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I want to die....... by swede17 on 01 Jan, 2008 04:56
I don't feel like I'm worth anything, sick of going to parties and having people mention my head. Do I just get it over with and die? Or is it possible for a woman to find somebody without a full head of hair attractive? I havent met one. I'm so sick of it all. 21 years old and it's almost gone. I dont even feel like going out anymore,.,m.
#1 by Timmay on 01 Jan, 2008 05:43
Whoa!!!!!!!!!!! dude....post up some more...........where are you from
#2 by Dazed on 01 Jan, 2008 06:06
Well I just found this site and saw your post.

You're going about this all wrong man. Think about it for a second. You want to KILL yourself because you're going bald?Doesn't that sound silly to you? YES it's possible to find a woman. Keep trying!

You said you're 21 and it's almost gone, that's your problem right there. It's almost gone. Shave it all off and you'll feel better about yourself. When you shave your head it's *your* choice. It isn't something taken from you and it doesn't leave you with a half and half look. I think looking bald in the front with hair in the back looks horrible but a nice clean shaved head looks cool. I've had so many people comment on the way I look, it really makes me feel good about myself. It makes you look unique in a group but it doesn't make you seem awkward at all.

If you're really serious about changing your life for the better I'll give you some advice.

What women look for in men isn't their hair.... do you really think that's the most important thing for them in a man? What women want is someone who will care about them. Physically they want someone who screams confidence.

Do you see the problem here?You're talking about killing yourself right now. That isn't being confident. That isn't beaming with power or pride. You can't be like that. If you really want someone to love you, you have to learn to love yourself, and if you can't love yourself you need to change yourself.

The most important things you need to remember are women like men with personality, confidence and a nice body. So what if your head is shaved, you are FUN to be around and you have a nice body. C'mon like you've never thought bald action stars in movies looked cool?

1: Shave your head, quit living in shame. If you hate not having hair then get rid of all of it by your hand and not allow time to take something from you.
2: Start working out, women like men who are in shape BUT even more important than that it gives you the cofidence that you severely need. Everyone likes feeling strong.
3: Keep hanging out with your good friends. The worst thing you can do to yourself right now is become anti-social.

I personally love shaving my head. It's nice and smooth The way taking a shower feels, it's like raindrops, you feel each one. Or your girlfriend running her hands over you. It isn't bad man. You have to accept that you aren't going to have hair and that it isn't going to come back and just live your life.

If you want to talk some time just ask, I'll send you my msn.
#3 by D.A.L.U.I. on 01 Jan, 2008 07:11
Man, Dazed has told you the truth, I can only add that in addition get involved w/ some activities helping others less fortunate that yourself---a whole lot of people. Habitat for Humanity is always looking for helping hands, and when you're working to solve the problems of others, it will put yours in perspective and you really need it. Don't delay, call and leave a message on Habitat's line today, you'll get a call back and be involved. Don't sit alone, there are loads of people who need you to help them. What you will get back will change your life.

#4 by andrew on 01 Jan, 2008 07:23
swede, swede, swede .... Stop, take a deep breathe and slow down. Losing your hair seems traumatic, and it is, but I think you will find that there's an easy solution - shave it off. I think you'll find that women will admire your new sly look. I've been surprised at the kinds of comments I've gotten from women since shaving it clean.

Once it's shaved, no more hair loss to deal with. This is the perfect time to do it - start the new year with a new look. Give it 30 days as a trial period. If you don't like it, you can grow it back again. But, I'm willing to bet you'll stay sly ....
#5 by schro on 01 Jan, 2008 07:25
Read Dazed's post. Well done.
#6 by Paul on 01 Jan, 2008 07:38
Swede there are plenty of women who find sly guys attractive. They are also attracted to the confident, self assuredness that comes from a man who has the courage to stand out and be an individual. Dazed gave you some great advice. Please take it to heart. Take charge of the situation and you can walk down the street boldly and confidently.
#7 by warhawk on 02 Jan, 2008 15:18
swede.....i can't add anything else because "dazed" said it best. please...take his message 2 heart. if u still R still having negative thoughts about killing yourself than u may need some professional help. i hope that u R feeling better and wish u a happy new year. please stay strong and keep us posted.

WARHAWK
#8 by David on 02 Jan, 2008 15:58
I agree, listen and take to heart what dazed said. And please seek professional help if you are really considering ending your life, nobody should ever feel that way.

