To be good looking means to be ......

• To be good looking means to be ...... by cool_guy on 18 Aug, 2007 14:28
• What does it mean to be good-looking?  Do good looking people have something that others don’t have?  What is it that distinguishes good looks from other not so good ones?
  Maybe you’ve heard of the answers and maybe not.  It’s one of the things you learn in a course in social psychology in university.  So, I am not going to pretend I’m smart; it’s just something I learned in a psychology course. (my major is economics)
  
  If you have ever watched an Indian movie about a love story, you would realize that many times the guy, who’s supposedly in love, has mustache.  He is young, perhaps in his late 20’s, and has a mustache; but yet he’s considered ‘hot’ or good looking.  If you thing about it, here in North America, as far as I know, mustache on young men isn’t considered a good thing right?  In most places at least, I believe, that’s the case.
  My ancestors are from the Middle East (I live in Canada now), and to them a mustache was a good thing in the past.  Of course things have changed after 1990, but you know the typical good looking guy would have a mustache.  Once again, look at Denzel Washington or Brad Pitt, they don’t have a mustache. 
  Hence, we see that each culture has its own perception of good looks.  This reminds us of “beauty lies in the eye of the beholder”. 
  
  To be good looking, according to psychologists, simply means to be average.  That’s right, people who are perceived as good-looking are average in looks.  This is to say, a good looking guy, for example, will have an average nose (not too long & not too short), his ears will be of average size & shape, his eyes will be what you would consider average eyes.  If you were to look at a hot girl’s eyes they would not have anything that special.  They would just be average eyes for a woman.  Yet, they would look so pretty! 
  I think I have said a lot. So, let me stop here.
  I hope I haven’t offended anyone.
  
• #1 by frostillicus123 on 18 Aug, 2007 16:26
• That's pretty interesting.
  where abouts in canada are you?
  
  I'm in NS
• #2 by Tyler on 19 Aug, 2007 01:20
• I learned in Psychology something very similar, but instead of average, they described the person as proportional.  The more proportional your left side of your face was to your right side, the "better" looking you were.  In case you didn't know, most peoples faces are not proportional, meaning that your left side is not a mirror image of the right side.
  
  Though, don't confuse being good looking with being attractive.  I believe real attractiveness has to do with confidence more so than looks.  Though, looks often open the door for someone to attract another person with their confidence.
• #3 by shyslyguy on 19 Aug, 2007 02:48
• Quote from: Tyler on 19 Aug, 2007 01:20

  
  Though, don't confuse being good looking with being attractive.  I believe real attractiveness has to do with confidence more so than looks.  Though, looks often open the door for someone to attract another person with their confidence.
  
  

  
  Well put Tyler,
  
  I think that's pretty spot on. 
• #4 by shakf on 25 Sep, 2007 04:51
• They say that symmetry is what makes a person attractive. Mel Gibson is quite often mentioned when it comes to facial symmetry.
• #5 by JDog on 25 Sep, 2007 06:23
• I do agree. Physical looks play a part in being attractive but I belive that the largest card is how you present and carry yourself and how confident you are.
  
  To be frank, I've seen some real butt ugly dudes with some very gorgeous looking girls and vice versa.
  
  
  Your physical appearance is not the only thing that makes you attractive to the opposite sex(or the same sex in some cases)
  
  
• #6 by Robmeister on 25 Sep, 2007 08:08
• To look yer best is worthy of a reasonable amount of effort.
  
  To be overly concerned with or to try to be "good looking" is vanity.
• #7 by Timmay on 25 Sep, 2007 08:22
• Good looking or attractive?  I think this is all over rated.  Some one who spends alot of time makign their selves look good, alot of times, they are wasting their time.  Just like Rob said...most of it is vanity.  You can put on your best clothes, have the best lookign skin, and to some guys..have the best lookign hair and all of that stuff, but what really matters is whats inside.  You can have the full head of hair or be bald.  Clean shaven or the full facial hair, off brand clothing or name brand.  You can spend all the time you want making sure you have the best of everything and look the best you can at all times, but if what is on the inside isnt good ....then that will emit from you eventually.  This goes for men and women both.  You see this really hot looking girl walking down the street and your eyes pop out, but in all reality she may be a whore or what ever...and taht would turn a guy away real quick..so how pretty is she now?  Same for a guy...you can see this guy who is buff, works out all the time and just you know..the STUD.  But if he is arrogant, loud, centered on himself, thinks the world revolves around him...I wouldnt want anythig to do with him.  Lets face it..most of us choose our friends on their appearance. When I was in high school ( which is a very good example of it all) You wanted to hang around the hippest crowd, those that looked good.  Well now that I am out of school for about 20 years now, I have found the ones who werent in the "IN" crowd ...are really a true friend.  As you grow wiser you will see that .  I tend to be drawn to people who have good personalities, not their looks.  I dont consider myself as being good looking or anything....and I am sure there are a few of you thinkign right now ..No youre nto good looking ...your as ugly as a dogs hind in...but you know what..its my personality.  To some I maybe a total knock out ..i dunno.  All I know is my wife loves me and you always hear of these things ..why do i need to look good, I have my spouse now.   So it doesnt matter what is on the outside..its whats on the inside. I know I have prolly just rambled on about a whole lot of nothing here...and I may or may not have gotten my point across...but I think if you sorta read between the lines..you will figure it out.  Hope I havent offended anyone...
• #8 by jusbnme on 25 Sep, 2007 22:25
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  You see this really hot looking girl walking down the street and your eyes pop out, but in all reality she may be a whore or what ever...and that would turn a guy away real quick...
  

  
  Hey bro, let's not jump to conclusions now.  How much is she charging? 
  
  Sorry, I didn't mean to screw up the moral values of this thread.  I just couldn't resist. 
• #9 by Timmay on 25 Sep, 2007 22:50
• yes leave it to you my friend.  at least you didnt have a a a a a a a a studderin problem there..lol