair.  So try something shorter and see if you like it, and if you don't it will grow back. 
  
• #12 by Tor on 24 Nov, 2008 07:52
• Welcome to the site. Like others have said. You can shave it off, and if you decide you don't like it, grow it back.
• #13 by baldy46 on 24 Nov, 2008 08:35
• I buzzed my hair down to a "1" before taking the blade to it.  Like you, I was worried about head shape too.  I have a few lumps, but so what?  It's me...and to be honest with you, I haven't seen too many perfect heads.  It's all in how you carry yourself.  If you're happy with it, others will fall in line.  And if they don't, who cares?  When I shaved, the reactions I got were mostly positive...and I think people sort of see my slyness as my trademark now.
  If you shave and hate it, the hair will grow back in no time.  It's no big deal. 
• #14 by D.A.L.U.I. on 24 Nov, 2008 08:35
• Welcome, and like the others, "Try it, you'll like it!"  Why not T'Day morning, and give everyone something to talk about at dinner other than the Bird.