1) I think one of my biggest problems is that in responses to girls, I generally put a disclaimer that I'm going bald and I can't expect them to overcome a lack of physical attraction, because I don't believe anyone should be expected to do that. I figure that the disclaimer would weed out girls with any doubt, because I'm actually looking for a relationship, not casual dating. I'm looking for someone who is sure she likes me for me. Is this disclaimer a bad idea?
2) Have any other guys here dealt with trying to date while balding at such a young age? I'm dying here.
3) (optional) Can anyone, in an unbiased fashion, conclude that going Sly is the only way? It's not really something I want right now.
Hey man. Welcome. Balding at a young age is tough; i know what you've gone through and are going through. First off, i think it will be tough to find a woman until you somewhat comes to terms with yourself. It's not your hair that's holding you back, it's your brain. I think we all know what it's like to have those daily battles in our heads, regardless of what the topic is; it's natural. But we can overcome that.
You will find it SO much easier to find the perfect lady, when you are happy with yourself. I know, easier said than done. Honestly, being part of this site, has helped me a lot. I am a different baldy, than I was the first day i found this forum.
1) Personally, I would not put the disclaimer. It presents you as a depressed dude. I know of ladies that do not prefer the bald look, but have been surprised that they prefer some bald men after getting to know them, mostly based on their confidence. Then, there's ladies that DO like the look, and you don't have to worry about getting to know them
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Anyway, I think the disclaimer takes the focus off of you as a person, and makes you seem like a robot with a balding head.
2) I've been depressed about being bald, but the reality is, no one cares. If they do, its a small speed bump in their life, and they just wasted 5 minutes thinking about it.
3) I won't put the blade to your skull and say SHAVE YOUR DOME. But I will say that you may be happily suprised with how it looks. It might pick you up from the mundane repitition of everday life. It's not about having a bare head. Like many guys have said, it is about taking control of the situation.
PM me, I have a lot of thoughts about balding at a young age. Most may be innacurate theories.. but their still thoughts