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Formal (or tuxed) SLY! by BALDANDRE on 14 Oct, 2008 18:01
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As per Rob's request...
Here's the thread for SLY in a tux..or any thing formal sly!
Here's mine...
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#1 by don on 14 Oct, 2008 23:37
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Baldandre,I'd forgotten how good you looked with the facial hair.You look good either way but it's just that I hadn't seen you with the facial hair in a long time.
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#2 by SlyHigh on 15 Oct, 2008 06:21
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Ugh. I hate suits and tuxes. I didn't even wear a tux at my own wedding. I wore a white shirt, khaki pants, brown worn-in coat (all from J.Crew), and flip-flops.
This weekend I'll be snazzed up for a reunion, so I'll try to take a pic. But it won't be "formal!" -
#3 by JohnMont on 15 Oct, 2008 17:51
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Ugh. I hate suits and tuxes. I didn't even wear a tux at my own wedding. I wore a white shirt, khaki pants, brown worn-in coat (all from J.Crew), and flip-flops.
This weekend I'll be snazzed up for a reunion, so I'll try to take a pic. But it won't be "formal!"
Jeeezz.... does ANYBODY dress up anymore? .......
Some situations just require a little more formality than usual. Don't mean to diss your wedding, SlyHigh; but that's sounds like how you might dress every day. ... To each his own, live and let live, and all that , but. .... I guess I'm just commenting on the GENERAL lack of formality in our culture.
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#4 by hammerdrill376 on 15 Oct, 2008 18:06
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You look great formal..and I agree..some aspects of society could use a little more formailty.
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#5 by GASlick on 15 Oct, 2008 20:28
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The last time I was in a tux was at my wedding in 1992. We are going to renew our vows in 2012 for our 20th on the beach outside Charleston, SC. Linen pants and flip-flops for that one. Already have it planned.
I don't even wear a tie to church. I don't go anywhere that requires formal attire. This is Griffin, GA for heaven's sake.
I do wear a coat and tie to funerals though. I don't even own a suit.
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#6 by Brkeatr on 16 Oct, 2008 04:56
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I work part time for a local funeral home and it's about the only time I wear a suit and tie. I never wear a tux unless I'm in a wedding or something.
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#7 by StumpyDave on 16 Oct, 2008 06:44
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I wear a suit and tie everyday for work.
I went to a ball last month and it was a full-on penguin suit affair:
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#8 by Brkeatr on 16 Oct, 2008 06:47
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I wear a suit and tie everyday for work.
I went to a ball last month and it was a full-on penguin suit affair:
Looking sharp Dave !!
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#9 by SlyHigh on 16 Oct, 2008 07:21
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A lot of the formality issues come down to culture and personal preference. In some situations (work, weddings, etc.) there is a line between what's acceptable and not, but that line is rather blurry. I don't see a tux or a suit as a reflection of one's respect or attitude. I often regard the expectation to dress a certain way as superficial. Who says you must wear a tux at your wedding? Just because? I see no clear logical reason.
In our wedding my wife had a traditional white dress (even though she was barefoot). Our dog was the ringbearer. We had pizza and quesadillas at the reception (those are two of our favorite foods). Many, many people (including those who are very traditional and conservative) told us it was the best wedding they've ever attended. We figured if our wedding was done by the book of tradition no one would remember it and it would not be a reflection of who we are. I laugh and said people will remember the canine ringbearer for the rest of their lives!
Like GASlick, I don't wear a tie to church. Most of the time it's jeans. And I play in the worship band on stage.
I'm just one who doesn't go along with tradition for tradition's sake.
Now I'm not knocking anyone who believes in formal attire and prefers to dress that way. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I don't judge them. -
#10 by time2shine on 16 Oct, 2008 09:53
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A lot of the formality issues come down to culture and personal preference. In some situations (work, weddings, etc.) there is a line between what's acceptable and not, but that line is rather blurry. I don't see a tux or a suit as a reflection of one's respect or attitude. I often regard the expectation to dress a certain way as superficial. Who says you must wear a tux at your wedding? Just because? I see no clear logical reason.
In our wedding my wife had a traditional white dress (even though she was barefoot). Our dog was the ringbearer. We had pizza and quesadillas at the reception (those are two of our favorite foods). Many, many people (including those who are very traditional and conservative) told us it was the best wedding they've ever attended. We figured if our wedding was done by the book of tradition no one would remember it and it would not be a reflection of who we are. I laugh and said people will remember the canine ringbearer for the rest of their lives!
