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Shaving dilemma
by
reddog
on 15 Dec, 2016 20:10
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I recently started dating a gal I really like. Met her on a singles site, and she seems great.
The problem is I am having 2 eye surgeries this month, so decided to give shaving a break. All my photos on the singles site are of me with a shaved head, but our first meeting I had a couple weeks growth. I had a feeling that was a mistake. So this week I mentioned I needed a haircut, and of course she said she likes me with hair.
So, I don't want to screw things up with her, but my dermatitis is acting up, and I miss being sly. Guess I should just man up and shave it and hope for the best. Any ideas guys?
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#1
by
Magoo
on 15 Dec, 2016 20:30
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Red dog , you old rascal , and I thought you were one of us old married type. Any way if it was me , I would go with the same haircut you had on the last date. You can always shave in the future after you get better acquainted.
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#2
by
ThePangolin
on 16 Dec, 2016 06:33
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If she's right for you, she won't stop seeing you because you saved off a few days worth of hair growth.... If anything, she will most likely prefer and learn to love the smooth head.
I dont know what to suggest since I've never dated, (fiddle) but I do think its important to be you and if someone doesn't like how you do "you" then they probably arent worth getting with, right?
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#3
by
dshupe
on 16 Dec, 2016 07:36
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I agree, if she's right for you, she will continue seeing you. BUT, you did say all your pictures on the site showed you with a shaved head so really it won't be a huge surprise. I would just talk to her and when she realizes the reason for you not being able to shave I would think she would understand and think nothing of it.
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#4
by
mrzed
on 16 Dec, 2016 14:57
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And you have a good reason to shave your head. Dermatitis.
You do sport a bald head very well. Yep.
I thought it was only the young guys who worried about no hair and a girl.
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#5
by
nuts
on 16 Dec, 2016 17:02
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If she saw you on the singles site and liked what she saw then she should accept you with a shaved head. Just explain about the surgery and dermatis and I am sure all will be OK.
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#6
by
reddog
on 16 Dec, 2016 19:37
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Thanks everyone for the input, all good points.
I spent the day with her, and very briefly talked about it. She mentioned that I looked ok with my head shaved, but that my grey hair really rocks. It's at a short flattop now. I'm sure she would continue to date me if I shave, but much more attracted to me now. Guess I'll decide after the second surgery this week.
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#7
by
slybeard
on 17 Dec, 2016 10:05
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Let her know (I'm sure you already have) that the only reason you let it grow was because of the surgeries. But also tell her that you do from time to time let your super sharp flat top grow out. So she will never now what to expect when she sees you, and if she doesn't like the shave head when she sees it in person, she can look forward to the flat top coming back as some point. I suspect like most ladies, she doesn't like to see change in her guy, and since she has only seen you in person with hair, that is what is in her mind.
My other bit of caution is that this early in the relationship, she is already trying to control you. Be careful. Could be a sign of future issues.
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#8
by
ThePangolin
on 19 Dec, 2016 06:45
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+1 to the control aspect.
May not be the case but it sounds possible? Testing to see if you're needy enough or desperate enough to do whatever it takes to keep her around. If thats how she's playing right now, id hate to see what yours "dilemma" posts will be like a year or two from now.
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#9
by
Semi-Sly
on 19 Dec, 2016 10:43
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I agree.
Women like to "control" even more than most men do!
You need to be honest and let her know that your hairstyle is always changing and that this is not subject to "negotiation".
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#10
by
reddog
on 19 Dec, 2016 12:29
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You guys really have me thinking now. I spent 7 hours with her Friday, and got to know her better. Seems to be la little demanding and forward, but also has some good qualities.
At this point, I think t is better for her to see me with my usual shaved head. It will also let her know I won't be controlled. She will probably love it smooth!
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#11
by
Magoo
on 19 Dec, 2016 15:01
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Women have no respect for a man who shows no moxie, but it's a thin line us men have to ride to get along. Good luck Reddog.
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#12
by
buddha
on 20 Dec, 2016 08:49
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You guys really have me thinking now. I spent 7 hours with her Friday, and got to know her better. Seems to be la little demanding and forward, but also has some good qualities.
At this point, I think t is better for her to see me with my usual shaved head. It will also let her know I won't be controlled. She will probably love it smooth!
This girl has some good advice. Especially girl #2.
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#13
by
Magoo
on 20 Dec, 2016 13:57
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Excellent advice .
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#14
by
reddog
on 20 Dec, 2016 14:03
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Agreed, good advice.