Quote from: RazorX on August 03, 2008, 07:18:51 AM No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.
No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.
Quote from: Tanizaki on August 03, 2008, 08:05:34 AMQuote from: RazorX on August 03, 2008, 07:18:51 AM No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.
Quote from: schro on August 03, 2008, 08:20:52 AMQuote from: Tanizaki on August 03, 2008, 08:05:34 AMQuote from: RazorX on August 03, 2008, 07:18:51 AM No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.
Quote from: schro on August 03, 2008, 08:20:52 AMQuote from: Tanizaki on August 03, 2008, 08:05:34 AMQuote from: RazorX on August 03, 2008, 07:18:51 AM No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.I should say so. Lucky for our kids, too. The kids with divorced parents I knew when I was little were always a bit "off" if you know what I mean.
I have always found that the image we choose to wrap ourselves in is not only a visual depiction of our inner personality but also as somewhat of a filter to potential mates. Sure, Vash could dress up in the typical mall garb, remove his piercings and appear to be more benign. That may give off a more approachable signal to others... it may make him appear as more of a provider but what is really gained from such false pretenses? Alot of time and effort peeling the onion to find out the impending result... incompatibility.Why dawn some sort of fashion subterfuge in order to "land a mate"? Doesn't his piercings, tattoos, kilts, boots and Bodran tell the world in some part, who he is and what he represents? Is he doing himself a disservice by thwarting off the women that find these things unattractive, or is he filtering out certain incompatibilities up front?I don't know the statistics of breakups and divorce, but I do know that successful relationships begin with being yourself. I have much more respect for those that are themselves all the time as opposed to the gap clad drone that landed the "perfect wife".
Quote from: MagmaBabe on August 03, 2008, 08:50:04 AMQuote from: schro on August 03, 2008, 08:20:52 AMQuote from: Tanizaki on August 03, 2008, 08:05:34 AMQuote from: RazorX on August 03, 2008, 07:18:51 AM No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert. Are you teaching your kids Intelligent Falling or gravity?
Quote from: Tanizaki on August 03, 2008, 09:18:51 AMQuote from: MagmaBabe on August 03, 2008, 08:50:04 AMQuote from: schro on August 03, 2008, 08:20:52 AMQuote from: Tanizaki on August 03, 2008, 08:05:34 AMQuote from: RazorX on August 03, 2008, 07:18:51 AM No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert. Are you teaching your kids Intelligent Falling or gravity?Neither, I'm going to teach my kid to beat up your kid.
Quote from: Marz on August 04, 2008, 10:49:34 AMI have always found that the image we choose to wrap ourselves in is not only a visual depiction of our inner personality but also as somewhat of a filter to potential mates. Sure, Vash could dress up in the typical mall garb, remove his piercings and appear to be more benign. That may give off a more approachable signal to others... it may make him appear as more of a provider but what is really gained from such false pretenses? Alot of time and effort peeling the onion to find out the impending result... incompatibility.Why dawn some sort of fashion subterfuge in order to "land a mate"? Doesn't his piercings, tattoos, kilts, boots and Bodran tell the world in some part, who he is and what he represents? Is he doing himself a disservice by thwarting off the women that find these things unattractive, or is he filtering out certain incompatibilities up front?I don't know the statistics of breakups and divorce, but I do know that successful relationships begin with being yourself. I have much more respect for those that are themselves all the time as opposed to the gap clad drone that landed the "perfect wife". very well said marz. vash, be you brother.
Quote from: xnewyawka on August 06, 2008, 06:46:25 PMQuote from: Tanizaki on August 03, 2008, 09:18:51 AMQuote from: MagmaBabe on August 03, 2008, 08:50:04 AMQuote from: schro on August 03, 2008, 08:20:52 AMQuote from: Tanizaki on August 03, 2008, 08:05:34 AMQuote from: RazorX on August 03, 2008, 07:18:51 AM No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert. Are you teaching your kids Intelligent Falling or gravity?Neither, I'm going to teach my kid to beat up your kid. I see you finally taught your kid to fight..lol..
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