Us guys are taught that we're not supposed to care about our looks, that we're not supposed to be "vain." But at the same time, our culture worships youth and celebrity good looks. In fact, the male celebrities of today are not even supposed to look overtly masculine except for some rare exceptions like George Clooney.

So we end up suffering in silence and wondering whether we look like we're going bald, or whether we really need washboard abs, or whether we're silly for wondering all this.

A brotherhood like Sly Bald Guys is part of the solution because it's an accepting place where guys like us can come to ask questions of other men that we can't ask our fathers or our brothers or our friends.

As I mentioned elsewhere, brother, while your hairline is clearly receding, you don't look like you're "balding" yet. So you don't need to start picturing yourself looking like Larry David, for god's sake! You do look like you're maturing, and there's nothing wrong with that. You still have a decent head of hair. Your worrying is what will make it a bad situation for you.

Take care of your health, stay fit, and learn to like the guy in the mirror. That will carry over and any romantic targets will pick up on that more than anything. Women are much less judgmental about appearance than men are (not all, but generally speaking).

Take care of yourself and be as kind to yourself as you would be to a friend who was asking you for advice. Why would you be less kind to yourself than you would be to a friend?

That's dignity.