when i was a kid, we had to TRY OUT for sports. no guarantee to make the team. then there was no rule saying you HAD to play. i have seen it with my son's sports. little johnny sits his lazy asss on the couch and his mommy babies him. he has no athletic ability and no desire to do anything other than eat twinkies and play video games. but his dad, who had big dreams of being a sports star, and can't let them go, forces him to join the team. all the PC POLICE force coaches and organizations to put him on the team. his unwillingness to try and compete takes time away from the kids who really love being out there. i have also seen the kids who have no athletic ability but have hearts the size of texas. no matter where you ask these kids to play, or if you ask them to sit out, they are just happy to be there. i'll take the latter group all day long.  i will never force my kids to participate in any certain sport. but i do insist that they find something they like and take part in it. if the kid enjoys it, he/she will be better at it. my oldest son is pretty good on the baseball field. my youngest hates baseball. will i ask the little one to play ball? no, he hates it. but he does enjoy science. so we spend alot of time digging for creatures or watching animals. whatever interests him at the time. my point is that if a kid doesn't want to play sports and is really not any good at it, why make him/her miserable by forcing them on a team. why hurt the kids who want to be there by taking away from their experience because we don't want to hurt little johnny's feelings. you know what, get yer lazy assess up and find out what your kids are into and dive into it with them. hell you may have some fun along the way too.