Getting it off my chest

[schro]

No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.

While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.

Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.

Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.

[Tanizaki]

No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.

While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.

Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.

Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.

I should say so.  Lucky for our kids, too. The kids with divorced parents I knew when I was little were always a bit "off" if you know what I mean.

[MagmaBabe]

No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.

While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.

Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.

Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.

      

[Tanizaki]

No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.

While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.

Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.

Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.

      

Are you teaching your kids Intelligent Falling or gravity?

[buuckkweet]

Hi Vash!

I enjoy reading your posts.  You're a good man who wants a good woman.  Your heart will tell you when the right one comes along.  Just enjoy yourself, and when you least expect it, she will be there!!!

[Marz]

I have always found that the image we choose to wrap ourselves in is not only a visual depiction of our inner personality but also as somewhat of a filter to potential mates.

Sure, Vash could dress up in the typical mall garb, remove his piercings and appear to be more benign. That may give off a more approachable signal to others... it may make him appear as more of a provider but what is really gained from such false pretenses? Alot of time and effort peeling the onion to find out the impending result... incompatibility.

Why dawn some sort of fashion subterfuge in order to "land a mate"? Doesn't his piercings, tattoos, kilts, boots and Bodran tell the world in some part, who he is and what he represents? Is he doing himself a disservice by thwarting off the women that find these things unattractive, or is he filtering out certain incompatibilities up front?

I don't know the statistics of breakups and divorce, but I do know that successful relationships begin with being yourself.

I have much more respect for those that are themselves all the time as opposed to the gap clad drone that landed the "perfect wife".

[Timmay]

No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.

While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.

Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.

Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.

I should say so.  Lucky for our kids, too. The kids with divorced parents I knew when I was little were always a bit "off" if you know what I mean.

A bit off?  hmmm ..never mind...not worth it.

[PBurke]

I have always found that the image we choose to wrap ourselves in is not only a visual depiction of our inner personality but also as somewhat of a filter to potential mates.

Sure, Vash could dress up in the typical mall garb, remove his piercings and appear to be more benign. That may give off a more approachable signal to others... it may make him appear as more of a provider but what is really gained from such false pretenses? Alot of time and effort peeling the onion to find out the impending result... incompatibility.

Why dawn some sort of fashion subterfuge in order to "land a mate"? Doesn't his piercings, tattoos, kilts, boots and Bodran tell the world in some part, who he is and what he represents? Is he doing himself a disservice by thwarting off the women that find these things unattractive, or is he filtering out certain incompatibilities up front?

I don't know the statistics of breakups and divorce, but I do know that successful relationships begin with being yourself.

I have much more respect for those that are themselves all the time as opposed to the gap clad drone that landed the "perfect wife".

very well said marz. vash, be you brother.

[xnewyawka]

No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.

While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.

Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.

Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.

      

Are you teaching your kids Intelligent Falling or gravity?

Neither, I'm going to teach my kid to beat up your kid.   

[buuckkweet]

No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.

While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.

Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.

Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.

I should say so.  Lucky for our kids, too. The kids with divorced parents I knew when I was little were always a bit "off" if you know what I mean.

What do YOU mean by a bit "off"?

[Tanizaki]

No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.

While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.

Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.

Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.

      

Are you teaching your kids Intelligent Falling or gravity?

Neither, I'm going to teach my kid to beat up your kid.   

Good luck with all that. 

[Robmeister]

I have always found that the image we choose to wrap ourselves in is not only a visual depiction of our inner personality but also as somewhat of a filter to potential mates.

Sure, Vash could dress up in the typical mall garb, remove his piercings and appear to be more benign. That may give off a more approachable signal to others... it may make him appear as more of a provider but what is really gained from such false pretenses? Alot of time and effort peeling the onion to find out the impending result... incompatibility.

Why dawn some sort of fashion subterfuge in order to "land a mate"? Doesn't his piercings, tattoos, kilts, boots and Bodran tell the world in some part, who he is and what he represents? Is he doing himself a disservice by thwarting off the women that find these things unattractive, or is he filtering out certain incompatibilities up front?

I don't know the statistics of breakups and divorce, but I do know that successful relationships begin with being yourself.

I have much more respect for those that are themselves all the time as opposed to the gap clad drone that landed the "perfect wife".

very well said marz. vash, be you brother.

YEP !!!  Here, Here !!!

[Timmay]

No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.

While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.

Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.

Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.

      

Are you teaching your kids Intelligent Falling or gravity?

Neither, I'm going to teach my kid to beat up your kid.  

I see you finally taught your kid to fight..lol..

[MagmaBabe]

LMAO

[Tanizaki]

No relationship is ever going to last if one party has to fundamentally change who they are to make it work.

While I mostly agree with this, that was not my point. I was talking about the first impression that one makes before one starts a relationship.

Men tend to enter relationships thinking that the woman will never change. Women tend to enter relationship thinking that the man will change. Both are wrong.

Well, your wife/girlfriend is one lucky lady to be with a man that's both an evolution and relationship expert.

      

Are you teaching your kids Intelligent Falling or gravity?

Neither, I'm going to teach my kid to beat up your kid.  

I see you finally taught your kid to fight..lol..

Well duh, that's one of the chumps from Zenobia in Ohio. What else can you expect from a midwestern rube?