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Finding it hard to accept by Kimak on 12 Nov, 2015 09:29
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Hey what's up guys?
So, I've reading this forum for a while, and I really like this community. I've decided to post my story because,as you can expect, my hairline as been receiding and I've been buzzing my hair for a year, varying between grade 0, 1 and 2.
The problem is, I'm one of those guys that being bald just doesn't fit, I know you've already heard a lot about it, but i really struggle with the shape of my head because it really sticks out at the back and it makes me feel really selfconscious about it.
My family always tells me to let my hair grow but i don't like my receiding hairline and some friends have already pointed out that i do have a big curve at the back.
I'm finding it really difficult and it is really messing with my self-esteem.
Gonna post a few pics to see what you guys honestly think.
And thanks for your time)
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#1 by jbrit25 on 12 Nov, 2015 09:51
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It doesn't look bad. Like if I saw you walking down the street I wouldn't turn to my friends and say, " the back of that dude's head is huge". It just looks like a head. I'm really self conscious about my big ears, but I have yet to have anyone tell me that my ears look gigantic since I shaved my head. As far as the family, for some reason family can be the biggest jerks when it comes to headshaving. I guess its because they have known us for such a large portion of our lives with hair and its hard for them to get used to. If you like it keep doing it and they will come around.
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#2 by john.peachie on 12 Nov, 2015 09:57
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Welcome Kimak,
With your hair as short as it is, you could take it completely off, and have it back to it's current length within 2 weeks probably less if you don't like it, I think it would be a good look, there is nothing about the shape of your head (or your ears Coys) that makes me want to point and say "look at that!" I say give it a try! Good luck!!
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#3 by Razor X on 12 Nov, 2015 10:19
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I would not have even noticed if you hadn't pointed it out. We all have things about our appearances that we find hard to accept. But eventually you come to the realization that you have to accept it -- because what's the alternative? Getting upset about it on a daily basis will only make you miserable and won't change a thing. It's beyond your control - just let it go. Easier said than done, I know, but try not to waste energy on things you can't change.
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#4 by Cave Dweller on 12 Nov, 2015 11:15
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Irony. I really would like to have a skull with that kind of curve. Mine is flat at the back. I almost did not start shaving because I felt so self conscious about it.
As Razor stated, we all have something about ourselves that we don't like, but almost no one else even notices. I don't think you have anything to worry about.
Welcome to the board.
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#5 by MunkyMunk on 12 Nov, 2015 11:22
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Kimak, welcome to the board!
I think we could play this game with each of our heads. One of us has a pointy head when viewed from the front, another has a flat head, one guy has bumps here and there, while another has an indentation. We each can be especially hard on ourselves, of course.
The fact is that each feature of the human body comes in an almost infinite variety of shapes, colors, and textures. And the overwhelming majority of those manifestations of diversity fall well within "normal." Your head is no different. It's different from mine. I've got things I'd change about my own head, given the chance, but we both have "normal" heads that won't cause anyone to stare or point in the street.
You look good bald, and you'll just have to make peace with that.
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#6 by Kimak on 12 Nov, 2015 12:33
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First of all, thanks for all of you who have spent a little time to answer my topic
I know we all have our unique features and it's not that i make the outside part the nr.1 aspect of my life, and i know all bald guys struggle with the head shape issue and as I see, most of them don't have nothing to worry about.
The thing is I do know that mine is not the most usual shape and the fact that some people make remarks on that proves that is not only on my point of view and I just wish I didn't have such a weird head shape, which makes me feel so depressed. I really don't know whats the best option for me. -
#7 by Semi-Sly on 12 Nov, 2015 12:52
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But the point is that you can't change the shape of your head with resorting to major reconstructive surgery! If you shave your head its shape is not going to be any more or less noticeable than it is now. The ONLY thing that will be less noticeable is your hair loss/receding hairline!
You cannot "THINK your way into a new way of living". You have to "LIVE yourself into a new way of thinking"!
There is a reason that so many people around the world pray this prayer every morning:
"God, grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change; the COURAGE to change the things I can; and the WISDOM to know the difference."
I suggest you start living yourself into a new way of thinking using the second phrase in that prayer. -
#8 by Sir Harry on 12 Nov, 2015 14:02
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Welcome!
The beard coverage looks great, and if I were to walk up to you, all I would see is a guy with a short haircut and distinguished looking glasses. Just stick around the forum, we're here to help! -
#9 by dart24 on 12 Nov, 2015 14:50
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It remind's me of my head,i dont think you'r head shape is weird i really dont see anything wrong with it.
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#10 by oakdan5 on 12 Nov, 2015 16:57
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I think you look great with a shaved head. You don't even look like you are losing hair, it looks like your style to be honest. The thing it comes down to is that we are our own worst critics. I r shaved my head a couple times times and I did not like it, but I still had lots of girls find me attractive. Even had one ask me if I considered male modeling (I'm 5 ft 7 it made no sense.) also had a girl come up to me in a night club and start making out with me. I still didn't like it. I'm in shape which helps a lot. Keep your head up, you will get use to it, it looks good.
The worst critics are family as they know you with hair and just ppl, girls that knew you before with hair. Strangers and new people do not care and you may find that a lot actually really like it. -
#11 by tobler1 on 12 Nov, 2015 18:47
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I think the short buzz looks very good. Don't see anything that would cause me to think your head is weird looking. The beard is great, too.
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#12 by AJ Q-Ball on 12 Nov, 2015 21:29
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I echo the others. I see nothing wrong and it looks good.
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#13 by bennett11 on 13 Nov, 2015 05:48
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you really look good with short buzz. keep it - at some you will probably shave it.
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#14 by MunkyMunk on 13 Nov, 2015 10:00
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I hear you, Kimak, and I feel you. I'm the shortest adult male I know. Nobody teases me about it because we all know that I'm short and we all know that it sucks to be a short man. But people will feel confident teasing you about the shape of your head because it's probably not a big deal to them.
So what do I do about being so F&#@ing short? I just deal; that's all I can do.
God gave me what is, I think, a pretty good head shape. I'd take your head shape in a heartbeat if it meant that I could be three inches taller.
I've got some blessings and I'm lacking in other areas, like height.
I won't lie - sometimes it bums me out. But I'm not going to hide or stop doing the things I enjoy doing because of it.
If you like having a bald head, rock that bald head, man. You're taller and way better looking than I am. Don't get hung up on one physical trait that you'd change.