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on a scale of 1-10, how much does going bald change one's lifestyle?
by
theboss
on 04 Dec, 2007 02:43
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i am going bald and am curious as to how much it will ultimately change my lifestyle, i.e. having to be more aware of what to wear outside, having to go the extra step to prevent sunburns, getting ahead at your job, achieving success in romance, etc.
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#1
by
PBurke
on 04 Dec, 2007 04:53
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good question boss. not sure how much my lifestyle changed. i am still the outgoing smart-azz fun loving guy that i was before. but now i don't have to worry if someone notices that my hairline is receding. or if my hair is screwed up. just a quick feel and then i smile (or smirk usually) like i know something that others don't (cause i do) and then carry on. shaving made me more confident, ok ok arrogant, but not really changed my lifestyle. women like it. not all but more than i would have imagined. i think the confidence has a big part of that though.
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#2
by
champ007
on 04 Dec, 2007 06:31
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Hey Boss, I posted about the sunscreen thing in another one of your topics. I have to say the my lifestyle changed slightly for the better, look at my before and after and you will understand. The upkeep is actually less than when I had hair, because I don't shampoo and blow dry anymore, I shave in the shower and throw the moisturizer on and I"m out the door. At my office I have been told I seem more professional in appearance, which kinda stumped me. And the romance department, lets just say its been a great year so far. A friend of mine has been talking to me about shaving simply because he has seen the reaction I get when we are at a club, although personality also plays a big part. As my friends tell me, I just don't give a sh*t anymore on how people persive me because I know I look the best I have looked in years!!
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#3
by
froze
on 04 Dec, 2007 10:51
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No change in lifestyle! Little better attitude maybe!
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#4
by
Tyler
on 04 Dec, 2007 11:31
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Boss, it's really going to depend on your attitude about it. If you go it with the attitude that you rock the look, then you're lifestyle is going to be much better than it was before. Though, if you go in with the attitude that you're a "victim" of bad genes, then you're lifestyle is going to degrade. It's really up to you bro.
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#5
by
schro
on 04 Dec, 2007 11:52
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good question boss. not sure how much my lifestyle changed. i am still the outgoing smart-azz fun loving guy that i was before. but now i don't have to worry if someone notices that my hairline is receding. or if my hair is screwed up. just a quick feel and then i smile (or smirk usually) like i know something that others don't (cause i do) and then carry on. shaving made me more confident, ok ok arrogant, but not really changed my lifestyle. women like it. not all but more than i would have imagined. i think the confidence has a big part of that though.
Yeah, what Paulie said.
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#6
by
D.A.L.U.I.
on 04 Dec, 2007 12:49
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Boss, it's really going to depend on your attitude about it. If you go it with the attitude that you rock the look, then you're lifestyle is going to be much better than it was before. Though, if you go in with the attitude that you're a "victim" of bad genes, then you're lifestyle is going to degrade. It's really up to you bro.
Tyler, you got that one nailed. Going at Sly is going to own it, not to avoid MPB--avoiding the MPB look that's just an unavoidable accessory. You're controlling your appearance, you've made the choice, you control the process--and inevitably it's going to look good. A scale of 1-10 implies the existence of negative numbers and there's nothing negative about going forward w/ the blade--it's a positive act both physically and mentally. I can't think of any person I've ever seen in the MPB process w/ thinning hair that looks like he's in control.
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#7
by
yep_yep
on 04 Dec, 2007 13:39
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Boss, it's really going to depend on your attitude about it. If you go it with the attitude that you rock the look, then you're lifestyle is going to be much better than it was before. Though, if you go in with the attitude that you're a "victim" of bad genes, then you're lifestyle is going to degrade. It's really up to you bro.
It's not that simple. You guys often tend to forget that the shaved look really really does not suit everyone.
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#8
by
D.A.L.U.I.
on 04 Dec, 2007 13:43
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yep_yep--Do you have a picture of the guy it didn't look better on? "Better" being a comparitive word, I'm sure some ugly guy is still ugly, just much less so Sly. If you have a before and after of someone it didn't improve, I'm sure the guys would love to look at it, particularly MPB.
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#9
by
schro
on 04 Dec, 2007 13:51
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Boss, it's really going to depend on your attitude about it. If you go it with the attitude that you rock the look, then you're lifestyle is going to be much better than it was before. Though, if you go in with the attitude that you're a "victim" of bad genes, then you're lifestyle is going to degrade. It's really up to you bro.
It's not that simple. You guys often tend to forget that the shaved look really really does not suit everyone.
I think you're missing the point, Y-Y. The whole idea is how
you feel about
yourself. If you approach your hair loss with a "woah is me" attitude, then it really doesn't matter if you go sly or not. Although I was comfortable with my hair loss (though not happy about it), the fact that I shaved my head made me feel better about myself. Plus, I finally found relief from the scalp condition that had afflicted me for years.