We are here for you if you need to talk out your issues.
#9 by PigPen on 02 Jan, 2008 16:04
Everyone else has said it quite well. Just shave it.
#10 by Marz on 02 Jan, 2008 17:19
Dude... seriously... if you are judging your existence on the lack of attention fickle young women give you, you are missing out on a whole lot of life and setting yourself up for disappointment. You know how many marketing armies are out there that fail at judging the fickle nature of women?

Life is for livers buddy and allowing others to tell you how high or low you rank in this life is bad for the back as you will get walked on... repeatedly... untill you spine up and admire yourself for who you are and tell the world where you rank (the top, of course).

Chances are, its not your hair (or lack thereof) thats salting your game... throwing your hands up in dispair is a sign of weakness and women can smell weak a mile away.

Try doing something to make yourself feel good about yourself and forget about impressing women (or anyone else for that matter). Get comfortable in your own skin, learn to love yourself and you will be amazed at how people will love you for it.
#11 by BALDANDRE on 02 Jan, 2008 18:02
If this is a serious post I feel for ya bro...

but you should read up on this place BIG time...stop everything you're doing this second and READ ALL the post from not us old bald by choice guys but the younger MPB and BBC dudes..

especially ChicoD's and ***sticks*** (read ALL their threads)...

those young dudes were hating life and the dating scene...they shaved their heads slick bald...then BAM!... new life and new better dating than ever...

bro there ARE women and girls that love a smooth head...but most do not like "balding, unconfident" men...

so shave bro!

We all speak the truth here..

Good luck !

#12 by Dimiakira on 03 Jan, 2008 07:18
Hi Swede,

Brother i know exactly how you feel. i started balding when i was 19 im 23 now and the thinning was really noticable. i hated myself and wondered what did i do to deserve this.

(see my other post on this thread to see what reactions i got and for a before and after pic)

being near you age i guess i can relate a little more. although its life changing at any age.

When i first did it i was like what the hell have i done and waiting to see friends, family and co workers was a cringing experience. some people said they didn't like it at first but i gave it a shot. After only 2 weeks i started to really like it and then the compliments kept on coming. From always looking constently in the mirror to disguise my bald spots to looking in the mirror constantly saying who is this Sexy SOB. Confidence went sky up and i started to feel like the old me. I take that back i started to feel like a new me who was in control for the first time in my life.

people at work gave me more respect. Girls that gave me no play before were all of a sudden calling me to come out with them and a lot of co workers thought i was a good match for their friends.

I have been dateless for 3 years because of my low self esteem but i have had 2 dates this new year(in like 4days lol) and never felt better. Even if i dont get another date all year i have made up for 3 years in 4 days (lol)

Even if girls don't like the new look they would surely be attracted to your self confidence which in return would give you more play which in return give you more confidence which would give you even more play. And so on and so on.

Girls are not as picky with looks then guys. If a girl wants someone good looking in their lives tell them to date another woman. Shave the noggin and show her you are not a boy but a confident man and if she wants someone which will have hair all their lives tell them to find a lady to spend their lives with. Be a confident SOB and they will keep coming.

If your worried just do a #1 or #0 give your noggin a bit of a tan.

Give it a shot and give the finger to mother nature.

See how you go
#13 by SlickEric on 03 Jan, 2008 10:46
Quote from: Marz on 02 Jan, 2008 17:19
Life is for livers buddy and allowing others to tell you how high or low you rank in this life is bad for the back as you will get walked on... repeatedly... untill you spine up and admire yourself for who you are and tell the world where you rank (the top, of course).
Chances are, its not your hair (or lack thereof) thats salting your game... throwing your hands up in dispair is a sign of weakness and women can smell weak a mile away.
Try doing something to make yourself feel good about yourself and forget about impressing women (or anyone else for that matter). Get comfortable in your own skin, learn to love yourself and you will be amazed at how people will love you for it.

Marz, you're wise, far beyond your years.
You "speak the truth" in every one of your posts.
I hope the new guy Swede, appreciates what you've told him.
Life's far too short to let something like your hair hold you back from living a full and rich life. Show some "ganas", little dude!
#14 by Alexander215 on 03 Jan, 2008 11:55
Dude, I have been there personally. With it shaved, it just won't matter.