Author Topic: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!  (Read 21879 times)

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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #15 on: June 19, 2008, 09:11:59 PM »
Tucker, long time no chat. In all honesty, I think you might have been too nice of a guy (as strange as that may seem). She took advantage of the fact "Hey, Tucker will always be there for me, I'll go do something else this Friday night" (or whatever event was at hand). Trust me, I've been there.

Women are odd creatures, proceed with caution....you might end up marrying one.


You are 100% right sir!

Dude you are being too nice man!! You have always been there for her and never left her to wonder and think. I bet that dude she still calims to love is a "bad  boy". The whole nice guy thing only goes so far with chicks. You have to leave them thinking about you a little. I used to be the nice guy and let chicks walk all over me. I got cheated on one time by a girl who I was soooo in love with. From that point on I started living for me, not women in my life. I got a girl right now who wants me to grow my hair back..when she starts kicking up about it I tell her to get lost. Its cuz I dont care!! Thats the attitude you need to take. PLease take my advice and read anything by David DeAngelo. It will change the way u talk and deal with women. -
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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #16 on: June 19, 2008, 09:20:20 PM »
My advice would be to move on.  Don't be a dick or call and let her know you're moving on.  Just move on.  My guess it that you'll still see her around and she'll notice that she's no longer on the pedestal that she was once on.  It sounds like she knows what kind of guy you are and once she sees this she might decide to re-engage with you.  If she doesn't, at least you've moved on.

I know this sounds cold, but you've put it out there and she hasn't taken it.

That's exactly how I would handle it.  She's taking you for granted.  And for what it's worth, I was once in the same position so I know what it feels like. 

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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #17 on: June 19, 2008, 10:43:53 PM »
Yep bro...she's taking you for granted!

I think she does like you and because you are so available she doesn't feel a challenge or possible drama...

and sorry to say this, at your age it's ingrained you must have drama to have a "real relationship"..you know Laguna Beach or the Hills...girls feed off it and you are only giving her good times and something very comfortable...

not cool when you're young and dating...lame I know...your relationship sounds awesome for most people over ,d@mn this is funny saying this...20!

You probably ARE perfect for each other...but have met too young and at the wrong time on your life bro...

You may get her...but me thinks not right now :(...sorry bro...

but you're a cool, confident dude with a great sense when it comes to hairstyle selection...you should NOT be bummed being as confident as you are..

Just go have fun this summer and check in with her once a week...I'm sure some other hotties will dig your shiny bald head bro! ;)...and stick with the spinning class....hotties love to sweat!

Good luck !

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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #18 on: June 19, 2008, 10:56:03 PM »
HA you guys are my heroes.

All your input has helped SOOOO much.

Its all so good I don't know how to thank all you guys.

As for the Ex guy, he IS the total bad-boy...tats and stuffl. What pisses me off with him is that he treats her like, pardon my french, a douche... she's too love drunk to realize it.... ha my friend and I box and always pretend the punching bag is "shawn"  >:D  maybe one day we'll meet in a dark alley somewhere and I'll give him the marine corps talking I've wanted to give him for a long time.  :x!

So here's what I'm planning on doing: Not go for the bfgf stuff. Just be her friend. be there for her but at a distance. not make any moves. call her every once in a while. invite her to hang out but not really care if she comes or not.

One friend gave me advice to give her space and she'll start to miss me and stuff... thats what I'm going to go for.

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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #19 on: June 19, 2008, 11:03:27 PM »

So here's what I'm planning on doing: Not go for the bfgf stuff. Just be her friend. be there for her but at a distance. not make any moves. call her every once in a while. invite her to hang out but not really care if she comes or not.

One friend gave me advice to give her space and she'll start to miss me and stuff... thats what I'm going to go for.

Awesome bro...just remember (and this one will be tough), have fun this summer and try to meet some girls if that's what you want to do...but here's the tough part...DO NOT feel like you are cheating on her if you meet a nice little hottie you want to get with...

sounds obvious and ya duh, she's not your girlfriend...but that feeling will kick in...DON'T let it bro!!!!

Now go have some fun bro...and quit wasting your time hanging out with a bunch of bald dudes! ;)

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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #20 on: June 19, 2008, 11:09:39 PM »
Dude I'd rather hang with you guys anyday!!!!!  ;)


well depends who else is on the menu if you know what I mean.

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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #21 on: June 19, 2008, 11:29:32 PM »
Tucker-40, you got some great advice from some of the most righteous dudes on the planet. O0 Take it and make it your own and let us know how it goes.

Many of us have been there.
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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #22 on: June 19, 2008, 11:45:26 PM »
WoW!! you guys - I'm totally in awe of y'all, that was some great advice you've given  :)
This is just another reason why I love you all so much, for the camaraderie and
support that goes on in this forum.

You are a totally amazing bunch of fellas and I'm so proud to be able to call you my friends.
I know I'm gushing but just,  again...wow!  :@`  :@`  :@`

tucker... good luck mate.  :)
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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #23 on: June 19, 2008, 11:49:07 PM »
Yeah, we're pretty damn cool.  8)


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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #24 on: June 19, 2008, 11:50:27 PM »
Sounds like you have the right plan Tucker.  We got your back!

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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #25 on: June 19, 2008, 11:59:05 PM »
WoW!! you guys - I'm totally in awe of y'all, that was some great advice you've given  :)
This is just another reason why I love you all so much, for the camaraderie and
support that goes on in this forum.

You are a totally amazing bunch of fellas and I'm so proud to be able to call you my friends.
I know I'm gushing but just,  again...wow!  :@`  :@`  :@`

tucker... good luck mate.  :)


Likewise to you and all the guys..

great people, great group! O0 O0 O0

D@mn...and I'm not even drunk!! ;)

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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #26 on: June 20, 2008, 12:35:02 AM »
Maybe Ill take the love I've given to her and pour it out on all my brothers (and sister) here on SBG

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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #27 on: June 20, 2008, 03:49:34 AM »
friend zone, bro. next time hold off on the flowers and parent smooching and all-expense paid hangouts til after you're already gettin' a piece. otherwise you're setting yourself up for massive disappointment and an empty wallet

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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #28 on: June 20, 2008, 05:20:08 AM »
i say do her best friend and send her pictures. but i may not be the best person to give advice right now.  ha ha ha ha seriously bro, just let it go.


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Re: Guys I Need Major Help With A Girl Issue!!!!
« Reply #29 on: June 20, 2008, 05:58:58 AM »
Good luck whichever way you decide to go.

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