Lastly, how you are percieved by others is directly related to how you percieve yourself. I'll never forget a guy I knew in college. He was not wealthy, average looking at best, fairly short, and slightly overweight. But, he had one of the hottest, nicest girls as a girlfriend. His secret.....he was a lot of fun to be around! Not a jokester (though he had a great sense of humor), but just a genuinely good guy. Treated everyone with respect.
How you see yourself is how others view you.
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#10
by
Tyler
on 04 Dec, 2007 14:06
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I think you're missing the point, Y-Y. The whole idea is how you feel about yourself. If you approach your hair loss with a "woah is me" attitude, then it really doesn't matter if you go sly or not. Although I was comfortable with my hair loss (though not happy about it), the fact that I shaved my head made me feel better about myself. Plus, I finally found relief from the scalp condition that had afflicted me for years.
Lastly, how you are percieved by others is directly related to how you percieve yourself. I'll never forget a guy I knew in college. He was not wealthy, average looking at best, fairly short, and slightly overweight. But, he had one of the hottest, nicest girls as a girlfriend. His secret.....he was a lot of fun to be around! Not a jokester (though he had a great sense of humor), but just a genuinely good guy. Treated everyone with respect.
How you see yourself is how others view you.
yep yep, you're right it's not about head shaving. It's about attitude. I've seen guys with the "horseshoe" that have more confidence that me and three others combined. They are very successful, have beautiful wives, and a great life. It's all about your attitude, not your length of hair. The thing is, when a guy shaves his head, it's often that one thing that can help boost his confidence and give him a great attitude. Before you judge it, I really think you should try going completely bald. Not clippers, shave the whole thing.
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#11
by
Razor X
on 04 Dec, 2007 19:11
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The following comments are not directed at anyone in particular -- just general comments for those who are upset about hair loss:
If you're unhappy about your life, don't use your hair or lack thereof as an excuse. If your hair was the only thing you had going for you, that alone is not sufficient to be successful. If your life as a bald man sucks, chances are your life with hair would be no better. We don't always get what we want in this life, but you have to take what you've got and make the most of it. Maybe some guys would look better with hair. So what? I would probably look better if I were taller, thinner and had skin that had the ability to tan. Getting thinner is something I'm working on. Taller and tanner are never going to happen for me. Should I withdraw from the world, become a recluse and curl up in a corner somewhere in a fetal position because of it?
Looks do matter in this world, but if only people with perfect hair, skin, teeth, height, weight, etc. were the ones to be happy and successful, that would leave 99.9% of the population out in the cold. I fully understand the trauma of hair loss, especially at a young age. I was 20 when I first noticed mine was starting to go. But self-pity never solved anything. Be thankful you are living in a day and age where it's perfectly acceptable and mainstream to shave your head and most people will think that it looks great. That wasn't an option for previous generations. I can't imagine how much harder it was for guys who were in this situation 30 years ago. Count your blessings, live your life, and don't obsess over things that you can't control.
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#12
by
SLYinKC
on 04 Dec, 2007 20:05
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Those were some powerful words, Razor. Amen, Brother, Amen!!!
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#13
by
nomad
on 04 Dec, 2007 20:59
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The following comments are not directed at anyone in particular -- just general comments for those who are upset about hair loss:
If you're unhappy about your life, don't use your hair or lack thereof as an excuse. If your hair was the only thing you had going for you, that alone is not sufficient to be successful. If your life as a bald man sucks, chances are your life with hair would be no better. We don't always get what we want in this life, but you have to take what you've got and make the most of it. Maybe some guys would look better with hair. So what? I would probably look better if I were taller, thinner and had skin that had the ability to tan. Getting thinner is something I'm working on. Taller and tanner are never going to happen for me. Should I withdraw from the world, become a recluse and curl up in a corner somewhere in a fetal position because of it?
Looks do matter in this world, but if only people with perfect hair, skin, teeth, height, weight, etc. were the ones to be happy and successful, that would leave 99.9% of the population out in the cold. I fully understand the trauma of hair loss, especially at a young age. I was 20 when I first noticed mine was starting to go. But self-pity never solved anything. Be thankful you are living in a day and age where it's perfectly acceptable and mainstream to shave your head and most people will think that it looks great. That wasn't an option for previous generations. I can't imagine how much harder it was for guys who were in this situation 30 years ago. Count your blessings, live your life, and don't obsess over things that you can't control.
Amen brother!
I too have down falls that would cripple alot of others and at times in my llife I struggled to deal with them, gowing up the fat kid with gynocomastia(bitch tits) was a real cofidense killer, but I finally came to the conclusion that I am who I am and thats not gonna change and I need to be happy with me then the rest just comes naturally. I don't care what others think about me any more, I'm very happy with me and thats all that matters. Shaving my head was just the icing on the cake. I think that because of my attitude of myself others will come around to who I am and what I'm all about. I'll tell ya it works Be cause in my travels I never have an issue with making freinds and or attracting the Ladys
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#14
by
warhawk
on 04 Dec, 2007 21:23
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