Like GASlick, I don't wear a tie to church. Most of the time it's jeans. And I play in the worship band on stage.
I'm just one who doesn't go along with tradition for tradition's sake.
Now I'm not knocking anyone who believes in formal attire and prefers to dress that way. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I don't judge them.
I fully agree with your statement. My wedding will be similar.
The thing that bothers me is when people feel personally disrepected if you're not wearing the "correct" attire. Is this something to be worked up about? These are generally the same people who do not like shaved heads
Bottom line is its cultural. Who knows, I will most likely complain 40 years down the road, when kids are wearing tinsel jumpsuits.
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#11 by BALDANDRE on 16 Oct, 2008 11:49
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Hmmm, quite a debate from a suit!
But where I stand is this,,,yes, who says you should wear something particular to a wedding or event..
hey if the bride and groom want casual...that is their day...their way...
flipflops and shorts.... great!
But for me it's respect when you dress nicely for an occasion that is supposed to be formal or dressy...
period...
it is not the time to be a rebel...and wear what YOU want...it disrespects THEM..
they are throwing the event they want to throw..and shelling out a lot of money to do it..
to me it's just respect..
now I say this as a guy that wears shorts about all year long, and has made casual apparel for most of his living.
I also do the shorts wearing through the northwest winters when i can deal with it..I'm casual 99% of the time !
Like you said, cool to do what you want...
it's a reflection on you in the end anyways..
BTW....Our wedding was formal and like you, people said it was the most fun and memorable they've ever had..
I guess the patron tequila shot toast and 5 hour open bar saw to that!
Formal was the attire...
not the function
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#12 by time2shine on 16 Oct, 2008 11:54
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Hmmm, quite a debate from a suit!
But where I stand is this,,,yes, who says you should wear something particular to a wedding or event..
hey if the bride and groom want casual...that is their day...their way...
flipflops and shorts.... great!
But for me it's respect when you dress nicely for an occasion that is supposed to be formal or dressy...
period...
it is not the time to be a rebel...and wear what YOU want...it disrespects THEM..
they are throwing the event they want to throw..and shelling out a lot of money to do it..
to me it's just respect..
now I say this as a guy that wears shorts about all year long, and has made casual apparel for most of his living.
I also do the shorts wearing through the northwest winters when i can deal with it..I'm casual 99% of the time !
Like you said, cool to do what you want...
it's a reflection on you in the end anyways..
BTW....Our wedding was formal and like you, people said it was the most fun and memorable they've ever had..
I guess the patron tequila shot toast and 5 hour open bar saw to that!
Formal was the attire...
not the function
BA, I definitely agree with you when someone hosts a function and there is a determined dress code, to dress appropriately. -
#13 by BALDANDRE on 16 Oct, 2008 12:00
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Hmmm, quite a debate from a suit!
But where I stand is this,,,yes, who says you should wear something particular to a wedding or event..
hey if the bride and groom want casual...that is their day...their way...
flipflops and shorts.... great!
But for me it's respect when you dress nicely for an occasion that is supposed to be formal or dressy...
period...
it is not the time to be a rebel...and wear what YOU want...it disrespects THEM..
they are throwing the event they want to throw..and shelling out a lot of money to do it..
to me it's just respect..
now I say this as a guy that wears shorts about all year long, and has made casual apparel for most of his living.
I also do the shorts wearing through the northwest winters when i can deal with it..I'm casual 99% of the time !
Like you said, cool to do what you want...
it's a reflection on you in the end anyways..
BTW....Our wedding was formal and like you, people said it was the most fun and memorable they've ever had..
I guess the patron tequila shot toast and 5 hour open bar saw to that!
Formal was the attire...
not the function
BA, I definitely agree with you when someone hosts a function and there is a determined dress code, to dress appropriately.
Nice..you seemed like too cool of a guy not the think that way!
Def. have a wedding that's YOU and her bro...
and have fun with it...
that's how a memorable one is made! -
#14 by JohnMont on 16 Oct, 2008 12:12
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I wear a suit and tie everyday for work.
I went to a ball last month and it was a full-on penguin suit affair:
VERY cool, Stumpy .